I have fallen in love with this girl who is already engaged to someone else. We have been friends for a long time and I have told her about my feelings. While she respects my feelings she obviously cannot get involved with me. However to this day we continue being good friends. Unfortunately my feelings for her have not subsided and lately it has been getting in the way of our friendship. Please advice me on what to do.
2006-07-29 03:00:41 · 24 answers · asked by auh1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't risk your friendship and more importantly don't risk her relationship - if you really love her and respect her then you will let her go and not make things difficult for her at this point - you have told her, that is all you can do - she is with the man she wants to be with, you should have either made the move sooner or accept that she respects you as a good friend - move on - and wish her all the best in her future, be happy for her and look it - You don't have to stop being friends - I understand your position, but there really is nothing you can do except move on - it is not meant to be - please do not make waves - If something goes wrong with her relationship because of your interference she will never forgive you, and you wont forgive yourself.
2006-07-29 03:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may have to drop the friendship all together if you can't stop loving her. You have told her how you feel and that is all you can do. She is engaged and I am assumeing she chose to be engaged because she loves this man. I would hope she is not with him because she don't know how to get out. If that is the case you still need to back away. Being in a state of confusion can really suck but when you add another person it makes it even more worse to figure things out.
If you decide to drop the friendship all together just tell her that your feelings are getting in the way of your friendship with her. Let her know that all you want is for her to be happy and you don't want to cause any problems for her and you just can't handle being just a friend.
If you decide to stay friends then I recomend you being friends with her soon to be husband. I wouldn't come around too much. You know once a month or so. (You wouldn't want to be the cause of her breakup)
Good luck
2006-07-29 03:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound emotionally mature or stable enough to sustain a serious relationship. Of course, it doesn't sound like you're ready for a serious relationship either. How old are you, anyway? It's hard to read your question though, being as there's very little in the way of proper punctuation or syntax. You say that she loves you, but other than thinking about her a lot, how do you feel about her, and how does she feel about her fiance? If she's marrying someone that she doesn't love, I'd stay clear. Someone like that does not respect a serious relationship, or the feelings of her partners.
2016-03-27 05:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Profess you undying affections to her!!! I was in the same situation almost ten years ago. He was engaged and I was engaged but we were terribly crazy for eachother. We kept it to ourselves for fear of what the other would think and we didn't want to appear as fools. We both ended up getting married and 2 years later we found ourselves still craving eachother. It led to an affair that we cannot seem to end because of our love for eachother and we constantly admit the terrible regret we have over not bringing our feelings to light. We both agree with all of our being that if we had just told eachother how we felt we would be together now instead of apart and miserable. Tell her! It may be what she is waiting for!!!
2006-07-29 03:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by little closet freak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck with that! If we could all figure out how to control our feelings, there would be soooooo much less heart break in the world. Are you friends with her fiance? that might help a bit so you understand the other side of things a bit better. Or, try hanging out with another girl youre interested in. That might help.
2006-07-29 03:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this.. but you should cut the ties with her. It's obvious you can't be just friends with her and it's going to really hurt you in the end. You've told her how you feel and she's told you where she stands. This ones not going to happen. It would be better for both of you if you distanced yourself from this girl. Your love for her will only cause problems.
2006-07-29 03:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by moonshadow385 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop being such a dickweed! She is engaged and has refusted your advances so stop advancing on her you loser! If you really cared about her you would back off you jerk wad! Just be glad her fiance hasn't pounded you into oblivion! Of course you are a dork so he is probably as afraid of you as the russian army is of the pakistani army!
2006-07-29 03:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man. u just have to build up ciourage. I might be too too yuntg to tell this. But thats life. U need more courage to love, than to face a warfield. that too, ur position is too bad. all the best for ur success, if u fail. life isnt just like that. there'll bee more fishes in the ocean. go on
2006-07-29 03:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eddy you have a real problem and I'm sorry. You already know what you must do, and so I wish you luck in doing it. It's time to move away and on with your life. Wish her the best -- sincerely now -- and go find yourself someone you can have.
2006-07-29 03:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you snooze you lose. There are billions of great women in the world, move on and don't hesitate to initiate the next time you find someone.
2006-07-29 03:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Man with a plan. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋