I have self-esteam problems and affects me because its hard to meet guys when i do meet somebody i always put myself down because i belive that they could do better than me like for instance there is this guy that i like and we hang out all the time and when im around him i feel soooo sexy and happy to be myself but then for some odd reason when we go places i always see other skinny girls who i think would look better with him i dunno why i do this to myself but i cant help it what should i do ?????
2006-07-29 10:28:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really need help on this because this guy is a great person and i dont wanna drive him away because i have problems , ok thanks
2006-07-29 10:29:38 · update #1
I also don't have much self-esteam...but what you need to keep in mind is..as my boyfriend says..beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. If he loves the way you look then don't worry about the skinnier girls. I know its hard to understand sometimes why a good lookin guy is interested in you if you don't feel very interesting...but if he is attracted to you...there is something to be attracted to. Its always nice to be with someone who makes you feel so sexy and beautiful. Don't let him get away. I hope it works for you..and remember your beautiful. :)
2006-07-29 10:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget and try to forgive all the losers here who are being nasty they are just too stupid.
Now, as for what you said... l really know what you'r going through and it's really hard to face these feelings - when l was younger l had a low self esteam myself even though l have always been skinny - it's not about weigth and l think deep down you know your weight is not a cause but a symptom of your self esteam...
what l did that really helped me to lift my self esteam is repeating to myself my good qualities - the things l like about me - the things others like about me
and than everytime my self esteam prevented me from doing something - like if l was too shy to talk to some1 l forced my self to do it and l did - it was very hard at first but it will come more naturally as time goes by
you have a b/f who is lucky to have you because your a great person and that's what you should keep telling yourself!
good luck!
2006-07-29 17:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by irena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to know yourself. You say you feel sexy and happy when you're around this guy, but not so much when there are other girls around. Before you can even attempt to get over this, you need to spend some time learning about you. When you can feel happy and sexy by yourself, then you can start thinking about feeling happy and sexy with someone. Until then, you won't get over this. Low self esteem is a product of infamiliarity with oneself. When you know who you are, and are happy with that, you won't even notice the skinnier girls. And for the record, just because a girl is skinny, does NOT mean she's hot or better looking.
2006-07-29 17:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jill J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 learn 2 keep UR gob shut.
Don't say much & U won't get a chance 2 put URself down!
Learn 2 listen & trust me, any man will talk until the cows come home. Men love 2 talk, he may relax enough 2 say what U wanna hear.
2006-07-29 17:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not bragging, but my husband is gorgeous! he treats me like I'm a queen and has for 7 years. even after 3 kids. and here's the thing, i was big when i met him and I'm bigger now. if the feelings are there, size will not matter. i do just like you though, when were out i wonder if other people are laughing at him. i talk to him about it and he says he don't give a f--k what people say or think. that I'm what he wants and he's totally happy with me the way i am. you just have fun, go after what you want. he obviously don't think like you do or he wouldn't be with you!
2006-07-29 17:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kathryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your own judgement to yourself, let the men you meet, make their own judgements. When you meet a guy, think of something else to do, asn an alternative. There is such a thing as too skinny. You need help, from someone whose not crititical and whose not in a hurry.
2006-07-29 17:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you WHO gives a s h i t about those skinny people. Dont put yurself down, dont be modest, dont dwell on bad things, look at the brightside of things
Listen to the song by the KILLERS Mr.Brightside
The only thing that matters is if he likes you
2006-07-29 17:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by LaZlow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you were everything that any of those other girls are. If you feel sexy, you are sexy. Skinny girls have issues too. You are a queen girlfriend, enjoy it. Remind yourself that you deserve it because you do!
2006-07-29 17:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be content with the fact that for better or worse he likes you and not them. If he's making a mistake, but you're both happy with it then be content. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!
2006-07-29 17:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mordent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. Seek professional psychiatric help. Learn to stop judging what he wants based solely on what you think he should have or want. If he's with you, it's for a reason. Trust that.
2006-07-29 17:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Empy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋