my girl and i broke up and want her back?

Question

my gf and i been together for almost a year and good friends for about 3 years. she has close guy freinds and when we broke up im scared of someone taking my place. because i have fallen so far in love with this girl, i think about her every sec if we are together or not, i just need help or a sign, because i stress out so bad over her, i can feel the love when she is around and everything,

Answer 1

You might have a chance with her, and you might not. If you can, I'd suggest you try to determine whether she's entered a committed relationship with someone else. Let me assume that at the very least she is available and will talk to you.

First, sometime when you're thinking somewhat clearly, make a quick list of the things that led to your breakup. Were there specific issues that came up; did they, in part, involve your behavior; are you sincerely interested in, and capable of adjusting those things on your side that created conflicts? Take a deep breath--you may or may not want to go through what's entailed there!

It's also possible that she's not perfect in every way and that you've reacted to some of that, even appropriately! How much do you expect HER to change so that she doesn't make you crazy when you're together? If it's a whole lot, you may not be cut out for each other. Be honest with yourself when you're thinking about this.

Assuming that you've done all the difficult soul-searching and assessment that we've discussed. I want you to remember the very best times you had with this woman. What delighted her? What was natural and fun. You are going to need to turn this on for her. When you tell her how special she is, emphasize the positive. Stay away from pain and suffering. Good luck, man!

Answer 2

If you broke up, it was the consequence of everything that has led up to it, meaning that it should have happened.

If you're needy and need to feel external love and have someone external bring you happiness, you are looking in the wrong place. It's over. You need to have fun and happiness alone and stop obsessing and thinking you can get her back. Mourn the loss. Have fun by yourself. When you're down, do something fun like go bike riding, lay in the sun, go to the pool, play a video game, watch a movie, read a book--anything to break the current obsession. Your stress hormones will keep you in the dumps otherwise.

Answer 3

So go stab the other guy she might be with and tell her everything you just told us.

Answer 4

well it all work out as soon as you find out if she wants you and loves you as much you do her...