Is it considered cheating if you are married to someone, but have never had sex with them. Years later you descide you want to experience what sex is all about so you enter into a relationship that turns into both partners falling in love. You cant leave your husband because he has had health problems for years. So you stay and your health becomes effected from all the guilt and worry.
2006-07-29 01:41:25 · 13 answers · asked by she b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only person you can ever really cheat on is yourself. Your only obligation is to be true to yourself, after all, it's *you* who has to live the only life you've been given. When you're clear on what being true to yourself means, it begs the moral obligation of total honesty with everyone whose life has been impacted by you. Morals are up to you to decide for yourself, but your life is the only one to which you are truly indebted.
2006-07-29 01:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by greendog07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, legally you are committing adultery.
Im sure there is a decent reason why you have never had sex with your husband. Most people wait until they are married to have sex, and you still did not.
Im guessing you didnt marry out of love, so no, technically it's not cheating. Enjoy your relationship with your lover.
If you feel it's possible you could try talking to your husband about it. But don't feel too guilty, because it's not like you are sexually involved with more than one person.
2006-07-29 01:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by kara_nari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because you are married but never consummated the marriage it is a legal reason to get a divorce. But you are still in a relationship with your husband and what you did is considered cheating whether the marriage is consummated or not. I believe it is a lack of respect to yourself and your partner when you cheat and if you are feeling that guilty you need to just get out of your marriage. It is great that you found love but it was at the expense of your marriage. I feel bad for your husband because you are a terrible spouse. Sorry if that is harsh but the truth hurts sometimes. You have no one to blame but yourself......
2006-07-29 01:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What verdes0j0s is correct. However, married or not you are still with someone (sex doesnt make a relationship) and that makes seeing someone else cheating. What you need to ask yourself is why you didnt consumate the marriage in the first place? Seems a little strange. If your not happy leave him - ill or not - you have to live your own life and do what makes you happy. Hard choice I know but do what is right for you.
2006-07-29 01:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by LifeChange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're still married to that someone. There's commitment, despite not having sex it is still considered cheating even if your husband doesn't mind it I'd still call it cheating. You have a husband you should do everything with. That's called marriage.
2006-07-29 01:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Staccato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have lusted for another in your heart ( and you have) and already commited the act ( you say you have) in Gods eyes you are cheating and you are an adulterer or adultress. either way, He says only the spouse of the cheater has the right to divorce. He looks at that one sa if they were never married.
I am not judgeing you but letting you know what God thinks of it. Remember its also his word that ( do unto others as you would have them do unto you) so be prepared cause it will happen, God does not say worthless things or idle words, his words are promises.
my personal opinion is yes its cheating
2006-07-29 01:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by kerryjonjon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cheating on your husband *shakes head*, divorce him its cruel on him the fact your going behind his back with another man, and why havent you had sex with your husband?
you cant sacrafice your own happiness and health, because you feel guilty about leaving your ill husband, its sad that your marriage has turned out to be like that.. you need to seperate for both your sakes, unless you can learn to love your husband only once again and stop being unfaithful, you should have spoken to him about having sex before you went finding it somewhere else
2006-07-29 01:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's still cheating. If you're married to someone you can't justify having sex with someone else.
If your husband is sick and you're taking care of him... if you can't leave him then you should talk to him about having an open relationship. If he knows and agrees then I guess it's ok.
It would still be infidelity in my mind though.
2006-07-29 01:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hmm i think you should follow your heart because its always truthful will never miss led you and as far as staying married to your husband umm thats a good question and only you can answer i cant you would have to think long and hard about what you want not how it will affect others be selfish its okay once in a while but please really think!!
2006-07-29 01:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married to someone and never had sex with them - the marriage is not consummated, and is legal reason for divorce
2006-07-29 01:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by verdes0j0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋