I want to marry a girl whom I love, she is elder to me, my parents say they will die if I marry her. Plz Help.

Question

I love a girl who is elder to me by 2 yrs. But my parents say that a Pundit has said to them that if I marry an elder girl then they will Die within 1 year. I cannot live without my love. Please help me I am not able to understand what should I do now. Should I die.

Answer 1

Consult a second opinion. Another Pundit , make sure you are presence and you trust the pundit. You only hear only. They might be bluffing you.....

Answer 2

You have gotten every answer as do it and dont. But if you truely know that she is the one and you really love her and its not just love but true forever lasting love, then do what your heart is telling you to do.
Marriage doesnt mean that you dont love her or want to be with her for the rest of your life if you dont marry her. Try getting engaged, for a year or two. What's the hurry, stay together for ten years before you get married. Then do it, when your relationship is in need for a little more and that will start the new life together, by that point your parents have no choice but to wish you happiness with the one everyone can see you truely love.
What's the hurry. If you think you have to marry her right now or you both will die not tying the knot, then you have no choice but to go behide their backs and do it, or the wiser choice of going up to your parents and tell them you are head over heals for her and you have to do it reguardless of the pundit, and they can either give you their best wishes or you have to do it without their consent.
And by the way two years is only two years, that isn't any thing like 10 years difference, which many people marry with a larger difference than ten years and your is only a mesely two.
Ask youself if it would make a world of difference if YOU were two years older than her? If you answer yes than your parents must not want you to marry her specifically and they are full of crap and do what you feel as right.

Answer 3

You dont need to married the woman if you believe that your parents will die. You can still love the girl without marrying her.

Age doesn't even matter. You are worried about the love of your life and your parents. And if age does matter then it shouldn't.

And only god knows when a person is going to die; not a Pundit.

The only thing I can tell is do what you think is right.

Answer 4

I think you are in a difficult situation because you would like your parents to approve of your partner. I would not say just go ahead and marry her because I think it will be painful if your parents dont accept you and her. But they are emotionally blackmailing you.
I would suggest that you wait for sometime- perhaps give yourself a litle time in which to convince them. Use this time also to think about your relationship and whether you are absolutely sure about it. In the meantime, try convincing them that nothing will happen to them. Perhaps you can find another pandit who will give you a different 'reading'- i.e. for example, that your marriage to this girl will give your parents peace and longevity???- and take your parents to this pundit! (Indians have long used different pundits to strategize!) If at the end of this time, you still are keen on marrying her, you can then decide whether the situation has changed with them or whether you will have to break their hearts...
All the very best!

Answer 5

WOW.. 2 yrs is not that big of a difference. If it's really an issue Isuggest you tell them my story. I have been happily married for 6 years to a man that is 16 years older than me. My parents are still alive and well. They were happy because I WAS HAPPY.. They should be wanting you to be happy and know that you love this girl... I hope this helps some.. Try to understan their point of view.. They may be afraid of losing thier only son.

Answer 6

You should never not take what makes you feel whole and happy over something a Pundit says to your parents. You only have so much time to live, and love, so don't let anyone decide what that is for you. Should you let them decide it now, when will you stop them from making all your happiness decisions?

Answer 7

Though I admit ignorance as to what a "pundit" is - your parents will not die for the reason of you marrying your love.

Answer 8

Okay, calm down for a second.

Deeeeeeep breath.

None of this is worth anyone dying over. Not you, not your parents, not the girl you're in love with. Love doesn't cause death, but being obsessed with the idea that someone has to die WILL.

You all need to sit down and discuss this. Go back to the priest and ask him to reread your stars, including hers and your parents. And then go to another one, and ask him to do the same. Keep going to priests until one of them tell you what you want to hear and listen to that one and not any of the others.

Answer 9

How do they know that they will die within one year after you marry her ...they dont they are using this to get to you

if you are of age and so is she then you have nothing to worry about marry her , your parents will come around eventually

just dont completely give up your family for her ...your family will ALWAYS be your family no matter what

Answer 10

your parents will be ok and no they will not die. listen I'm 2 yrs older than my husband and everything is great between the 2 of us. it's not about what your parents want when it comes to love and your happiness. remember when you get married it's not about your parents any more it's about you and your wife. so do what's going to make the 2 of you happy. parents have to know when to step aside and let their kids live their own lives.

Answer 11

How older are you...if your over 18 then your parents can't say whether or not you can get married. This is all on you. But just realize that divorce is expensive and can cause a lot of heart ache so think hard before you say "I do"