About an hour ago, I was having my recently razored-to-death hair styled by a girl with really neat, almost punky hair, that I liked (which is why she was styling my disaster!) She said that sometimes her hair garnered her a lot of attention, some of it negative. I know the feeling, because I had a pretty funky 'do before I foolishly had it all cut off a few days ago.
So, what I want to know, why do people get all upset because others choose to do something not quite "main-stream" with their hair? That's ridiculous. I'm a hard-working, contributing member of society; I teach high school and have a good relationship with my students and my school; I'm a fairly intelligent person; I've been able to get outside the USA and know other places and cultures; I am positively conservative in most aspects of my life (no drugs, drinking, or one-nighters); I just choose to have "funky" hair. Why is that a problem? I don't get it!
2006-07-29 08:26:36 · 9 answers · asked by lachicadecafe 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
I think this is a good question, and I've wondered the same thing many times. I also lead a similarly conservative life, I like to consider myself well-educated, and I am generally respectful to people, but I have a few tattoos. So people who don't know me tend to focus on the tattoos and draw judgements about what I must be like from that alone. And often, it's not a very pretty judgement they seem to have drawn.
The only answer I've been able to come up with is that they have their prejudices, for better or worse, as we all do. If I saw someone walking around in a Nascar cap with a dirty T-shirt on chewing tobacco, I would draw some pretty unfriendly conclusions about the type of person he must be as well, to be honest.
I guess in that moment when they see you, you just represent everything they don't like, so they react in an unbecoming manner. It's not fair, certainly, but it's their problem and not yours.
As far as funky hair specifically, a few years ago I had fire-engine red hair, which did get me a lot of attention, both good and bad. But one morning I was looking into a store window and a little girl and her mom walked by. The mom was telling her daughter "it's ok, just go ahead..." so the little girl shyly told me, "your hair is beautiful." All of this in a conservative suburb of Dallas--it made all of the stares worth it. :)
2006-07-29 15:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People get power from others in a group by putting other people down for whatever reason. Often it is the most obviously different thing about a person that will get a reaction. That little piece of power that people feel is very addictive for them, and so they will start to point out the differences in everyone around them. It's a social survival strategy to compensate for inadequacies in other areas.
2006-07-29 08:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I had nice long lovely hair, it was ruined by stylists many times in a row. I no longer have long hair and the color is different. I have been so depressed and I don't want to go in front of people that I know because of that attitude that your talking about. I feel like crap because when your hair is different people say things,they act like your hair is you and if it gets changed then they act like your not you anymore. I hope i made sense. By the way, my long hair was totally ruined because a stylist scalped me with a razor, he took out about half the thickness in my hair about two inches from my scalp.
2006-07-29 14:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are content to exist within a homogenous culture; anything like yours or your stylist's punky hairdo is perceived as a threat. I say perceived because it's not an actual threat. These same people like to concern themselves with the personal business and hairstyle choices of others. Don't worry about it.
2006-07-29 08:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a teacher and your school district allows for you to have funky hair? Um, I suppose if you were not a professional, I would not have a problem with it, but in a general sense, I don't have a problem with people who have different hair. I stare a little bit because it IS different, but most people can't help that.
2006-07-29 08:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be jealousy?? Maybe other people admire you for being brave, but because they could never carry off that look themselves, it makes them jealous?
If you're happy with your hair, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Don't do things to keep everyone else happy, because it's impossible - people will complain about stuff no matter what you do.
2006-07-29 08:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by sugarsweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People really don't care about other people. They feel that they are the only ones in the world that are perfect. So when someone does something or has something different than them, they ridicule it because it is unlike them in their little perfect world.
2006-07-29 08:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Newt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People, society, doesnt like different.
It takes a lot to be like everybody else...
But it takes courage to be different!
2006-07-29 08:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by m_thurson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u mean yur fellow teacher's get mad??
urgh,,,, just kae sure yur 'hair''s not gonna HURT yur profession..
2006-07-29 08:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by iyikka14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋