Do you believe that your children come first before everything even your relationship/marriage?

Answer 1

Hmmm...NO..I believe that everything is equally important...if the children came first all the time than the marriage will suffer..if the marriage suffers than the parents suffer and then their parenting suffers so then the kids wind up..SUFFERING...what is important is to make it all top priority...and make sure that noone or nothing gets left out of the mix.

Answer 2

I think you have to do what is best for your children, and that does not always mean putting them first.

I am not saying don't take them to the doctor or clean up that boo boo on their knee. I am saying if you put them first ALL the time and spoil them silly you are in for some trouble.

If you forget about your relationship to spend all your energy on the children your relationship is probably going to go sour. This will only bring hardship to you and your children, and make things hard for everyone.

The best idea is to prioritize in a way that gives everyone what they need. Don't forget to take care of yourself too though.

And all these people on here saying "you can always get a new husband" are pretty messed up. If they care about their kids so much why are they willing to throw their fathers to the wind, like kids love having step parents???
If they were that concerned with putting their children first that would include their chilren's feelings ~ and every little boy and girl wants their mom and dad to stay together and in love!!!

Answer 3

I always thought that kids should come first, then I had it pointed out to me that my husband should come first because he was here first. In that aspect I agree, but when you have kids they have needs that supersede your own and your spouses.
As for my marriage and relationship? Yeah, I guess it would come before the kids because without those two things where would your kids be?
They need mom and dad to have a healthy relationship and marriage in order for them to have a happy and healthy life.

Answer 4

Ja. Husband and wife both decided to form a family. Children did not asked to be conceived! Parents are their children's role model. Not married relationship, the other partner has to show understanding, sympathy for the child of the partner, make good buddies with the child, we all need to be there for our children!

Answer 5

Both are important. Good parenting, and a good relationship with your partner, will garuntee that you will be supposed in both arenas, without deteriment to either.

A partner who ingores a child and demands all your attention is NOT a good partner. A child who demands all attention needs some serious parenting. Learning that you are not the center of the Universe is an important life lesson, and perhaps the child has been unwittingly taught that they are.

Answer 6

Unless you have a very unreasonable spouse working on your relationship creates a good thing for your child. If your spouse is asking to be put first it signals a problem. A Family is for children whether it be M/F M/M or F/F

Answer 7

NO , I don't believe that your children should come first all the time. Children are important and you need to factor them into the desisions you make. However, you must be true to yourself in the process.

Answer 8

With their natural or close to natural guardians no, but the basics go without saying. When it is a person outside of the gene pool, who just stepped in on the scene, yes my kid would come first. That person could dissapear and then how would your kid feel seeing them come and go and they're always second fiddle.

Answer 9

My children come first, I'm a single mom and I have to make sure they''re taken care of first and foremost. If my partner can't understand that (which I've been lucky to date someone who does) then they're not the one for me.

Answer 10

Kids are important if you have them in a relationship...BUT, you have to have a great relationship with yourself, then your spouse before you can pass on that love to your child.
That is why people who were great together before find out that kids deter their feelings for each other. Not to say that they do not love and adore and tote on their kids, it is just that they pay waaay so much attention to their kids that they neglect to have that balance to reflect on themselves. Love between two people should enhance when a child comes along, not pause it.
Just my opinion.