B4 we broke up I bought a wedding ring but she doesnt know anything about it becuz i was planning to to purpose to her by the end of this year... its 7 weeks since we broke up... there is another guy trying to slip in between us and she is hanging with quite a bit... i asked her about getting back together she said not now maybe later... she brok up with me bcuz i neglected her quite a bit in our last two months together and she complained, talked and reasoned with me about my actions. my neglection made her cried and i regret it. it was work and i wanted to hang out with my friends... she doesnt know anything about the ring and i feel i could be losing her despite we talk and sometime hang out...
i love her very much and am willing to improve for her and myself
but looking at the ring hurt very much and i really want to let her know i was and will commit to her... if i tell her about it now is it a good idea or i should wait? we been together for 2.5 years
2006-07-29 11:36:34 · 24 answers · asked by smacker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is just hanging with that guy, cuz when we broke up she lost all her friends... she feels getting back together is a possibility but not now... i feel she is hurt, angry and upset and probably felt i wasnt comitted at all... am i using the ring to get her back? i dont know but she did say she didnt know where our realtionship was heading and there was a few time she got mad cuz i avoided jewelry stores she wanted to look at wedding rings, but why would i look when i bought it already and it was the one she wanted
2006-07-29 11:50:11 · update #1
If you really want her back then just sit down and tell her exactly how you feel. Including that before you broke up you even bought a ring to purpose to her and that you want her back. If she loves you then she will come back. If not it was not meant to be be and your heart will be broken but you will move on. Good luck
2006-07-29 11:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 18 year married veteran it's not working now it will not work 5 years from now, it's like if the milk is sour in the fridge it's not going to be better the next day Id tell her and she has to understand I do not go and do everything with my husband (some of his friends are boobs) I let him hang out with the guys do the guy thing and I do the lady thing with my friends ya tell her about the ring but I doubt it would last Ive never been wrong
2006-07-29 11:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If she is spending her time getting to know someone else, then basically you are out the door and telling her you brought a wedding ring will only make you look like you did it just so you could have her back. You should not make yourself look like you are only there as a rebound. Keep the ring for someone else, or return it, either way, dont tell her, it wont bring her back and if it does it will be for the wrong reasons.
2006-07-29 11:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by DELETED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet with her in a quiet but public place like a park in the evening and tell her that she was right in feeling neglected. She needs to feel like you qualify her feelings. Then, tell her that you have thought long and hard and you really want to make this work. Tell her you will promise to be more focused on her rather than with your buddies late at night. But, You need to prove yourself. Not just in dating, but in marriage if the future holds it for you and her. You can't just say you will commit to her for the sake of getting her back. Your heart has to have a complete turnaround. If she takes you back then tell her about the ring and how you had it b-4 she broke up with you. Don't tell her b-4 because you need to know that she wants you and not just the ring. If she takes you back then talk with her about days you will spend with buddies and so there won't be any confusion about "buddy day/days". However, your heart has to be with her.
2006-07-29 11:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by BONNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry . but i see where she is coming from also . being female and all . i think you should call her up and ask her to dinner that you would like to talk about something. take her to her fav place and take the ring with you and tell her excatly how you feel about her and let her tell you why she feels the way she does . also tell her you want to show her something but you dont want to upset her adn pull the ring out and expain in detail that you had bought it and that you was planning on asking her to marry you you was just waiting for the perfect moment. tell her you are willing to go to councling and tell her you love her and will do anything to have a fututre with her . then give her the ring and tell her youll be waiting .
i hope i have helped and good luck and god bless
2006-07-29 12:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sux bro...honestly i think she found or is interested in some other meat..dont tell her bout the ring!!!!!!!!!!...she might just come baq 2 u out of pitty..or just because u got her a ring and she wants 2 know how much she could pond it 4...i had 2 take a break 4rm my gf for about 2 months ..i needed 2 hang out wit my homies..and it really gave me a chance 2 c if he she was the one i wanted 2 b with ..our 2 year an. is october..
if she really loves u she will come baq..just wait it out..try not 2 call her b strong..
she might b wanting a break??..2 c if ur the one...but if she was getting it on would u b kew wit it...i sure as hell wouldnt....
i once saw a tattoo on this guys neck..that said
TRUST NO WOMAN
havnt u seen water boy...girls r the devil..watch ur baq...this guy she going out wit probly won already..
2006-07-29 11:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably already with the other guy, so tell her that as long as she is happy, then your happy, and don't forget to rub the ring all in her face. She will probably want to come back, but that's up to you, because the first time something doesn't go her way she will be ready to go, but wont let go of the ring.
2006-07-29 11:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tim P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to hang out with your friends before you were married then you will want to hang out with them after you are married, and she probably sensed that. This was the real problem and telling her you bought a ring will not change that. She just does not want someone who will tend to neglect her for other people, plain and simple.
2006-07-29 11:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the ring is symbolic and not necessarily the token that will prove committment. If you want to make an impression with the committment thing to her show her committment. She will read that much better and the amount of doubt that goes with it is much less. Isn't it easier to show committment and it be genuine than to show a token and always be having to prove it above what it would have taken to simply choose her in the beginning. Don't make another obstacle for yourself. Put the issue to bed and the ring will symbolize it for you both. Seems to me it would be easier.
2006-07-29 11:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that spending time away from her before you broke up you were telling youself what the answer is. You need to ask yourself are you hurt because she dumped you and now is spending time with another or have you realized how foolish you were, beacuse if you tell her about the ring then there will be no going back.
2006-07-29 11:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by rayce92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋