2006-07-29 11:06:48 · 29 answers · asked by raymond j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her she is a good person and that youre open to being her friend and nothing more...
2006-07-29 11:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that she is a great person but that you really do not have feelings for her in that way. It would not be fair to either of you for you to pretend that you like her or to lead her on for her own sanity. And then leave it at that. Do not offer to be "just friends" with her. It will only give her the unrealistic expectation that it will grow into something else. Granted if she still wants to be your friend after you tell her that, then its a different situation. But offering to be "just friends" hurts worse than flat out telling her that you don't like her and cant stand her.
2006-07-29 18:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no really nice or gently way to reject someone. But it's nice that you don't plan on leading her on. Saying something like "You're just like a sister to me." or "I'm so glad we're friends" should get the message across.
2006-07-29 18:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people can't be let down gently. They won't get it and will end up thinking you're indecisive and need help making up your mind (and will continue to pursue you). If you let her down the hard way, what's the loss to you anyway? Tell her to get lost, get over it, move on ... without you, etc.
2006-07-29 18:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by chinky95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and tell her exactly how you feel. If you feel you are not compatible then let her know. If you feel that you are not attracted to her, don't insult her beauty or ugliness (however you wanna put it), and just tell her she isn't your type. Maybe she is a nice girl and you feel she is too nice for you if so, tell her that as well and tell her she deserves someone who is gonna like her as much as she likes you. After that, wish her luck and tell her you'll always be there for her as a friend, if you wanna be a friend to her anyway. Good luck!
2006-07-29 18:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Sucks in the short run but better for you both in long run because it cuts to the chase in that you both get to the Right One quicker. Who wants to be in a sucky relationship? Why would that girl friend of yours want to be with someone who doesn't like her the way she likes you?
2006-07-29 18:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure u dont lead her on in any way shape or form , then just tell her how u feel. Say something like; I know you like me and all but im sorry im not really attracted to you but i would really like it if we could be good friends.im sorry im not tryin to hurt your feelings im just tryin to let u know how i feel so u dont just wait around for me when u can interest yourself in other guys. i hope u understand and i would really like it if we could be friends.- if u say sumthing like that she should understand and either accept u as a friend or not.
2006-07-29 18:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by mommyarii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, be gentle. Do unto others......you get the drift. Be honest, but be thoughtful, and she'll understand. Put yourself in her shoes, and think about how you'd like to be let down, if it were you. It's never easy, but it's better than leading someone on, and then breaking their heart.
2006-07-29 18:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by flaming_dog_racing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth it may not be what she wants to here but its the truth...... dont try to sugar coat it and let her down gently...... telling her you just want to be friends stills leaves a possibility that one day you may eventually like her...... just flat out tell her you dont like her ......you dont have to be mean but dont be too nice you will send a mixed message
2006-07-29 18:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by itsme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure she would be let down whatever the way u would follow.
i can tell this cuz i've been through a similar experience.
he told me that he likes me as a friend but he doesn't have feelings to me as a lover ...
for sure it was hard to me (cuz i do like him).
but i really appreciated it from him to be frank with me and not giving me wrong hopes .
and i'm really trying to consider him as a best friend..(God help me) ..
so if ur friend is reasonable she will appreciate being frank with her .
and wish u good luck with her..
2006-07-29 18:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by oomx555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with dating for practice. just tell her you dont want to have her as a girlfriend but if she wants to hang out as a friend thats cool as long as she doesnt bring drama with her.
But if that isnt an option just tell her its not going to happen.
2006-07-29 18:09:03 · answer #11 · answered by puzzle55usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋