I got back from a two weeks trip to europe, and i missed my boyfriend soo much. When i got back, i saw him once, but he didn't call, or answer my texts for two weeks. He stopped by my house today, but he just avoided looking at me, and said that he had just been partying the past two weeks. He said he wanted to hang out, but i always asked after he already had plans. What would the best way to confront him about this?
2006-07-29 11:25:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i figured that he did something stupid, and that we're over, but would leaving it alone be the best way?
2006-07-29 11:35:00 · update #1
Well if u say u can text? Well maybey u shoud text him and tell him that u need to talk. Then u know tell him if it does not work out let me know. Cuse he might of met someone or chetted on u honey u need to talk to him.
Love Kierra.
2006-07-29 11:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brown Eyed Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think confronting him about anything will help - confrontation only tends to make people defensive. It sounds like he's either done something wrong; lost interest in you; or maybe suspects that you've been away cheating on him (and he's trying to protect himself). If he can't come to you and communicate his fears/concerns to you like an adult, then he's not ready to be in a relationship anyway. Unless he changes, you'll never be able to have a mature and satisfying relationship with a guy like this. Dump him! You deserve better than this, and I wish you the best of luck...
2006-07-29 11:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sahara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, there are many relationship problems that occur. Many of which reside due to misunderstanding, miscommunication, and unwillingness.
Before dumping him, or doing anything, make sure you:
#1 DISCOVER the situation - ask yourself, "what is the problem?"; "What happened and what is going on now?"
#2 UNDERSTAND the situation - once you find out what it is, ask yourself, "why did the problem happen?"; "Was I involved in it, was he involved, were any of us involved?"
#3 DECIDE the solution - once you understand all of what has gone wrong (if anything was wrong in the first place), then take proper action. This might involve dumping, but dumping seems extreme. Make sure you view the consequences ahead of time to make sure no regrets are present.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-29 11:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far away from the eyes is far away from the heart!! He found someone else while you were gone and is definitely guilty about that (Avoid looking at your eyes). He is also gutless for not telling you the truth! Well, you next best bet is to let him loose ("Au Revoir") and be open for the next nice guy to come!! His character shows that yr relationship (if it continues) will lead to a disaster soon or later!! So take a deep breath and say "There are plenty of fishs in the sea, I am getting another one"!! Best wishes!!
2006-07-29 11:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Tony I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably entertaining the idea of breaking up with you, and by keeping away for awhile he thinks that the time being apart with help ease the pain for you. He's a dumbass, and you should figure out if this is something you'll stand for in a relationship, I personally wouldn't, it's really shady and that's not what a relationship should be. Good luck.
2016-03-27 05:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him tht he either comes clean or u have no chose but 2 call it quits, but u can still talk, just not see each other any more or in the same terms 4 that fact as B4. u need closure, some in love does not do as he is doing, people in love think a lot about the person they love and almost always want 2 B around or with them. talk 2 him straight up, lol Hornylias
2006-07-29 11:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Hornylias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out ask him about his behaviour and be ready to move on.
Some guys seem to think that being non-confrontational about a break-up hurts less. It's the whole "maybe she'll get the hint" school of thought.
Frankly, I'd rather have it out in the open so I can deal with it and move on.
Good luck!
2006-07-29 11:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't like you or is guilty about something and trying to hide it. The best and only way to confront someone is to straight up talk to them. Maybe write him a letter if you can't do it in person. Or on the phone. Just ask him what's going on and if he still cares about you or if it's over.
2006-07-29 11:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Why Not 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that he cheated while you were away, and he can not look you in the eye due to his shame. Just be up-front and honest with him, ask him if he was with someone while you were on your trip, chances are that he will become argumentative, if this occurs then you have your answer. I wish you the best of luck. You deserve an honest loving man.
2006-07-29 11:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL honey this is no longer your boyfriend. Boyfriends have time for you, boyfriends are waiting anxiously for you to get home, they don't ignore you for two weeks and then when they finally feel guilty enough to show up avoid eye contact. I hate to break it to you but you were replaced while you were gone and he just doesn't want to say that to you. He was hoping that you would get the hint from the fact that he ignored you for two weeks but you obviously didn't. Why are you trying so hard to see someone who so clearly doesn't want to see you?
2006-07-29 11:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels guilty about something he did while he was partying, normally your boyfriend should miss you when you've been gone for 2 weeks. Just ask him what's up and if he gives you a shallow answer dump him & move on!
2006-07-29 11:27:52 · answer #11 · answered by laurennn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋