HELP...i need comments and opinions from all who know a thing or two?

Question

well me and my ex broke up twice,were takin a break..we have a little girl.the thing is we seem to get along better when were not officialy together,but when we r we constantly fight.at this moment we sleep,have sex,spend our free time with each other,we help each other out,financially and everything,tell each other we love each other..etc..everythign just like a good couple.the thing is that were not together..a relationship out of a relationship.everyone thinks its weird,but it works for us.we both hope to get back with each other,but fear that we will end up with the same result as before.we r not seeing anybody,and not interested on it...could the third time be a charm???please any help would be appreciated

Answer 1

You need to get to the root of the problems. Obviously you love each other and love being together, but you can't seem to live together. Is it money problems? Is it problems with sharing the work of maintaining the household? Do you irritate each other? There must be something that comes between you two when you are in each others space 24/7. Until you find out what it is and how to fix it, you will not be able to get back into a relationship.

Answer 2

It sounds like you might be a better couple if you look at redefining your boundaries. When you become "all and everything" together, you both feel confined. But when you have more flexibility, you are happier. Consider staying together, but with different boundary definitions. Your relationship doesn't sound weird.

Almost all good relationships break up and get back together - so don't let that discourage you.

Answer 3

Why not make a pact,and agree no contact for a month.When the month has gone meet each other,on a date.Bring the little one to the get together and see what transpires...GOOD LUCK