It seems to be popular to use 'gay' as an insult. "That's so gay." "He's so gay" "They're so gay". I've heard kids who seem to have no real idea what that is use this expression. I've also heard kids who don't really believe being gay is bad use the expression.
Do the parents do nothing because they agree that being 'gay' (homosexual) is bad, so they support this kind of talk? [I don't, FYI] Is it because they don't have any idea how to give an age-appropriate response & point out what the kid is saying and doing?
2006-07-29 08:25:37 · 21 answers · asked by Kimberley Mc 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm a firm believer in that your kids emulate what you say and do. I grew up in a household that you don't say anything about anyone behind their back that you can say to their face. I teach my daughters to be respectful and tolerant of everyone, but don't allow anyone to disrespect you. Most people who are homophobic raise homophobic kids. Kids are gonna try to follow the trend or the crowd, but it's up to the parents to teach the kids how to be leaders and free thinkers.
2006-07-29 08:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you !!
When my youngest were still at home, and that STUPID habit started up, I lectured them about it. I didn't like to hear them use words that have the wrong meanings; it makes them sound like sheep who will follow anybody into anything.
Another stupid expression is the word "Phat"... I guess it's supposed to mean "cool"... but it sounds like "fat" which does NOT mean cool. How strange!
I think most parents who shrug it off probably realize that it's just an expression, and they don't mean anything by it. And it's better than some other things they could say.
If a person really IS gay, and they are offended by that use of the word, then they really need to get over themselves.
2006-07-29 08:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some parents don't have a problem with anything their children say. Both of my parents are homophobic and they would not say anything if I were to use that word inappropriately. I would never say it but that's because of my own censorship versus any from them. I make this distinction because they would smack me or speak up if I used a word they considered to be "bad." (I don't talk like that so there is no risk anyway).
Generally speaking, though, I've noticed that most people are not as sensitive to words unless they are the impacted group (or are concerned for the impacted group).
2006-07-29 08:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allow me to preempt this comment by saying that children are allowed to say and do far more than they should and parents do need to step up to the plate and correct them. That being said, the truth of your dilemma is not what the children are doing, but what the adults have done.
In a world of political correctness (which I can't stand) why is it that you are not advocating that they tell there children that being "gay" is not homosexual, but actually means, "Happy".
What is sad is that homosexuals were allowed to use the term which in essence truly fail to describe them, and takes away from a beautiful word.
2006-07-29 09:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My kids used to use this term all the time, they still do once in awhile. Shortly after our divorce my wife began to date a black man, she dated him for many years. My kids loved him. I though he was a good man as well.
One day, my boy used the term 'that's so gay'. I waited for a few minutes and asked him 'how's your mom's *****r doing?'. Yeah, that went over well, once he cooled down I drew him back to the use of the word gay and how it was just as damaging to some people as the use of the word *****r.
2006-08-01 13:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by jchrist 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, being gay used to be categorized as a perversion. along with pedophelia, beastiality,and other deviations.so using the word in such a way denotes it as an insult.as to the parents,most just see it as a figure of speech,not as an insult to a section of the human race.in any case people should just lighten up and stop taking everything so seriously.
2006-07-29 08:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff E 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ok i have used that word in the way you are talking about before and i have nothing against gay people most kids today are smart enough not to say that word in front of their parents and just use it around there friends trust me i should know i am 15
2006-07-29 10:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
.Lady, there is nothing in NATURE that supports man putting is penis in someone else waste hole as being either acceptable or natural. Nature did not put man on earth to be a substitute for females, nor did nature provide for an either or!
Like it or not, the entire female body is built to support bringing life into the world. Every faucet of her body supports sub staining her life so that she can bring forth life. And that is the only way that humans get here.
That a male should want to put his penis into the place where human waste comes out and associate that with the female body is insane, a gross violation of nature and an insult to the female body!
If it was meant to be, then men would bring forth children out of their butt hole!
More over, nature did not provide sex for recreation, it is provided for bring forth LIFE! The pleasure that is experienced is so that the female will tolerate the intrusion into her body and want it other wise she would never tolerate the males penis!
The female’s body gives the male intense pleasure so that he will want to intrude into her body and send forth his sperm cell into to her thereby imitating the cycle of life. And so it is with all mammals on earth.
That humans chose to violate nature goes right along with our killing animals for sport, ingesting smoke into our lungs, eating until we overtax our body’s capabilities and normal functions and shooting each other because we do not all have the exact same facial features No homosexuality is not normal or acceptable it is both a Sin and a disease!
2006-07-29 09:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
THANK YOU!
I am in the generation when this started unfortunately and it drives me insane! I've also taught in schools where teachers say nothing!
But yes, I do tend to notice the people who say it and the adults that don't correct are the ones who are homophobic.
So the question is...how do we stop it by ourselves? How do you correct someone else's child? I start by not allowing it around me or in my home. I tell people not to say things like that to me.
2006-07-29 08:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by sofun 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
they are in denial that gay people exist and would rather ignore the subject than educate their children about it and you know what else its usually those people who are always commenting on gays that are secretly gay themselves and affraid to say so they look for others reactions first
2006-07-29 08:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋