I 'am 3 months pregnant ...Last week I had the flu....Me and my bf dont stay together so I called and asked him to come over and comfort me while I was sick. He said he was too tired and wanted to get a little rest. No matter how tired I am If he needs me Im there! So Somthing didn't seem right I decided to go over his house. I began to knock on the door..but I heard a females laugh..at that point I'd knew he had lied to me.. So I then knocked on the door..he would not let me in..I called his cell phone several times ..(that I could hear ringing)..And he didn't pick up. So I went to the back door (It's always open) I went right in and sure enough him and the another female in the house. I asked her what was she doing there..She said she gave him some money..I knew she knew about me cause she didn't park in the drive way she parked way way across the street. My bf didn't say anyhting..
2006-07-29 03:17:19 · 8 answers · asked by Kayla22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you pregnant by him,if you are well you and him need to sit and talk about it to work things out. most men do that when their mate is pregnant they don't feel attracted to pregnant women so they go and cheat.right now you have to claim down if not you might be hurting the baby inside of you.a lot of people go to tell you to dump him but don't.find out first if he is cheating,secondly your need to talk about the baby and get his point of view depending on what he said you can make a decision of moving on or work things out for the sake of the on born child.
2006-07-29 03:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the other female doesn't understand the concept of money. What I mean by this is he will need to pay you child suport. You will make him do this right.
This other female is an idiot for becoming invovled with someone who not only has a girlfriend but a preg. one at that. Him not saying a word. (GUILTY) He was caught red handed and he is hoping you are neive and will stay with him so he can continue to play on your emotions and cheat on you and I am sure in the back of his mind if he has this control over you then you won't seek child suport.
Like you said she parked way way across the street and he sat there in silence. When you called him he should of said to you not right now "girls name" is here I'll be over later. But he did not say that and that right there tells you he felt that he was doing something wrong and had to hide it. Doesn't matter if the "did" anything or not. The fact is he tried to hide it from you and that makes him a guilty man.
Do you have health insurance, if not ask the court or social services if he is responsible to pay part of those bills. When the baby is born he is responsible to pay part of the medical bills on the child. Talk with the court or social services.
Personally I think you should not be with this guy. Together or not make sure he plays his part in the childs life. Child suport and visitations. Don't use the child as a weapon though. Besides you will want your breaks from the child.
Also child suport and visitations are to separte issues (legally) So if he doesn't pay child suport he still has rights to see the child. I don't agree with it but it's the law. Play by the rules so he doesn't get a chance to gleam in your misery.
Good luck to you and your soon to be beautiful baby
2006-07-29 10:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to u. He is SCUM! If u weren't pregnant u probably could have beat up that girl. Scum like that dosen't deserve u as a mother for their child. I would get so far away from him. Put a protection order on u and the child for like forever so that way he knows what it's like to lose something he loves. It's just a matter of time before he realizes he misses what he left behind. And u deserve so much better. And u'll find better....
2006-07-29 10:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by VandyViolin09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your better off without him. I know that you are pregnant and it must be so devistating to find something out this way, but if he is that immature to get you pregnant and fool around on you then he is not worth crap. You are better off raising the baby yourself and finding a real man to take care of you and your family. From my own personal experiance, my brother in law met his girlfriend (of now 10 years) when she had just given birth to her son, he was about 6mths old. He is now the boys father and they are extremely happy. I wish you the best.
2006-07-29 10:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by dnelak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks man, and your pregnant. You need to have a serious talk with him and I can't believe that the girl knew about you and didn't give a rats *** that you are pregnant and that he is your guy. What is wrong with people? You need to think about if you want to stay with this guy seriously, even if you are pregnant, it may not be the best choice to be with him, I hope you find the solutions to your problem.
2006-07-29 10:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend you need a real man not that loser you have for boyfriend ,all i can tell you is to get someone who will be with you take care of you and give you the kinda loving you need just make sure that piece of sh*** pay child support .Because if he really loved you he would be by your side in the good or the bad times specially knowing that your having his baby, kick his as* to the curv
2006-07-29 10:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to let him go. I don't think that he can recover from you catching him cheating. He had no reason to cheat on you and you have been a great girlfriend. Don't worry about him, just make sure that he takes care of that child of his when you have it. Good luck on your pregnancy.
2006-07-29 10:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry he cheated on you. Remember once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-07-29 10:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋