How can I forgive myself for not being the person I want to be?

Answer 1

Cut yourself some slack. You're only human. As long as you're always working toward bettering yourself, you have no reason to feel bad. Most people don't even try. So relax. Worrying about it will only be counterproductive (sort of an existential performance anxiety!)

Answer 2

You ask your question in the format that you have a set of spiritual beliefs, so I'll go that route.

Think about Abraham's affair with Hagar, and all the fun THAT'S caused. The Bible calls him "A friend of God."

Think about King David's affair with Bathsheba, plotting the death of her husband, and his fatherhood skills. "A man after God's own heart".

Peter denied Christ during His worst hour.
Peter, you are the rock on which I will build my church."..Jesus Christ

Paul said, "Why do I do the things I don't want to do, but don't do the things I do want to do. Oh God, deliver me from this body of death".

I guess what I'm saying is you are certainly not alone. As a matter of fact what you are asking yourself is something we could all say. That's why the bottom line is it's God's forgiveness we want and are in a position to receive because of Jesus.

That is the important thing, to be who God created you to be.

Answer 3

Ask Jesus for forgiveness. If he forgives you, which he will, then you need to be forgiving of yourself. Ask Jesus to help you be the person HE wants you to be, not the person you want to be. He has a bigger plan for you then you have for yourself. Trust in God. Your not perfect, which means you will make mistakes. Forgive yourself and seek God's will for you. Learn to listen to your heart and your spirit. That where he speaks to you. He talks softly, so learning to hear him can be hard. Learn to pray the right way and you'll have peace.

Answer 4

You don't have to forgive yourself for not being the person you want to be. You just have to accept the fact that this is who you are. Perhaps you are living up to someone else's standards. Take time to look at yourself in the mirror and embrace the good things about yourself.

Everybody, at one time or another, has wanted to be in someone else's shoes, but at the end of the day, realize that to be happy with yourself, you firstly have to accept yourself. If there is something you don't like about yourself, do something about it to change it.

Answer 5

How can you forgive the person you have never being? is my question to you?, better yet, How can you forgive the person, if you have never been what you which to be, and or become?.Of course answering someone with one or two more question it seams wrong, although I think I have had such a problem before in my own life....., though finally I was able to figure that and because the mysteries of God, I was able to achieve more understanding about my self, there is HIM(God), that has perhaps been providing to you this manner of confusion, perhaps because the answers you are looking for are all within your own self, and you just need a bit more time to find then. God, time isn't our time, God has his own time, and until you don't get to set the clock to his time you will be unable to find your self, your own trinity, put together your body, your spirit, and your mind to think, and think, isn't easy, because in their you can find your own center, and then your own soul. and that is hard to hold, understand and handel,( from there perfection begins), think why Jesus said, in his final minutes in the cross,ust before dying to the material world. "Father why have you forsake me". This time its you basically dying to your old way's, searching for a new Spiritual Birth, go for it, God is with you, at all time.<<

Answer 6

You didn't say what kind of person you are now, or what kind you want to be.
Also, you didn't give a clue as to how you're not what you hoped to be.
If you're sure that you did your very best, you have nothing to forgive.

Answer 7

First of all, you determine who you want to be and hw you are going to acheive it. Quit beating yourself up. Start by affirming to yourself POSITVE statements. If you need to make some changes, quit focusing on how you're not there yet and focus on how you are going to get there.

Mistakes you have made in the past are in the past. Now its time to live the best life you can. But it is up to you.

What do you want to do?

Answer 8

By figuring our who it is you want to be, and then pursuing it. Forgive yourself and all around you; you'll have no forgiveness until you begin forgiving.
Blessed Be.

Answer 9

If u pray to God and ask for forgivness he will help u and the guilt will slide off ur back and u'll feel better.Just trust God!

Answer 10

It depends on what you mean by "the person I want to be." Why can't you be the best you can? You're a little too vague with your question. Can you be more specific?

Answer 11

Start trying to be the person you want to be.