am a virgin of seventeen years,and i want to keep my self till i get married,but my boyfriend is disturbing me for sex what should i do.and i cant afford to loose him because i love him so much.
2006-07-29 02:25:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF HES TRYING TO FORCE YOU TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM FORGET IT PROBABLY ONCE YOU GIVE IT UP HE'LL LEAVE LIKE MOST GUYS YOUR VIRGINITY IS SOMETHING VERY PRECIOUS AND YOU SHOULDNT GIVE IT TO ANYONE THAT WONT APPRECIATE IT I RESPECT THE FACT THAT YOUR TRYING TO WAIT UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED NOW AND DAY YOU DONT SEE VIRGINS. YOUR BF SHOULD RESPECT YOUR DECISION IF HE DOESNT LEAVE HIM IF HE CARES FOR YOU AND LOVES YOU HE'LL WAIT IF HE DOESNT WANT TO TELL HIM TO MARRY YOU FIRST I'M SURE THAT WILL GET HIM A LITTLE SCARED BUT IF ANYTHING JUST LEAVE HIM THEY'LL BE PLENTY MORE YOU MIGHT SAY YOU LOVE HIM NOW BUT THERE WILL BE OTHERS GUY ONES YOU'LL FEEL MORE STRONGLY THAN YOU'VE FELT FOR HIM TRUST ME I KNOW I'M ONLY 19 BUT I RUINED MY LIFE AT 17 WHEN I GAVE UP MY VIRGINITY TO MY BF THINKING WE WOULD BE TOGETHER 4 EVER AND THAT WE WERE GOING TO GET MARRIED YEAH RIGHT NOW HE'S WHO KNOWS WERE AND I'M STUCK AT HOME WITH MY 2 YR OLD SON I MEAN I KNOW MY SON IS A BLESSING BUT ITS HARD. GOOD LUCK WITH WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE
2006-07-29 02:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend truly loved and cared about you, he would not be pushing you to have sex. He should be proud to have a woman who wants to wait and doesn't want to sleep around. Don't let him push you into it. If he keeps insisting, the best thing would be to break up with him, even though you love him, because he is not respecting your wishes.
2006-07-29 09:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by TheGuru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm saving myself too..And if my boyfriend was pressuring me, then I would tell him straight up..
Unless you planning on putting a rock on this finger, You need to stop pressuring me.
But yea I know when you get someone that's really good to you, you really don't ever want to breakup with him, but if he really loves you, He'll respect all of your goals and aspirations in life, including being a virgin bride.
2006-07-29 09:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not 17 but i think thats too young to have sex i think u should wait till ur ,twenty and no point in condoms they'll break so it means having a baby at the age of 17
2006-07-29 09:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by nala c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT be pressured into sex. It could be your b/f is thinking wow a virgin, this is a conquest I haven't done. You see, sadly most girls are having pre-marital sex, not good. Think of it this way, if he respects you, he will NOT pressure you.
If he loves you, he will NOT pressure you. If he loves you so much he won't pressure you, repeat he will not pressure you. Don't be afraid to lose him, if he goes because of lack of respect for you, then consider it a blessing.
2006-07-29 09:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each of you is feeling what is appropriate to them.
Each of you has a Must Have item that other isn't providing. This is often time for compromise or breakup. You can't just keep it as an ongoing dispute.
2006-07-29 09:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no its up 2 u when to have sex or not if u wanna wait just tell him straight .he might say oh come on lets do it be fun or something just say no i think its good that r waiting for when u get married because i never could
and he should wait if he truley loves u or likes u if not get rid
2006-07-29 09:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by starship1239 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the urge of a man to have sex.. its all just physical.. once he is done with it then he'll repend (if he loves you) of not respecting your views... try & help him out of this... u can try to give pleasure to him without having intercourse..or try and be outdoor most of the time with him,, avoid staying indoor without directly letting him know that u'r avoiding.. god bless u both :)
2006-07-29 09:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't afford to loose him. If he doesn't wait then let him go. Keep your virginity if that is what you want to do. Or ask him to marry you first. Ask for things (material things: jewels, electronics, clothes)
2006-07-29 09:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldnt be putting pressure on you like that, if he loved and respected you enough he would understand that you want to wait, DO NOT GIVE IN! keep to your morals and own wishes, and course you can dump him theres plenty of fish in the sea
2006-07-29 09:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋