How to help a friend who has a 7 yr old son that constantly poops his pants even when toliet is nearby?

Question

With my 3-4 yr old kids, it happens but hes almost 8. Im not sure how I can help her with.

This is for serious mothers or daddies only!!!! THanks!!!!!

Whoa.... guess you dont get it!!!! THis boy is perfectly normal but learning disabilites or anything like that but he knew theres a toliet nearby but he just dont want to walk few more steps, he just stopped there. Many times her mom didnt see it happened but too late it happened!

9inches.... BUZZ OFF!!!!!!

Thanks 'wonderfully_lefty'... thats a good suggestion.

Answer 1

I had that same problem. I made my daughter clean her own underpants. she fought me on that but after a few times of cleaning up after her self I did not have that problem again.

Answer 2

Okay, here's the deal.

The boy had severe constipation at some time in the past and started holding his poop in a lot, because of fear of that pain of constipation.

Because of the holding in of the poop, the bowels become distended and - here's the clincher - the nerves no longer function.

Because of this, the child does not know they need to poop until literally the liquid feces is running over and around the blockage in the bowels and running down the poor child's leg.

The psychological problems often associated with this ARE NOT THE CAUSE of the pooping. The family's negative and unsupportive reaction, as well as trauma with peers, are the causes of the psych problems often associated with this.

The cure is simple. First, tell the poor dear child that he is doing nothing wrong and now everyone knows it. Second, the child should have a daily gentle laxative for a few days. Third, the child should sit on the potty every day at the same time for about 20 minutes. At first, he won't go, but that's okay. Every day, same time, for twenty minutes. Fourth, have the dear drink lots of water.

It should take only a week or so for this problem to resolve. I learned about this from the Medical College of Virignia. It really works.

Answer 3

Isellpc is right on, my son was still going in his pants til at 5 yrs. old I took him to the Dr. for a school physical. He was very constipated, being a first time parent I had no idea what a proper bowel movement should look like.

He was given a lower G.I. to show how bad it had become.The Dr. tested him for all sorts of things, including Hersh-Burns disease(Sp?). The Dr. seamed to think that as an infant he decided passing a B M was too painful and just stopped going.

He was then he was placed on mineral oil enemas along with 1 to 2 oz. of mineral oil to be taken by mouth. The Dr. said he would be on the mineral oil by mouth for the rest of his life. However I was determined to get him off of it. We had regular talks and I hounded him about using the bathroom often. It worked, by age 12 he was going on his own. He hasn't had any trouble since. This just shows you, if in doubt check with a Dr. first and then use your best judgment on how to proceed from there.

Answer 4

My 5year old still has problems with this occasinally and for him its constipation. Even with a good diet its difficult for him. I'm gone to given him stool softeners (make sure its laxtive free - yu want the BM to come naturally) in addition to the fiber and a good diet. Its takes some time. And any painful BMs will just start the kid back to sq one some consistency here is key.


That said, my youngest brother often held his BM until he literally had explosive bms because of the stress of the very painful divorce of our parents and years of child custody issues and outright battles that arouse from that. If there is ANYTHING simular, then weekly counseling would be the place to start here.

But even giving him a "safe" place to talk without judging him should be offered.
HTH

Answer 5

There is a slight chance that maybe there is something a little more to it than laziness.... I have experienced a little girl who kept pooping her pants and one day she told me that it feels better to poop standing up than sitting down...this worried me that there was going to be major medical issues to face due to this but the first thing I did was try to cure her the way one would with constipation...changed her diet a little and even gave a very mild stool softener. I wanted to know why she didnt just tell me this in the first place, but then I realized that it was probably due to the negative reaction she kept getting, she may have felt too ashamed to even talk about it. This boy also needs to be reminded constantly to go use the bathroom...i would start off with every 20 minutes...it will be annoying for you both but it will reduce the accidents. I almost tried making her scrub the undies herself but the thought of her handling feces bothered me so I changed it up, I bought her cool underwear and when she pooped in them I told her they were going in the garbage....little by little she was ending up with no underwear left and she didnt like that idea..(I of course did keep the undies...they are expensive)

Answer 6

I have a 6yo nephew that won't poop in the potty at all... here is some advice I got.

How do you persuade a child to have a bowel movement on the toilet?
One of the main things to do is check the consistency of your child's stools. Most children who refuse to toilet (they'll have their bowel movements in their diapers, disposable training pants, or pants, but not in the toilet) have had problems with constipation. Make sure your child has soft, formed stools. Hard stools, large stools, or small pebbly stools are all signs of constipation, and the most common reason for stool withholding or "toileting refusal" is that the child has had one or more bowel movements that were painful or uncomfortable.

The main way to soften the consistency of a child's stools is through his diet, by getting him to eat more fiber and by monitoring his intake of dairy products. The easiest way to calculate the amount of dietary fiber your child is getting is to look it up on the nutritional information label on his food. A good rule of thumb is that children should eat enough grams of fiber to equal their age plus five (for example, a 4-year-old needs 9 grams of fiber each day). It's also best if the fiber is distributed equally among the three meals, rather than eaten all at once.

It can take weeks, sometimes months, for a child to get over having a painful bowel movement. Although I hear all the time that a child has accidents because he is angry or resentful, this is rarely the case. He has accidents because he holds back his painful stools until he can't hold them anymore.

Once your child is routinely having soft, formed bowel movements, keep track of when he has them to see if there is any pattern to them. If you can tell that it's about time for him to poop, you can encourage him to sit on the toilet.

I also recommend what I call toilet sits, encouraging your child to sit on the toilet several times each day, without any pressure to have a bowel movement. These toilet sits are more to get him accustomed to sitting on the toilet than they are to get him to use it. It's all right to have him do a dozen toilet sits each day without his ever having a bowel movement there. Your goal is to get him to learn to relax while sitting on the toilet.

Also, make certain that he can place his feet firmly on the floor, if he's on a potty chair, or on a step stool or two if he's on the regular toilet. Being able to plant his feet on the floor means that he can get on the potty chair or toilet easily, that he feels stable and secure when seated, and that he can push with his feet to give him leverage. All of these are important to independent toileting

Answer 7

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Answer 8

my five year old cousin use to do the same thing when id babysit. i made her clean her own pants. after that she never did it again. also you can tell her to try bribes but that only works for a while.

Answer 9

make him clear his self up and the clothes up but not make a big deal out of it its a control issue with him

Answer 10

you ever hear of pampers run out bye them real fast or rent the kid a port, a poty he can drag with him 7 years okld and shits his panths is the kid kind of slow sounds like itt