i been dating this girl for almost a year, she is a great person and was a amazing gf. we would go out every night and have the time of our lifes, i would take her on trips take her out to eat and i knew i was in love because everytime we get into fights i wanted to just break down in frount of her. she is the only girl i ever cryed over in my whole life. anyways i have alot of friends thats are girls and well they would text message my phone and i would text them back and ask how they are doing and stuff. anyways when my gf was aroind i would hide it and tell her not to worries about because she was the girl i wanted to be with. and well months went on and i kepted hiding it and she saw one of my old ex's text me and i lied and she knew i did and we broke up. every sec i hate myself for what i did. i cryed to her on the phone and told her how i feel about her. and hse has alot of guy friends and im scared someone is going to replace me and that would kill me, what to do???
2006-07-29 01:53:25 · 13 answers · asked by RACER Chad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, you lied about sending a few text messages? And you lied about having an ex-girlfriend? What you did in the first place doesn't sound terribly bad. Lying about it--that can put a lot of stress on a relationship. It implies one of two things--that you are (still) interested in playing the field, getting interested in other women, etc., all the while trying to maintain a "steady" relationship with #1. OR, there's an immaturity, an insecurity with you that flares up when you're around #1.
There's some growing up to do. #1's father is probably worried that you're not acting like a real stable guy right now.
You're probably lucky that you are going to have a week "off."
As wonderful as this woman is, it will not kill you to be separated for a while. Prove that to yourself this week. Remind yourself that your'e a great guy who has lots of teriffic friends. Maybe there's a place in your lives for each other, and maybe not. If you get yourself pulled together, think about this: she's going to respond to some of the things that got the two of you together in the first place. If every conversation is going to end up with crying and apologies, it's probably not worth pursuing.
2006-07-31 03:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by EXPO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must let her know how you feel . Apparently she felt the same. I don't think she would have been offended by your female friends if you were more open.
You found a good thing and should have mutual friends.I know when I married that my wife didn't care for some of my friends. My friends are gone, my wife is still here.
She must be more important in your life. Let her know she is, let her know you are prepared to give up whoever she finds offensive and will never hide things from her again.You owe her a big time apology
2006-07-29 02:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you really cared about this girl, but also wanted to keep being friends with the other girls from your past. This is what broke the deal between you and your girl. For instance in my relationship, my boyfriend kept getting phone calls from this girl who screwed with his head really bad. I told him to not pick up the phone, and he tells me he hasn't talked with her. Sometimes, you've got to break away from the ex-girlfriends, because it is a real threat to the good relationship you have (or had) now. I know how you feel, and how you probably want to keep peace with everyone from your past. But your friendships with your ex-girlfriends seemed to be a liability in this relationship. If your friendships with your ex-girlfriends are more important, than perhaps it is time to move on. The best thing would have been to be honest with your girl and tell her about your friends and ex's.
2006-07-29 03:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you break someones trust, it's very hard to get it back. Complete honesty is always the best way to go. If it bothers your girlfriend that all these female friends are texting you then cut it out. If she is the most important one in your life then you might have to make some sacrifices to keep her.
In the meantime, send her some flowers with a card explaining yourself and how you feel without her. Keep communicating with her and maybe, you might win her back.
Good luck.
2006-07-29 02:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth and explain to her why you kept it form her and why you lied to her, but be aware that once girls think they cant trust you, most of them will take a while to trust you again, this may take some time, but if you really love her im sure you can do it
2006-07-29 02:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by rachael01181990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-19 05:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u were only txting ur friends dat r girl wat was the harm in telling her. if u werent cheating on her then i cant c y u couldnt of told her. if i was the girl u were goin out wit u would have to grovvel pretty hard to get me back cuz dats jus summit i cant get ova.
2006-07-29 02:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your g/f you want her back don't blubber over the fone. tll her how you feel in person. tell her how jelous you feel when she's around the other guys and when you get back together be totally honest u lurve her right?
2006-07-29 02:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by elmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls are very sensetive about this things. just ask her to give u another chance if only u r ready to finish this silly act.
2006-07-29 01:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an worry-free one. one ought to be "I keep in mind". this is sturdy approximately heart breaks and love. Then there is Brittney Spears, "From the backside of my broken heart", and yet another ought to be Christina Agiulera's "I turn to You." desire this helps.
2016-10-08 11:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋