Could we be ready to have a baby?

Question

We're newlyweds and both still very young and although we have talked about having a baby we had already decided that the time just wasn't right at the moment. However, I missed my period and thought I could be pregnant so we took the test a couple days ago. It came back negative. I know we should be relieved but we were so excited and happy when we thought that we might be that I wonder now whether we are ready. When we thought we could be preganant we were already talking about how we could make it work. We have a million reasons why we shouldn't have a baby: we're both too young and still have lots of growing up to do ourselves, we work way too much and our jobs take us away from home and each other for weeks sometimes months. On the other hand, we actually can afford a baby right now. Is it possibly we're ready to have a baby after all?

Answer 1

i think if you were happy and excited with the thought of being pregnant , and not at all releived when it came up negative , i think you are ready .
seems that deep down you both were hoping . if you can financially afford it i would maybe talk more about trying to get pregnant .
good luck

Answer 2

The fact that you could afford it is great so if it were to happen you know you could do it. But you said yourself that you have some growing up to do and its great that you realize that but then you should know that if you wait a few years you will be more stable and be able to raise a child properly. You just got married learn to enjoy life together and how you will work though the tough times together, grow together, and then when you don't travel so much and can devote time to a child and live for your child and be at there beck and call....I think sometimes we always wonder if we are ready and some people say that you never feel like it is the right time but you do know when you are not.

Answer 3

My husband and I decided to wait a couple years before having a baby just so we could experience life with just the two of us. I think it's important to do this to establish a strong bond, so when you do have kids screaming and everything is focused around them and you may be stressed, you can look back at how you were and know it's not a relationship issue but just what comes with having kids. Having kids so soon after being married can have quite an impact on your relationship. Enjoy life for now. But if you both want a baby so bad then maybe it is what is for you. My husband and I are now trying to have a baby, it was hard to wait, but I'm glad we spent the time to really develop our relationship.

Answer 4

It would of been a happy mistake and yes you would of been happy, but there is a big difference between planning and a happy mistake. You may be ready you may not be, in my experience you are never ready, because once you have that little person there the reality check is huge even if its planned.
If I had my time over I would still have children but I would of enjoyed more time with my partner before hand and enjoyed them for a while first, then had the children, then once they have left home enjoy my partner again.
On another plus note if you plan as much as possible then you can plan financially too and have a baby when you can afford one too.

Answer 5

if between you and your husband you have a few thousand dollars saved then yeah financially your ready....if not i would wait until you can get that saved....i have an 8 month old son and i am 21 weeks pregnant again....it gets kinda upsetting towards the end of the pregnancy when you realize you have no money to go shopping for your new baby...couldnt decorate his bedroom or buy him nice things for his room...and on the other hand you'll have medical bills to pay for...for this pregnancy its going to be around a thousand dollars to have this baby....and in my situation i have no friends or family where i live so i never get a break...can never go out and have any fun...i live in the keys and i havent even been to the beach (sun is too strong for my son) so have as much fun as you can before you have your baby bc you might not have it afterwards...good luck

Answer 6

Guys since you though that you was pregnant and you were exited so emeans that you chould be ready, I don't know how old are you guys but I got my baby girl when I was 21 and my boyfriend was 20 we both were very insecure but with the help of God we still here raising two kids, you wont be disappointed all is worth. Babies are amazing. ( If you start early with your pregnancies you will enjoy more you babies ). Good Luck.

Answer 7

Having a baby is not like bringing home a kitten or a puppy. Your life will completely change. You honestly don't sound mature enough. Take your time. It is a huge commitment. My husband and I waited five years after we married to have our first. We were really ready by then.

Answer 8

the first person: she's a newlywed. lady, she's married.

the only suggestion i have is to think about it from the baby's standpoint.
Will it grow up with both parents always there?
no, obviously because you said that your jobs separates you guys for weeks on time.

so now, even if you are ready for the baby...is the baby ready for you?

Answer 9

so if you can afford to have a baby then have one..both of yous are probably very scared and that is why you feel you arent ready..plus your newlyweds so thats another factor..but when you thought you were pregnant and you were both happy then give it a shot

Answer 10

i dont think anyone is ever FULLY ready to have a baby have it be mentally or financially. a baby is alot of responsibility and i have met some people who weren't ready but still kept the baby and they have told me they wouldnt of had it any other way because once that baby is born some people have a whole new aspect on life.