i broke up with a guy 3 weeks ago and im still moping around the house..?

Question

it doesnt help that its summer time so there is no school to get my mind off of it. i dont want to waste the rest of the summer

for people with breakup experience..what are some things i can do around the house or out with friends to forget the ex bf?

Answer 1

i know how u feel. I felt liberated when i broke up with mine. But then things sometimes doesnt seems right too when they arent around and that u feel lonely and need someone to talk to and share your feelings. It does makes u wonder if it was a good idea to do what u did. BUt i think those feelings are completely normal.

U could try give him a call again and see how he is doing if its not too much. Or else i would suggest u to go out on a casual date or something. That would get ur mind off him. Whatever it is, only time can heal it and i know what u mean when u said u dont want to waste the rest of the summer. Thus, u should go out there and have fun. There's many things one can do to have fun. Clubbing, shopping, travelling etc..

Answer 2

First of all, the only time is NOW. Not the rest of the summer... not three weeks ago... NOW. Fear (which is what's going on when I'm in the past or future) doesn't happen when I'm in the moment. And though it doesn't feel like it--it feels like sad or depressed--it's fear: you've lost something that you (think you) had, or you're not going to get something you want.

Second, I can act my way into a better way of thinking, but I can't think my way into a better way of acting. When I feel sad, no amount of thinking about it is going to change the way I feel. I have to DO something... and it usually can't make a whole lot of sense. I treat myself to an espresso at a coffeehouse. I do my laundry. I do something that says that I care about myself. Maybe there's someone I might be interested in seeing; I'll try to arrange to meet with her.

Change sucks. Pain sucks. I'm fully aware that most of us, myself included, are on a quest to live a pain-free life. When I duck the lesson hidden in the pain, though--don't face it and move on--it's right there down the road of life with a different face. When I do square up with it, feel the pain, and keep connecting with people and asking for help, I get some hope.

And I pray, too. I'm not Christian or Buddhist or Muslim or anything like that... but there's SOMEthing that cares about me and I care about that thing. I hope I didn't lose you with this last paragraph, but it's a big part of how I deal with pain: I can't handle it alone; if I take on fear one-on-one, it will usually win and I'll end up on the couch with the remote.

One woman here wrote, essentially, "Live it up!" I know that doesn't seem to be a plausible answer right now, but it's a good one.

Answer 3

Well i am the kind who would try to find someone else for me but in real expeiriance i was kinda moping areound th house most of the day .. but what made me feel better was a fesh night out with the girls movies, whatever but he's not the only one around, meet new people... it's a full world out there !! Good luck

Answer 4

You need to get out of the house! The fresh air outside will do you some good as will a new setting. Try going to the beach, or lunch with the girls or a jog in the park.

Good luck and time will heal you.

Answer 5

How wonderful that you can feel the pain of a broken heart, because a broken heart will give you the strengh, understanding and compassion of being human. A heart that has never been broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the true joy of love that is given to you by family and friends. Go out and do for others.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what should you do but broking heart it hurt. this what I'm tell you. i don't know why y'all broke up but go out to a movie with a girlfriend or go to the mall some were you want see him then if that don't help they all say there more fish in the see were that one come from. i know i been there. i broke up with a guy 12 year a go and i meet this other one. and i in up married him been married for 12 year there hope i there just you got to get out that house and look for him.

Answer 7

Like you said it's summer, there are lots to do, go out with your friends, go to the beach, plan a small party for you and your friends just have a little fun, this will definitely take your mind off him and eventually you'll be completely over him.

Answer 8

Get into wicked shape. Excersice does wonders for self esteem. Go to baseball games and enjoy being single. flrit like crazy. Get some of your girlfriends to throw a car wash with you. That's a great way to meet guys. Give the donations to a local charity.

Answer 9

Well if YOU broke up with him, obviously he is NOT good for you! So pick yourself up and get your derrier out there to meet Mr. Right. Go volunteer somewhere. At an animal shelter, always hunky guys looking for a pet. At a hospital, full of young family memebers visiting relatives. Get creative and quit feeling sorry for yourself and get involved!!! Even at the parks or your local pool, what a hang out for young guys!!! Good luck and happy hunting!!

Answer 10

to be completely true with you! as soon as you get over it the sooner you will get your life back! i have plenty of breakup experiance and this is what you should do! start doing some things 2 get your mind of him! some fun things with friends! like sports or you could play this really interesting mind game called sudoku!go for long walks and think about what you didnt like about him and you will realise that no man is worth for your tears.