Alrighty my boyfriend and I have been going steady since march he used to have a fiance and with her had two kids, he has been nothing but sweet, charming, and a great guy, and awesome video game friend :D lol but since I've gone back overseas to my family for the summer from college he won't talk to me hardly at all, won't tell me how he is, whats going on, nothing..he also is very short feused at the moment due to lack of job and his ex being a trouble..so thusly if I say anything even remotely sarcastic or my usual he snaps at me..the past two days have been nothing but big arguments which unfortunately were started by me asking whats wrong and why he wont open up...which his whole reply is that I am pushing him...so what do I do M8's? I just am lost on this now cause I can't seem to approach him at any angle :( help would be greatly appreciated as into how to approach this issue... Thanks!
2006-07-29 08:35:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it might be that he is with someone else or that he does not really want to be with you. After all he has kids to worry about. I don't think you are pushing him at all! If you are just calling him to find out how he is doing that is not pushing. Just make sure that you didn't sleep with him before you left. I wouldn't call him back if he was acting such a jerk. I would rather for him to call me. Let him know you can live without him. Men want a challenge so give him one by not calling him for 3 weeks and see what happens!!! (Now i mean you better not call him at all). Then if in the three weeks he does not call you then that probably means he has moved on. Don't worry there are other fishes in the sea and you will find someone who will love you unconditionally. :)
2006-07-29 08:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by msraylanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the opposite. I think now that you are gone, he has freedom and feels that slipping away everytime you call him back. He is probably involved with his kids and to have a serious committment like engagement and then to cut it off when you have a family witht hat person..he is probably talking to her again. She is probably aware that you are gone and putting it down doubletime. I wish I could say it woud work out but I feel like you are setting yourself up. You havent been involved very long at all and I find that it would be best to let him go. If he cant handle the committment with you being away for awhile and turns into a this guy who wont respond to you in a respectful manner,t hen you deserve better. You are probably pretty young and he is probably pretty immature. All you can do it write your feelings down and sen dit to him whether by mail or email. Leave the ball in his court. Tell him if you dont hear a response from him in x amount of days, you are moving on because you are too fabulous to waste time on any man who doesnt have the decency to return your feelings.:) Good Luck.
2006-07-29 08:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Beans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is venting his anger toward you because you are the one that is there at that time. Give him some space. Dont call him for awhile or make any form of communication with him. He will realise that you were only trying to help. He'll call you and apologise for being a jerk and probably at that time he will tell you what he is(was) feeling.
Just don't push he will get around to telling you in due time.
2006-07-29 08:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 have in basic terms got here across a convenience zone. stop irritating approximately it. once you adore somebody, its no longer what you do once you're at the same time, its in basic terms which you're at the same time and that's all that concerns. sometimes there is incredibly in basic terms no longer something to speak approximately. in basic terms go away it at that. do no longer dig into why you haven't any longer something to speak approximately on the telephone. And, don't be a baby, sorry lady, love isn't so crammed with "romance". you be responsive to once you adore somebody once you haven't any longer something to do, no longer something to assert, and nevertheless sense in basic terms as content cloth in basic terms being around one yet another. in case you finally end up leaving him for some thing "new" and "exciting" or purely for "some extra romance", I assure, ultimately, you need to have this comparable situation with the subsequent guy. discover ways to be content cloth, this is once you will see what you have, instead of what you DONT have. If he's been with you this long, he loves you. Thats all that could desire to count.
2016-10-08 11:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to tell you this i think you already know it but ur relationship is over it could b because you went overseas and if so you dont need a jerk like that anyway hes gonna realize he lost a great thing so just leave him alone give him what he wants
2006-07-29 08:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to back off. Don't approach him, let him approach you. The more you try to corner him to talk the more he will resent you for it. He'll come around when he is ready. If he doesn't then move on baby.
2006-07-29 08:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him; comfort him. Tell him that you are concerned about him and that you will be there for him; if he wants to open up you have a listening ear. when you say this DO NOT expect an immediate opening up and DON"T ask 'can you tell me now?" hope you get resolved
2006-07-29 08:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just missing you. He really needs you right now and he doesn't wanna be selfish and make you come home to him... but i think that you should.. if u really like this guy... go out of your way for him,.... he really needs a friend right now it seems.
2006-07-29 08:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take it from me my boyfriend has communication problems two sometimes he won't talk to me and I have to yell at him to get his attention so just wait for a few days if he doesn't talk to you tell him to take a hike because you could do better than that
2006-07-29 08:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by ashley silva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and have him call you, as men are not too good at opening up!!!! It is hard to keep a long distance relationship!!!!
2006-07-29 08:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋