We had a fight last night and he went to his family. Today in not so many words he let me know. When i told this to his brother he thought I was kidding and that his brother would not do such a thing.
I belive he is trying to controlle me and the break up so what do I do he has a 4 year old boy and a 13 year old daughter.
2006-07-29 02:03:37 · 21 answers · asked by ikis&tel 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
DO NOT, and I repeat do not stay in a relationship because someone says they are going to kill themself if you do. This is a a way to control you. Leave, however, when you do, be sure to contact authorities for a welfare check of him. Simply state that when you left that he ..... " I will kill myself ". You must be strong for yourself and MOST IMPORTANTLY for your children. Do not subject your children to this. Children do not have the choices we adults have - advocate in the most loving way for your children. By staying there you are not. REMEMBER - and this is important - "YOU" or "ANYONE ELSE" is not responsible for the actions of your husband. Each person has a choice. Whatever he does, "HE" and "HE HIMSELF" chose that action. Not you. I pray for you - be strong, and trust God.
2006-07-29 02:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the blue pages for the nearest Crisis Intervention Center - you can give them more information than you did here and they are better trained to help you. Yes, you can call the police and they will do a welfare check - and it will be an option for him to be taken to a hospital and admitted to the psychiatric ward - however he'd have to be willing. The only way to get him to go unwillingly is to "Baker Act" him - but that usually requires some kind of "proof" he is a danger to himself or others. He may be bluffing to exert control over you - or may not be - but do NOT let him come back to you if he is unstable and refuses to seek help. Let him know you will take his threats seriously and that kind of talk will NOT be tolerated.
2006-07-29 02:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he continues with this behavior, call the police and have him evaluated by a psychiatrist. this is not a joke. This may be a way of his trying to controll you, but you can't take chances. He may be serious, don't find out too late. He could be forced to go into the hospital for 72 hours just for an evaluation if he is threatening suicide.If this is an attempt to controll, I doubt if he would do it again and if he is sick he will get the help he needs.
2006-07-29 02:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, earlier answer was correct. Get the Police to take care of the situation. Make your soon to be ex know that suicide threats are not a joke, and you will call the Police everytime he makes such a threat. Do not allow him to control you this way, it's one of the worst grips. And if he's selfish enough to kill himself, do not believe for one minute that you had anything to do with it. He's a sick person. Would you blame yourself if he O.D.'d on drugs? Or Alchohol? No, you'd know he did that to himself.
2006-07-29 02:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get out of this relationship, this is no way to live your life and also no way for the kids to live their lives. It is too bad for him, he does sound like he is trying to control you. You must have low self confidence to let somebody control you like that . If you do get out, years down the road you will look back and wonder why you put up with that, and you will be very glad you arent there anymore. Have some common sense, does anyone really need to tell you that this is an unhealthy situation? He needs help and I dont think you are going to be able to transform him.
2006-08-01 15:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he might harm himself call the local police or mental emergency services, let them take tha worry off your shoulders. Then get yourself some help from a mental health professional or from your local woman's resouce center because if he is controlling and manipulative now that is only a short step away from becoming physically abusive. Have a safety plan for you and the children.
2006-07-29 02:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by mclone2001a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses help, and you think he is just saying this to control you, do your best to move on with your life because he will keep doing this to you. If you believe he is a danger to himself or others, call the police and let them know. Some places have emergency mobile mental health units that can evaluate someone. If he is truly sick, and is serious about his threats, he will need to be evaluated by a professional. If he does not get the help he needs, it will just get worse.
2006-07-29 02:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you on here? What's wrong with you? Do you even SEE anything at all wrong with being in a question and answer forum if you really believe that he is out there somewhere trying to kill himself? Are you out looking with the laptop on your lap typing as you're out looking. Come on now lady! THINK!
and if this is a REAL situation (and you're just weird enough to be on the computer during this crisis) I suggest you baker act him! Call the police and they will toss his butt into treatment. Suicide is a crime you know? Even threatening it get's everyone all concerned and get's him a one way ticket to the padded bin for evaluation and help!
2006-07-29 03:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough Details to be thorough with this answer, but I certainly wouldnt hang around there. If He is in that state of mind I wouldnt wanna be a sitting target if he decides to turn his aggression on you. If he is Controlling and abusive then I'd say you probably know what needs to be done :-s Be strong and Good Luck
2006-07-29 02:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps call your mental health dept at the hospital and ask them for some advice. The fact the he is giving you hints is often a cry for help. Might be good for him to get some help to sort out the issues
2006-07-29 02:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by At the seashore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋