I've been divorced since 1/05 and separated since 2/04. I've recently started dating. It feels like I'm dating for the first time in my life. I'm scared!!! My nerves are on edge and I'm not sure of the rules anymore. We are going camping today through Monday. I'd really appreciate any sincere help that I can get. So, how long should a person wait before having intercourse, without seeming desperate? Any other advice is welcomed too. Thanks for your help!
2006-07-29 02:25:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been dating for about 3 weeks. We've seen or spoken everyday in that time frame. Does that help?
2006-07-29 02:30:07 · update #1
Waiting time... How long you wait is up to you. If you feel comfortable a week later after your divorce or 2 years later. I don't think one can put a time limit on it. It's whenever you feel that your ready.
Rules of dating... Well for myself I make up my rules. I may not know what I want but I do know what I don't want. Personally for me I am in no hurry for a boyfriend. As far as intercourse, I'm not ready for that. I don't get too many dates with my approach. When a guy asks me out I tell them if there looking for a girlfriend forget it and if there looking for a one night stand don't bother calling. Other people rules may be sex sould come 2 weeks into it or even sooner.
I guess what I am trying to say is have your own rules and if they don't like it they can lump it.
Don't worry about looking desperate. Desperate are the ones who have sex to keep the guy around. "If I don't he will leave"
If you are comfortable and ready and willing that is not being desperate, that is being confident and wanting to share something special with someone who you care about.
In short... Waiting... up to you
Rules...Have your own
Your not desperate if you share something special with somone.
Don't worry and have fun camping and spending time with him
2006-07-29 02:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that really all depends on the person..some women dont wait they jump in the sack with the guy the first date...to me thats to soon!
I'm old fashioned when it comes to that i believe a woman should wait at least a month or longer before she gets in bed with someone the chances of it being a one night stand are less and if the guy waits and doesnt ***** about it hes all the more worth haveing!
2006-07-29 02:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by tess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Camping for a date? That is something a couple would do. I think a date consists of a day or night event. NOT an overnight event. Taking it very fast it seems. As for intercourse, what until you're married, if you choose to again. If you don't, not having sex will not kill you.
2006-07-29 02:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been told two things this week. A counselor told me that 5 dates is too soon. A friend (female) told me that 3-5 dates is normal for her.
It's your decision. The problem is that mating with someone fires up all these hormones that make it hard to judge if you like someone or are just craving to be physically close to them.
2006-07-29 02:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! The only thing that makes me a bit nervous is that you are having to ask the question, quite often, if you have to ask other peoples approval, it may mean that you have a doubt in your own mind that this guy might not be right for you.
I do however hope things work out whatever you decide.
2006-07-29 02:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual activity is healthy. If you feel it is time, then do it. It is not an act of "desperation." It also depends on your partner. Dynamics there are between you two, as I don't have adequate data. But go with what is in you. So worrying about what other people think or feel, and go with your instincts, and feelings.
2006-07-29 02:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax...you're not the only one in that boat, and some of our times are more expansive than your own. Humans have changed very little over the last few years. Everything you do should conform to your comfort level, relax, stay in the moment and when and if it's time, you'll decide, and you'll know. Have fun. (Safely)
2006-07-29 02:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The virginity ship has long since sailed, so that's not an issue.
I hope you're not taking kids with you.
If you're going to spend the night with a man who isn't your husband, everyone who knows about it is going to think you did the deed anyway.
If you want to have intercourse, please use latex condoms. And get some yourself. Don't assume he's got them.
2006-07-29 02:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both choices have consequences my friend.
what is a way of being you love in life? Pick that way of being and be that. What is right for that way of being that you have chosen for yourself and your life will give the right actions for you.
A way of being can be ALERT.....LOVING....GENEROUS...JOYFUL...you make it up.
And practice safe sex - good normal ordinary average people you know people .. have done all kinds oif things with thier bodies!
2006-07-29 02:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl enjoy yourself.
You deserve to be happy.
If the mood arises and it feels right then go for it.
Practice safe sex...whooo hoo camping.
Gotta love it!
2006-07-29 02:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋