2006-07-29 13:38:46 · 14 answers · asked by John c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have been with this woman for 6 years instead of breaking up with her maybe you should do one of two things.
The first being take a break from one another and give each other some space. But still stay monogamous during the break otherwise it will just cause problems when/if you get back together.
Take a break from being together and see how much you would miss her and if you still love her.
The other thing would be to go to some kind of counseling to find out why you feel like yall should split up. Talk to a minister or counselor.
I wouldn't throw away 6 yrs without first seeing if the relationship can be salvaged.
2006-07-29 13:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, is this really the decision you want to make? If you've been with her that long, you must have a deep bond. If you don't, one of you was just using the other. If that's the case, breaking up would be the best.
If breaking up with her is what you REALLY want, just tell her so. If she has any respect for you, she'll let go. If she really loves you, she must know that sometimes being in love means that you have to let someone go.
If that is not the case, and she just feels like being clingy, threaten her with a restraining order if it gets really bad. Find another woman and start dating her.
Your best bet is just to tell her you don't think it's working out for the two of you anymore.
2006-07-29 20:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kayari of Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a woman? You didn't explain the reasons why you want to break up with her, second of all depending on that, you should really take inventory, are you breaking up with her because she is too nice to you, you fell out of love, perhaps because she is not exciting, or doesn't have what it takes, but you should've realized that much sooner , many times people stay together out of convinience, just for having someone and not feeling lonely, if she won't let go, explain you need to do something else with your life and you are going in different directions, that there is something else better for her, or to try online dating.
2006-07-29 20:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no choice. If the relationship is over you tell her (as tactfully and gently as possible) and you move on. If you have to stop taking her calls, block her emails, etc then do so if she won't stop contacting you...
If you lived together, then move out or give her a deadline to be out...
You may have to get a little mean, if "nice" doesn't work with her...some people will nearly force you to be ugly to them, but it makes it easier for them later because they can look back at how "mean" you were when you broke up with them...
Do what you've got to do...it's your life...
2006-07-29 20:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you, be as honest as you can but without hurting her. Put yourself in her place, nobody likes to be rejected, right? if you're soft but firm, and always saying you will continue being her best friend, the rupture wont be so brutal for her. I'm telling you this because once I had a brutal rupture and I was depressed for 6 months crying, don't wanting to get out of bed. so please be soft and gentle OK
2006-07-29 20:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mayra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give her the ultimate duck,duck her all the way.don't answer phone calls or anything.give her anything tback that can tie you to her.don't keep anything cut all ties like friends you made threw her and everything.change your number move even.whaterver you do don't sleep with her,please don't sleep with her she will never leave you alone and always tell her the truth about how you feel.
2006-07-29 20:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by codeblue1914 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just act like a man and tell her you want out? Don't string her along and waste her time, tell her.
This way she can get over you and find someone who wants to be with her.
2006-07-29 20:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to clearly state the relationship is over and you need to completely and totally avoid each other. If she is holding on, you are letting her.
2006-07-29 20:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you must be very good or god.I really think get off of the medssssssssssss/
2006-07-29 21:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Y ME I DONT NO. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa i would hate to be you.. why do you want to break up with her in the first place. maybe you should think about your decision a little more
2006-07-29 20:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋