2006-07-29 03:23:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes friends can see something in a partner that you can't.
They are on the outside looking in, while you could possibly be missing a few clues being stuck inside the relationship. Some friends may be resentful that a new partner is taking up more of their friend's time. This happened to me, a girlfriend's friend found herself seeing her less and resented me for "taking her away." Is he like a 3rd wheel when you are all together? Some girls can't be "themselves" when their friend's guy is around, or they can't check out other guys with you or do other things. Do you act different when he is with all of you? Or does your boyfriend act like a jerk? That is another reason. I knew a girl that loved her boyfriend and he was a total punk. He would get drunk and rowdy and put her down regularly but she still loved him and ended up getting a kid with him. Her father was a jerk and she was following a pattern. Love was definitely blind with her!
2006-07-29 03:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention why they hate him. I recommend you take a poll and see. If they responses are valid and you feel the same way, then you need to re- examine your situation and make the neccessary corrective action. If after doing all that and you still feel the same way then it might be that your friends need some time to adjust to the situation. After all you guys hang out alot before you fell in love. Try to get you friends to understand that you are just taking time to discover yourself and if they are truly good friends hopefully they will understand and give you the room you need and be there for support when you need it. That what friends are for. Hope this helps
Thanks
2006-07-29 10:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ian R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them to understand that you love him, and they need to except him. If you're friends have no legitimate reason for hating him, then they need to get over it and let you be happy. If they are truly your friends, and he's treating you well, then they are just being silly. Usually friends become like this when they feel their friend is in a poor relationship, could this be a factor in yours? If your relationship with your man is truly fine, then tell them that they need to support your happiness, instead of trying to break it apart.
2006-07-29 10:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore your friends and keep loving your boyfriend. If your friends are really your friends, then they will come around to accepting the man you love. They could just be jealous because you found such a nice man.
2006-07-29 10:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself why do they hate him? And seriously figure out if its something that you are willing to work with. Because you are so close to the situation you may not see how things are really happening... maybe they see things you don't... if you saw them from another perspective maybe you would see things different?
Your friends care about you. Listen to them... they've been around longer than your new boyfriend.
2006-07-29 10:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by breathofvitality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on why they hate him. If it's because he is bad for you, as in being abusive, I would say they're right. It could also be because they are jealous, either of him, or the fact that he takes up time that you aren't spending with them. If it's jealousy and petty, then you deserve better friends.
2006-07-29 10:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by sherrie_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go with what your heart tells you to do. I have a similar situation with my friends and family not liking my boyfriend however they see how happy I am and how well he treats me and they were satisfied that the situation is so positive. But this all takes time.....just have paitence and it will all work out I promise!! Good Luck!
2006-07-29 10:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your friends, I've been in this situation from friend perspective. and we were all right, her bf was an a$$ when our friend finally realized it, it was too late she was hurt, and the fact that we were right all along was no consolation
2006-07-29 10:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ot why they hate him then make a choice. They might just be jelos as well.
2006-07-29 10:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by pure-freak-734 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they will not respect your choice than their not true friends, my freinds hated my bf and I told them to back off, leave us alone and they did if they dotn listen to that then its tiem you all had a long talk!
2006-07-29 10:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by Booboo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋