I made plans to go to the movies with this guy so I go about my day and I check my phone and the movie starts in a half hour. He didn't call. So I'm over my friends house at 1 am he calls and says, "Hey I'm coming to pick you up." I'm like, What happened to our plans? He goes "Oh I got too drunk to go to the movies" Whatever! I refuse to go anywhere with him and he says he'll call me tomorrow. Hung up on him. And before, this one guy tells me we're going to go out to eat and he doesn't call for a week. He never calls when he says he's going to. We end up talking again and I switched the game on him. I made plans with him and didn't call. He calls me three days later and is whining, "What happened to our plans?" Doesn't he realize that he did the same thing to me? He tries to blame me because we can never seem to keep plans. It's him everytime! I've only met one genuinely nice, considerate guy in my life. What's the deal?
2006-07-29 07:53:56 · 33 answers · asked by A J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks people. These are actually two different guys here. Sorry bout that. The 1st is the drunk one. the 2nd is the dinner plans one. I'm not trying to act like a victim here. Seriously. I'm just wondering why a majority of the men I've met are inconsiderate.
2006-07-29 08:01:48 · update #1
Yes, they do exist. I am married to one, and good, close friends with many others.
I think that part of your issue may be age. Guys who get too drunk to keep a date are usually kind of young. When they get a little older, and get serious about women, they stop behaving that way. Just remember that women are generally more emotionally mature than men for a long time; it doesn't just magically even out when we all turn 18, or 21.
There are good, considerate, adult men at any age, you just have to look a little harder to find them when you are young. Don't let it bother you. The guys will grow out of it eventually.
2006-07-29 08:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considerate Guys exist and as a lot of people have said. You have to find us and that is not an easy task. Some times good people men and women get hurt in some previous relationship so deeply and just as well give up on dating any one.
2006-07-29 08:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every once in a while u'll find a nice considerate guy but usually since they're new they don't no what u like. when u 1st meet a guy set him straight! show him how to act he'll catch on eventually! everyone needs to be worked on at least a little for the relationship to work!
2006-07-29 08:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking in all the wrong places.....Or should I say you seem to fancy the wrong type of guy! We are out there, but most women say they want the nice guy but seem to gravitate to the guys who treat them like crap....and keep going back for more.
Try an on-line search for personals...yahoopersonals is a good start...take the personaility test first then go from there.
2006-07-29 08:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by donbro77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice, considerate guys do exist for nice, considerate women. You may want to ask yourself why you are attracted to the ones that aren't instead of acting like a helpless victim. You control your future.
2006-07-29 07:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried searching for a four leaf clover? If so, I doubt the first,second, third,fourth or fifth pulled (get my drift) was the four leaf clover. You are simply cleaning out all the dead weeds so that you clearly see the four leaves when it presents itself to you.
Be patient, in the end you will be thankful!
2006-07-29 08:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont knw abt u n that guy much
but nice guys do exist
i knw lot of them
u just need 2 find right person
example 1 giving u dis ans is also a very decent guy
2006-07-29 08:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by vicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the problem is YOU being attracted to jerks. Nice guys are usually the last ones you will look at.
2006-07-29 08:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes nice, considerate guys do exist. My boyfriend is one of those guys and I am holding on to him forever.
2006-07-29 08:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jill G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they do exist and I think to find one you have to change what you are looking for in a date or partner - good luck
2006-07-29 08:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by kukkeeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋