Should I stay in this unhealthy relationship I am pregnant .?

Question

am with someone whose child is 13 and out of hand. He Recently moved in with us and will not behave. He lies, steals, fails school, hits my children, and has no respect for anyone. I have tried to talk to his dad about therapy and discipline and he just take the defense. I have tried to make him feel like on of the family but it is getting hard when i have no say so about what he does. I tell him he cant do something and his father says ok. I treat him like my own including I love you's but Im getting to the point I cant do it anymore and I do not want my kids thinking that his behavior is ok and following his foot steps. I feel Im being more unfair to my kids who get punished for doing bad things when the step son gets off scott free. I have to hide the fact my kids are going out with friends and relatives because the people who invite them cant handle the other. I dont tell him because I dont want to hurt his feelings but why should I not let my kids go because of him

Answer 1

Get out. Get out now.
My boss is going through this and her children are suffering needlessly. You are not responsible for that child above your own.
This situation will not resolve unless "daddy dearest" wises up and takes some responsibility. He won't, because he has you to smooth the way for him and the boy. If you get out of the situation, he will have to take care of the boy himself and maybe realize that he is unhealthy.
My boss has been super nice to her step daughter since the girl was 8. So for almost 20 years, my boss has been hostage to this raging brat that lies about her, steals from her and her kids, sexually assaulted one of her step sisters (not one of my boss's kids, but you never know), and calls my boss terrible names.
No one needs to live like that. Especially your innocent children. Think about the baby's safety. There is no guarantee that he will not hurt it. It happens everyday.
Leave. SOON


EDIT:
There is no law that says you can't go back. Try an ultimatum: Therapy for a year and then DISCUSS reconciliation. But only go back IF they go to therapy AND things are better.
Good Luck

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It would be a good idea to talk to the dad seriously about how his child is heading in the wrong direction at such a young age and it's time for intervention, maybe a counseling or treatment program for the issues causing so much discipline problems. The future of this child, yours and the dad's relationship is on the line here but the main concern should be the children's safety; including the precious one growing inside you. Be strong, it has to get better.

Answer 4

You need to have a meeting with your man. Girl, its too late to talk about leaving because you are already pregnant. You already have other kids, too. So, you gotta work this out the best way you know how..Have a meeting with your boyfriend/fiance, and tell him that he has to support you in the disciplining of your step-son..If he doesnt listen, then I dont know what to tell you--You have a baby on the way. Are you getting married? Girl, thats why its imporant not to jump into relationships and start having sex until you know everything about the person. But, I guess its too late for that speech now. Good luck

Answer 5

No, but you are pregnant and a baby/child should always have a father. It should be the child's natural father, when possible and a step father, other wise. You're right about the behaviour, though. Talk to your hubby (? or bf?) about it. If you weren't pregnant, I'd say get out of it. I don't want to admit it, but I'm not sure what to tell you, friend. Except maybe, that you should stay in it, and some how make it healthy.

Answer 6

Your significant other doesn't sound like much of a parent, if he allows his child to hit your children and does nothing about it (as well as the other things you listed). You say you are pregnant? How is this unruly kid going to treat your baby?

Do what is best for your children...it may men sacrificing what you want, but they are your responsibility and rely on you for love, comfort, and safety among other things.

I wouldn't want to be a kid growing up in a household with a child like you describe...and I feel sorry for the kid, because apparently neither of his biological parents care enough to try to help him...he's not a happy boy...

Answer 7

So why are you still in the relationship if you feel it is so unhealthy? Do you really think this guy is going to change when he has not done anything in that direction yet? I would be getting out as fast as I could get or letting him know that he is not welcome and to get out. If it means you have to move, get out now before it gets more out of hand and you and your kids are hurt or killed. Don't think it can't happen to you as it very well can. If he has no more respect for you than to act like this toward you and let his kid mistreat and show no respect for you, what do you think it will be in another couple of years? Get out now while you can.

Answer 8

Only way to get your point across is to leave. Dad will either grow up and take care of busness or he will just have all the free time he wants to control his kid,

Answer 9

a million.They all uncover protection of their courting despite the fact that they are saying they're unsatisfied. two.They wish to have an affair and simply making matters up so you are going to suppose sorry for them. three. They are all lazy m f 's and wish to maintain to make use of their companions alternatively of operating at the courting. four. None of them are valued at having and comprehend it. Best to steer clear of them.