i told my crush, a good friend of mine, "i think i have a crush on you" afterschool he NEVER expected that from me b/c I notice his face blush when he looked up at me when i said that. He looked at me and said "U just made my day" and left me there feeling confused. Next day afterschool he asked me if I wanted him to "wait for me". I stood there stump & before i could say something he was gone. Next days he looked at me alot at music class but then slowly he stopped talking to me or haning out w/me like before. so i asked a lesbian friend of both of us in the same class told me that he had told her that "he could not see me as a women, as the mother of his children". i was 17 at the time and he was 18. we used to play guitar together and laugh and talk about our lives together during class he gave me 2 of his best drawings that i still have and he took a picture with me before i left that class . What happened here? Did he ever liked me? y did he changed?
2006-07-29 07:01:43 · 8 answers · asked by Dr. Truth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Don't take it too close to your heart, as guys at 18 are not all that mature & settled (speaking out of my own experience when I was 18 some 15 years ago). I doubt that he knows exactly how he would like the "mother of his children" to be, and his definition of the "woman" he is looking for now will change, so don't bet on his view staying consistent.
2. The best way to get a relevant answer is usually to pose the question to the right person - which is him. Tell him how you (still?) feel about him and explain to him that his current action is out of line from his initial reaction to what you told him. See whether he provides you with a clear answer. That will help you gauge his feelings for you.
2006-07-29 07:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Simply Rob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were 17 at the time? how long ago did this happen? maybe he really loved you as a friend, but after u told him how you felt, he began to see u in a different light (obviously if he told this girl that he could not see you as the mother of his children). He was thinking very deeply about what you told him. Is there any way for you to have some contact with him? if so, ask him if he wants to get some coffee with you some time or maybe ya'll can go to a poetry reading or something? see if you can keep in touch with him somehow. I mean, ya'll were such good friends. Would you rather have a friend or a love interest? if he's that great of a person, he will be okay with the "friendship thing" with you and should be okay with picking up where you left off. Let him feel comfortable around you again, don't push any other kind of relationship. It will come naturally if it comes at all. Don't push and definitely don't rush. good luck and God Bless
2006-07-29 07:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its sounds like he did like you through his actions but maybe he was not ready for a relationship yet. Besides at that age his head isnt even screwed on right yet. If you were just thinking about this on a whim and remembering the past then you could take the next step and get over this and move on...... or you could try and find him through your contacts and try to find your way back to him. You need to be true to yourself and what you really want. Be it this guys love or finding resolution its up to you. I hope this helps and you find what your really looking for.
2006-07-29 07:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me dear, that he might have been flattered at first and then had time to think things out. Issues the different levels you two might have been on, and just came to the conclusion, maybe he did'nt see you in that light. That's o.k. Everyone has someone that is attracted to them. He was not yours. Set it free, lay it to rest, and move on. There is someone else for you!
2006-07-29 07:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by 1broWnMermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thought of you as a good friend, not as a girl friend and he got scared when you told him how he felt. He was not mature enough to tell you how that really made him feel.
2006-07-29 07:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when friendship becomes more, and 2 best friends become lovers, things will never be the same!
2006-07-29 07:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by dazed.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he did like u b4 u should ask him why he changed
2006-07-29 07:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweetmj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet you talked him to death!!!!!!!
2006-07-29 07:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋