what to do if you see your little 5 years old son playing Doctor with the neibor but he is...?

Question

but he is touching her vagina ? what to do?, what should i tell him ?

Answer 1

tell him that he cannot touch her down there coz its a private zone , they can play but no touching each other just in case .

Answer 2

First, stay calm. Ask him why he touched Janey on her private area. Then, talk with your son about privacy and the need to ask before touching. If you start to get nervous or flustered, take a break, but before the day is over explain to him what you want him to know.
He is probably just curious, may have seen more than you thought between you and someone else, and I don't think you need to call the police. Children are curious and have been since time began. Be sure to talk with Janey's mother about what you saw and how you've handled your son. Janey may have some reprecussions from this in the future.
The worst thing for you and Janey's mom to do is to get overexcited and make them feel ashamed of what they did. You don't want them to need therapy before they can have healthful sexual relations with whomever they choose as adults.
Hope this helps and good luck with the future!

Answer 3

Little boys and girls are naturally curious about each other and often do not understand the boundaries when it comes to touching. This little boy is old enough to be taught that there are personal, private areas that we do not sho to others and that we do not touch AND that we do not let others touch. Take him home and play doctor with him and show him appropriate ways to play this game without being invasive.
If he seems to be focusing on certain areas more than others and is continually invasive or revealing when it comes to private areas, I would pay more attention to who he is hanging around, what he is watching and look out for the possibilities of someone older behaving inappropriately around him. the first thing though would be to set some boundaries for him regarding touching- especially for his own protection- he needs to know that it is not okay for people to be touching him in certain ways or if he sees someone touching someone else in certain ways he needs to feel comfortable telling an adult aobut it.

Answer 4

He should be gently scolded and told that its not okay to do that. Its time for him to learn about "private areas."

You should also watch out for any other strange behaviors. Such actions COULD be a sign that some predator has been "playing doctor" with him.

Wait a day or two, and ask him if any "big people" ever "played doctor." If he says yes, call the cops. if no, then use that as an oportunity for your "good touch / bad touch" talk.

Remember, it COULD all just be curiosity, but you can never be too careful.

Answer 5

First off, understand that its normal for kids this age to experiment. And to be curious. Dont over react, whatever you do. He's old enough to understand and comrehend the difference between appropriate touch and non appropriate touching. Explain that its ok when you are older and two people are in love and married, but that kids shouldnt play that way.

Answer 6

Calmly, calmly I said, distract them. They are naturally curious and over reacting can have devastating consequences. Later, not to much later, like at bath time, calmly ask him about his play. (Do not threaten or berate.) This should open a dialogue for you to explain a lot of things, like appropriate and inappropriate touching. Vital in todays world of pedophiles. Do not shame him or punish him. I wanted to tell you about some books that I used when my children were small. They were designed for a child to understand and were appropriately "graphic" for the age. Very easy to understand and tastful for the age. Try the Childrens Television Workshop and see if they have some good books for this subject. Good luck and happy parenting.

Answer 7

Just be calm, and tell both kids that we keep our private parts covered,and that they are not for playing with. Then let them play in an open room (living room) while you are there to supervise. Don't freak out, as this is normal. Then when the playmate goes home, you need to talk to you son about boy parts and girl parts, and that he may not touch anybody else's parts but his own. Again, don't freak, but be firm in telling him he may not touch others private parts!

Answer 8

it is ok for 5-year olds to touch themselves but not other people...explain this to him...but I do think you should talk to the girl's parents, too...because maybe they need to explain this to their daughter at the same time...if it is still a problem after it has been explained to both children...each child should see a child psychologist...sometimes, children at this age are imitating what they have seen adults doing...maybe he walked in on you and your partner? there is also a possibility that he has been molested (but please don't freak out about this until he has seen a doctor or he understands that he can't touch other people's private parts)...that is the best advice I can give you...I hope things work out for you and your son.

Answer 9

ask him why he did that, and has he ever seen anyone do that, or has anyone ever touched his private areas? if he says hes never seen that & nobody ever touched him then tell him (in 5 yr old terms) without yelling that it is absolutely not acceptable for anyone to touch his private areas, and that he should never touch anyone else there & tell him what the private areas are. and I would tell the girl's mom- hopefully she will understand that kids are just curious, but maybe she needs to have the same talk with her daughter.

Answer 10

I would explain that it is not the right thing to do. Explain "private parts". I would also talk to the other childs parents. But try not to make a big deal out if it. I used to work in daycare when I was 17 and we had a boy who would get on top of other kids and simulate sex acts....and the other teachers would just remove him from the child, but they would stress to not make a big deal out of it.

Answer 11

He is not doing anything wrong. He is just curious just the same as the girl is curious. He is really too young to understand anything you would tell him. Best to just watch him closer especially if he is near other children. When he is a little older you can start the sex education. Don't scold him and don''t lie to him. Don't tell him his hand will fall off. (((smile)))

Just supervise closely.