I have started talking to a woman recently who I dated briefly years ago.We talk several times a day and the last time is usually for 2-5 hours. She has a long distance bf of about 3 years she is visiting right now. She has written me several times and called me 15 times on her way to visit him. She sent me a present for my bday. I told her I like her and she responds "right now" I cant respond to that or that she is already with someone. He is moving to hawaii and "they" agreed she would stay here for her job. What should I do? I really believe she likes me, but she won't admit it. When we got back in contact I was not expecting to develope any feelings for her, but I have. I sent her flowers to her work and she loved them even though the other employees know she has a bf and they were from someone else. How should I interperet all of this and what should I do? Some have told me to just wait til she gets home and just "be there" for her. Help???
2006-07-29 01:46:54 · 13 answers · asked by trapper26_71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, to give a little more insite about the history between us for those who care or choose to respond to my question I started a blog on my yahoo360. Look it up and give me some advice I would appreciate any help/advice I can get. Thanks
2006-07-29 02:46:31 · update #1
chuck her, she sounds already more trouble then she is worth.
2006-07-29 01:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gingerbread Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you attempt to demanding, keep it straightforward. supply her a decision and ask her if she is loose over the weekend, dont anticipate she will have the flexibility to be. Then ask her if she fancies going for a meal or a drink. If no then dont hassle, she would have already made plans. only say we will do it yet another day then. If she says confident then bonus. decide on your meal/drink and only chat... likes/dislikes/song/movies. keep it casual, no pressures. If the subject count turns greater very own then tell her which you're insecure yet you're slowly working by using your themes and attempting to make a sparkling start up. Thats the main considerable subject with lads...they under no circumstances exhibit their emotions and us women aint strategies readers. Dont profess your timeless like to her as she must be insecure herself, feeling rejected and harm from once you split in the previous. besides if everythin is going ok ask her in case you may ring her next week and enable her come to a variety what day you will desire to call. it will take the countless stress off you as to while and how in many cases you will desire to call. solid success :P
2016-12-10 17:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is she breaking up with the bf or what? If not, she's playing with you. How would you like to be in her boyfriend's shoes? Maybe she likes you, maybe she just wants someone to fill the gap left from bf. She's in an awful hurry. Maybe he's moving to get away from her :) Or do they have one of those "open" (read "contagious" :) relationships? Take your time and use the right head.
2006-07-29 02:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she gets home go to dinner and reveal her your feelings. Tell her that if she loves you she cannot deny it forever but if she doesn't you two can stay friends. It can be a little awkward if she says no but you have to try so if she has no feelings for you, come on you wont stay home crying you ll go out and meet a girl that will love you. But I think from what you wrote that its a beginning of one great love story. Good Luck!
2006-07-29 01:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she is calling you doesnt mean anything.
Don't read too much into it, until she tells you that she likes you.
Women often send men presents on their birthdays, that's what friends do. We also say thank you when men send us flowers. Regardless of who sent them, its flattering and deserves a thanks.
I personally think you should wait until she is OUT of this relationship before committing yourself to her again.
You might just get hurt.
Best of luck.
2006-07-29 01:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by kara_nari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right if your really have feelings for her then wait just dont get yourself hurt thats always the pits and be understanding it will work out the way it needs to sooner or later
2006-07-29 01:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes cheatin on her bf withyou, and are you really willing to have a relationship with a cheat? saying once a cheat always a cheat comes to mind.. but if your really set on being with her just ask her out straight, is there any future for you two being together, you need to ask it straight out and stop messing about.. ring her up and ask her to make a decision cause your sick to death of being messed around
2006-07-29 01:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ball is in her court ,if you truly care about her you can't do anything but wait. You should be glad she won't cheat on her man, that way if you eventually hook up you would know you can trust her.
2006-07-29 01:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tzipor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait till she gets home. Being torn between two lovers is hard. Don't wait to long!!
2006-07-29 01:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by cindycara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want an honest answer or an answer you would like to hear? What would you feel if you were her boyfriend and she was doing that?...Find someone who deserves you...:) She's not the one.
2006-07-29 01:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,ur female friends are right,u should'nt jump to any conclusions about her feelins cos them ladies are complicated,wonderful but complicated.just be there for her as a friend cos if its meant to be,it will.been there myself so just hang in there
2006-07-29 01:53:58 · answer #11 · answered by avril m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋