I mean I feel like I really love him so much and that is what kills me inside how much I love him so I think for my better judgement and my mental health and my priority (school and my GPA). I should just break up even if I love him. It has come to a point where I don't even feel I can match up to him like he is too great. He is more talented than me and all that so I just feel like if I date some idiot I won't like like my ex then I won't be attached to them and focus on prioritys too or if I just don't date anyone at all. I really love him though.
2006-07-29 02:04:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girly girly girly!! Why are trying to let go of a good thing? Yes, you should know you have priorities with school and need to keep up your GPA and what not.. but trust me you can have a great guy and do all that. If he's as talented and great as you say he is than he will encourage you to do well.. I'm sure he probably already does. Let me tell you something.. I've been with my guy fo two years.. I'm now 21 and he's 19. Don't you think I was a little hesitant because of the age thing? But he is very talented and such an excellent guy. He did some comedy stuff in high school and currently every week, he's a wood turner.. so he makes pens and bowls and stuff like that, he's a great dancer, which is the reason we fell in love, he's into fish, plants, flowers, cooking.. and he has a great relationship with his family. Did I mention he's a great guy and I couldn't be more happy? Trust me.. this was the guy that was always up on a pedestal to me. When I landed him I still look at him sometimes and wonder how I got so lucky! Sometimes I feel obsessed with him.. but then I realize that he loves me too.. and that if he's such a great guy with all these talents and he wante to be with me.. I must be alright, too. Don't date some idiot.. you'll figure out how to balance it all. If you love this guy than show it everyday and know that you are very blessed! But this is one to hold onto!
2006-07-29 02:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by moonshadow385 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Separately evaluate your list of Must Have's and ditch him if he doesn't meet them
1> I must have a b/f who will work with me on scheduling fun so I have time to do my homework. This might mean I stay at home on saturdays until 6pm.
2> Dating someone who's smart and will be able to teach children proper english and will be able to communicate instead of throw things is good. Why compare? People are always good at different things. Dating a dummy is a bad bad idea. They won't make any money. They can't communicate to solve problems.
As I said, make a list of the issues and evaluate them. An issue is best stated is 1 sentence, not 1 emotionally laden paragraph about all the side effects. Focus on THE ISSUE.
Good luck. If you love someone, you should go to family counseling with them.
2006-07-29 09:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is really kind of messed up!!!! Obviously you don't really love him all that much if you are seeing things in that light. Because if you loved him and he loved you he would be supportive of you and your schooling and he would be there for you no matter what. You would just find that happy balance of being happy with him while still paying attention to your schooling and what not. I am thinking if you say you love him but want to go out and date some idiot just to forget about him that he is better off without anyone that would do that to him!!!!
2006-07-29 09:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I realise you're just young. But if this 'is' love... why would you throw that away???
Don't second judge yourself, he is obviously with you because he thinks you're as wonderful and fantastic as he is.
Do you see yourself marrying this guy one day? If not.. yeah, move on with your life.
If yes, then don't you think that you can focus your attentions on your school work so that you can have a fantastic career and many wonderful, long, love filled years with your lover?
Perhaps you are just spending too much time with him at the moment, tell him that you want to concentrate more one school studies. Ask him to give you space, and dedicate time to him, so that he knows you're not just blowing him off.
If he has a problem with giving you space and time, lose him.
2006-07-29 09:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by kara_nari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you love him and he loves you then this question shouldn' t have come up in the frist place. If you are thinking that you are not the right match for him then don't let the nagative thoughts come to your mind. try to think Postive I mean that you should always have a Postive mental attitude. To get to think Postive Build up your Confidence level. I would suggest you read the book Sucess Through a Postive Mental Attitude . It would definately help you.
2006-07-29 09:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately focus on your school right now. But that doesn't mean you have to break up with your boyfriend unless he takes away from that.
My biggest concern is your self-esteem. Hi is not "too great". You don't need to "match up" to him. You need to concentrate on your own special talents. There is no-one you are not good enough for.
2006-07-29 09:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa was that difficult to read. You sound like you're about 12. If you are that young or close focus on school and chill on the love thing. You have plenty of time for that.
Now, one thing I don't like that I read is that you're putting value on who you are based on what he is or does. That is not healthy. I'd say be friends and find your self-esteem and start working on it. You don't have to be boastful and conceited but you need to find value in yourself.
2006-07-29 09:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋