How can a person build up their self esteem when they don't have any?

Answer 1

Dear Mom:
I gather you are under tremendous pressure. Unfortunately, there aren't any filling stations where you can go get a tankfull of esteem. It comes from within and could be defined as the confidence that you can handle the problems you face. Please look for some assistance in handling the pressure. Help is available.

Answer 2

Hi! I'm a mom of six. That's why we have so many kids they tell me. Babies give unconditional love and we want them around cause it's like a high to us. Then the babies start to get a personality of their own and they just don't feel so lovey dovey any more. You finally get too old to have babies and you have to look at the same face every day as you fix your hair and wash your face and brush your teeth. It finally hit me at 45! Who is this person? I was so busy trying to be what every one else in my life wanted me to be that I stopped trying to see who I was and what I wanted. I went to see a theripist and I looked at him and saw him for who he was and then began to try to help him figure out who I was and am. I know now, I'm an over weight Grandmother and have people around me because I'm afraid to be alone. I want so bad to be by myself and live on my own, but I waited too long and after about a year and a half, I do good to look at my self in the mirror every day and smile at my self and say "Good morning! How are you? I'm fine!" You see you can't have a good self esteem until you love your self. Always remember; "No matter where you go, there you are!" Good luck and happy journey on your voyage to becoming happy and safe.

Answer 3

Building self esteem, is another way of saying learning to like myself. We look as other people and see things that we like about them, but we only see negative things when we see ourselves if we have a low self esteem. You start by listing good thing about yourself and say to ourselves everyday as we look in the mirror. For example, "I have beautiful eyes" "I was really a good person yesterday when I helped that other student find there way around campus." After you spend time constantly striving to look at the good things about yourself, you will start believing them. Been there myself, and now I love me! Good luck! It was a smart question!

Answer 4

You need to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about who you are, and who really care about your well-being. You need close ties with the people who adore you most, and you need to cut ties with those who tear you down, and drain your self-esteem.

Self-esteem is such a delicate thing for some people, that those who are particularly vulnerable need to constantly be built up, and they need people in their lives who understand that they've been hurt, and who will give them encouragement in everything they attempt.

First, though, you need to do things for yourself that make you feel good about you, such as fixing yourself up and looking pretty, just for you. Go out and get your hair done, or a manicure. Go see a movie with a friend. Anything that makes you feel good about being alive. That's a real start to building your self-esteem.

Answer 5

start by thinking positive about things. Are things really as bad as they seem? Why do you have bad self esteem? Your looks, or personality, or what? There are people that have it waaaaay worse than you, you know? Look at the glass as half-full, not half-empty. Take it easy!

Answer 6

Helping others, as someone else suggested, is a good way to start. Another way is to make small, attainable goals, and acheive them. Physical exercise will raise your endorphins, so you get a double boost if you do something like make a goal of running in a 5k race and fininshing it, then next time you run your goal is to make better time, etc.

Answer 7

Start with exercise, it just puts you in a better mood. Eventually you'll be in shape and you'll feel better about yourself. I know it is hard to get motivated but get into a routine or better yet join a beginners class at a gym, it is a good place to meet people and make friends.

Answer 8

First try to get around and stay around as many positive people and things as possible. Then, LOOK at what wonderful things you have done! You have some precious babies and are a mom that loves them! That is awesome in itself..... YOU were the one who made them and you are the one who gives them love.

Answer 9

Read Dale Carnegie's classic book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." You'll be glad you did...

Answer 10

Start taking time for your self and taking care of you.