How do you play hard to get?

Question

I am a 21 year old female. I have never played hard to get and have always gotten in a relationship with a guy and given him everything from the start. Needless to say, i was never a challenge and the relationships never lasted. how do i play hard to get and get the guy to like me more and more without him losing interest in me. i always thought the guy would lose interest so i never tried it. and how long do i play hard to get? when i do accept a date, how far should i go on the first date? like should i make out on the first date? i would like to learn how to play hard to get without losing the guys interest.

Answer 1

Playing 'hard to get' is easy, you just limit communication and intimacy while continuing to flirt and draw their attention.

But I'm not sure that is the best technique to get what you say you are pursuing. You state you want to have a good relationship and to keep the guy around.

To do that: Find out what he wants in a long term partner, and see if you can become some of those things. After a short time, "playing hard to get" stops working. What will make a relationship is to find the symbiotic things that you can both do for each other to help you reach your long term goals.

How far on the first date? Here is probably where "playing hard to get" does have value. Err on the side of doing less. If it will be a good long term relationship, then it won't probably fail because you weren't physically aggressive on the first date. Wait a few dates before trying to ignite his passion. Let him create demand and wonder in his brain before you supply the goods.