2006-07-29 09:23:57 · 27 answers · asked by russellhamuk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Hello russell..
It *is* possible for a woman to fall in love with a man who is her friend, yes, of course it is. It has happened to me...I fell deeply in love with a friend of mine and he with me, during my twenties ... but obviously it doesn't happen in every similar situation. But it depends on how you treat her, and yourself..and what it is that the female friend needs in a romantic partner.
Sometimes, people fall in love with friends whom they think at first they could never feel that way about... but then their feelings change and grow for that person. It's very beautiful.
It helps though, to keep looking at the reality of the situation and not cling on to just the one longed for outcome... as it's possible that it may never happen... and if you're too busy hoping for and gazing at your 'friend'... you may miss meeting the love of your life!... someone else may be waiting in the wings, who is even more perfect for you than you imagine! So try to see outside of the box, whilst still working positively towards being the only one your friend wants to be around and open up to. Have fun times with her ...Let her know that she can rely on you, whatever happens, but that you also have a life of your own...that way, there is less chance of her taking you for granted. Not all women friends would of course... but it's good for your self esteem to not cling too much, and see how much she may *need* YOU!
It is possible! Trust. Many things are possible if conducted with love and respect... if not something better will come... or something that you need more.
I hope this helps a little. Please forgive me, if this situation is not your own personal situation...as I have addressed the question as if it were so.
take care. :o)
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2006-07-29 09:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how long you've been friends with someone. If you have a fairly new friendship chances are you won't know until you give your friendship time to evolve from an acquaintance, into discovering you have enough common interests to lay the foundation for a friendship.
Romance or having romantic feelings are most often inspired by intimacy or the mutual reciprocation which takes you from the "friend" category into a deeper/intimate emotionally connection which propels one or both wanting to act on these feelings of Romance. Discovering your emotions are overcome with desire and any thoughts or feelings involved at this stage have ignited the idea of expressing your romantic desire in a more hands on kind of way...LOL A platonic friendship blossoms into the next phase of a more up close and personal form of expression.
Generally, a friendship is based on a platonic level. I do believe it is normal to have some level of attraction. Not to confuse this with feelings of romance. Attraction can be qualities and or values making integrity attractive or appealing.
2006-07-29 10:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy friend? Yeah... My best friend is a guy and I'm completely in love with him. Problem is, can a guy feel romantically towards a girl who's a friend, since he sees her as just 'one of the guys'?
2006-07-29 09:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nuwanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How difficult is that.
I've had a few female friends, and some of them wanted more. It saddened me because I loved them so much as friends. It always ends up destroying the friendship.
Still, you never know. A relationship may work, but you have to weigh up the risks. If it doesn't work, you will never had what you had in the first place.
2006-07-29 09:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are different to potential boyfriends.
I couldn't imagine one of my male friends as a boyfriend they're friends. I guess it can happen but if it did then it was never proper friendship in the first place there would have been an underlying current
2006-07-29 09:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely...it happens a lot!!
i actually never believed that a guy and a girl can just be friends, there's always an attraction between them....the only way that she can be friends with a guy is if she truly loves another guy i guess :p
just a point of view...hehe
2006-07-29 09:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by ChEkNa . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible...and always BEST to begin a romantic relationship with a friendship,common interests,etc.;in my opinion.
2006-07-29 09:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Once a guy is in "friends" mode, she is not attracted to him. If a woman says she has a guy friend that she is attracted to, he is NOT only a friend, but a potential prospect.
2006-07-29 09:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a male friend? probably. it happens sometimes. you cant have a "just friends" friend of the opposite sex because someone is gonna want the other some time.
2006-07-29 09:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it happens, i wanted to be with the guy i worked with for years , when i split up from my partner he took me out to cheer me up and we ended up together . its been 2 years now . so it can happen
2006-07-29 12:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋