However, the company he's working for ( which he doesn't want to leave) is moving about an hour and a half away. So, he wants to move closer to that location. I would have no problem moving with him but I am a full time student going into my senior year of college and it would put me very behind to transfer to a different school. We've been together for more than two years and i know that this is the guy I want to marry someday. We have been really smart and lucky in our relationship so far ( he's 19 and I'm 21 and we've made it through that battle) but I really don't want to go through the hassle and heartache of a long distance thing. We were so excited to move in together and then this came up. So, do I move out there with him and give myself over an hour of commute to school for a year.. or do I stay where I am and let this thing take it's course? What would you do?
2006-07-29 10:47:51 · 27 answers · asked by moonshadow385 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While you two are commited to each other which is good, you are also commited to your work and so I'm sure if it would upset his job and more importantly your schooling - both of which are an investment in your future - you should wait it out a little longer for a more convenient time - You'll find you'll lose a lot more and suffer much more inconvenience than you would by putting up with long distance for a little while (and its not even long distance really - some people live continents apart - I only see my girl one month a year) - but its ok - although she may come to a university near me, we will not move in with each other because we have agree our education is important and we need to do it alone - it does not affect our relationship - the battle makes it stronger - I would not commute to school an hour every morning when i am accustomed to the way things are - it would be a disruption and one hour can take a tremendous toll - on your time, and energy - stay where you are and let things take their course and you stick to yours - If you are thinking of moving in together I assume your relationship is quite strong and I'm sure you can work through this.
2006-07-29 10:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's TRUE LOVE then another year living separately should be no big deal.I feel that it's more important for you to finish your education (it's only one year) rather than having to start all over at a new school.While it may not be pleasant doing this you finishing the LAST YEAR at the same school that you started at should have more bearing than constantly seeing each other.Try setting things up so that you can spend weekends together and keep in contact by phone or computer and that will help to make the time together that much more special. ALWAYS KEEP THE THOUGHT IN YOUR HEARTS (IT'S ONLY ONE YEAR) Maybe get a calendar and check off the days until you are back together as one at least that way you will be able to keep track of how long you have until that magical day.
2006-07-29 11:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, I'd stay where you are for now. If you two are really meant for each other- the distance won't matter. I'm not saying it won't be a bit tough being a little further away from each other for awhile, but you'll get through it if it's meant to be. Since you've said he's the guy you're going to marry (which, imo, you are very very young to be making that decision already), then you can make it work until you're done school.
2006-07-29 10:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Peach Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went through something similar when we were in college...I would just wait it out...1 1/2 hours isn't really that bad, especially on the weekends, and you'll have holidays together too... Two more semesters isn't even a full year...if the relationship is strong it won't even seem like a month when it's over...Don't mess with your schooling...when you graduate you can find a job near him and move in together anyway...
2006-07-29 10:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by jillymack06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let things take its course. You will have much less stress and tension if you finish school on time. A year is not a long time to wait to move in together, but it is expensive to pay for school and every semester can kill you. Good luck, I'm sure your relationship will be fine.
2006-07-29 10:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel this is the gou for you then I would go with him and just make the drive for an hour everyday. I know it sounds like a lot to do, but if you think that the long distance thing isn't going to work for you and him then you need to do anything necessary to keep him. If it's only a year you have left then bare with it and just do it. If you got something special with this man then I would hold on to it. Sometimes we have to do what's necessary to hold on to what we think is important to us.
2006-07-29 10:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish your school first. if your boyfriend truly loves you he would understand that you need to finish school. and you two can still see each other. as you said, it's only an hour away. and wouldn't it be the same if you do move in together? i mean, he would be at work and you would be at school and you two would only see each other at a particular time like at night or in the morning.... and if you dont, you two can see each other every night or morning or whatever..... i mean like i know a person whose girlfriend lives like two hours away and they see each other every night and both of them has work.... so really, the decision is up to you because either you two see each other once a day or you make yourself suffer by commuting one hour to go to school everyday.
2006-07-29 10:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by xxazaleanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how exciting it must be for you to live with him and all, but it's your senior year.. So you only got one year to go and it'll fly by so quickly. I say, stay right where you are..and move in after you're done with school. You need to concentrate on your studies and you guys can wait. Everything at its right time. Hehe. Good luck!
2006-07-29 10:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not move somewhere in between??? You will both have to commute but at least the commute wouldn't be so long for one person!!
That would be the best solution if it is possible. If it is possiable!!
Good Luck and I hope everything works out for you both!!!
2006-07-29 10:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. The correct answer is to finish college. He can wait. You can wait. Trust me on this. I moved in with my girlfriend and I'm stilling trying to finish my degree I started in the 1980's. Sickening. Marriage and shacking up (as that nutty Dr. Laura calls it) is something you should do only once you have a solid foundation (at least finishing college).
2006-07-29 10:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋