My mother in law never said thank you for the mother's day gift we sent her. She told her other son she didn't think much of it and starting talking about the things in her household she needed to have fixed etc... She never called to say thank you or that she recieved it even after my hubby asked her about it. Is it wrong not to send her anything next year?
2006-07-29 11:05:41 · 28 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'd just send a card. or you could go the nice route and try and find a gift she'll really love.
2006-07-29 11:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by mj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give a gift---any gift---make sure you give it with the expectations of getting nothing in return. That's what makes it a gift.
If you want your mother in law to have better manners----that would have been her mother's job. Obviously, good manners, courtesy, and gratitude are not your mother-in-law's finest attributes.
I'm not condoning her actions. I'm just offering some advice on expectations. If you have none, you will never be disappointed or hurt. Next Mother's Day, send her a card with some money. Then she can get whatever she wants. But don't expect her to thank you. Just look at presents to her as respect to your husband---you know he loves ya.
2006-07-29 18:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong to not send her anything. She's still your mother-in-law. Next year, ask in advance if there's anything she really wants. Tell her that she means so much to you and you really would like to make her happy. How can she complain about that!
2006-07-29 18:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by koffee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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You should not give a gift if it is not from your heart.
Therefore, although a Thank You is proper, it should not be a requirement for you to show you care.
Clue: Generic gifts that are good for any one, are rarely appreciated and usually land in the "recycle" drawer, or wind up at Goodwill. That's the hard truth.
The best gift is one that fits the person. Begin to really listen to learn what she likes...and next time try to give something she will value
OR if you can't afford her taste, give her a gift certificate from her favorite store, or hey, Wal Mart gift cards are great!
Sorry you didn't get your "Thank You" but I don't think you gave the gift for that return, did you?
If not, let it go.
stw
;p
2006-07-29 18:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK your self, why did I send the gift? Was it to get a thank you?
A TRUE GIFT does not need a gift in return.
I say let it go! Send her a nice gift next year and let it be just that ...a GIFT, don't expect anything in return, not even a thank you.
2006-07-29 18:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Bingo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh if she is going to complain about what you pick out, send a card and maybe a gift card. Regardless of the thank you, I would still send something. If you don't it will just stir up more drama, and who needs extra of that.
2006-07-29 18:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card next year, and don't waste your money. Polite people always say thank you ( even if they didn't like the gift)
2006-07-29 18:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by mrselange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds more like inconsiderate, Which may not be intentional. As far as sending next yr, you have to ask yourself; why'd you send it in the first place?
For a Thank you or as a gift?
It would not be rude for you to not send her another, but it would be inconsiderate..
2006-07-29 18:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by digitalhandout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. I have a mother in law that is worse than that. She tells me she just HAS to have something, I go out and buy it for her. Then she says " I dont need OR want this". Go figure!
2006-07-29 18:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Zakos the greek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every rude but alot of mother in laws r like that i dont think it is he should call her tell her happy mothers and be done with that she cant treat yall this way yall have yall own life goin on u took time to get her a gift and thats wt yall get that sucks i wouldnt
2006-07-29 18:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_cowgirl8321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a father in law like that. The trouble is that if you don't you will be the villain. Remember that you are not supposed to like your in laws. Have your hubby talk to her and let her know that you BOTH were offended. If you confront her it is likely to blow up in your face. If hubby does it she can't say you are instigating.
2006-07-29 18:11:05 · answer #11 · answered by momof2borninmarch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋