is it wrong to cheat on your bf/gf?

Question

my friend is cheating on her bf with another man, should i tell him? Or should i confront her and force her to tell her bf?

Answer 1

it is probably wrong - but it is certainly silly. when you cheat on a partner you remove the trust between you. when the trust is gone there really is no more relationship left (and the sex is awful).

ladycoach is right, your friend's relationship is really very little to do with you. unless forced into a corner you should avoid telling her bf, or even directly pressuring her to tell him: if you do either of these things, neither of your friends will thank you. (they probably won't be your friends any more).

it may be worth your while talking to your friend about why you think what she is doing is wrong. she may have reasons you haven't considered yet.

but essentially your friend is hurting her boyfriend (which is between them:- he chose her) and hurting herself more (which is her business).

your friend must find her own answers, so must her boyfriend.

do you know the william blake saying:

'If the fool would persist in his folly, he would become a wise man.'

Answer 2

There are two sides to every story.
Perhaps you don't know everything that is going on in their relationship. For all you know they could have an open relationship.

In my opinion cheating is bad, however there are so many 'worse' things that a person can do to their lover in a relationship.

Cheating on their loved one does not necessarily mean that the love is not there anymore. Sometimes a person can cheat because the love they are getting from their significant other isn't enough. (Emotionally and comfortably enough, but not sexually enough).

Other times a person can cheat because they are questioning their love for their lover. Instead of breaking up instantly, they sleep with someone else to see how it makes their feelings change.

I don't agree with on-going affairs, or constant cheating.

Anyway in answer to your question, no. It's not your place to tell her boyfriend, nor is it your place to force her to tell her boyfriend. Sure talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel about it, but you know, it's her business.

If you want to get involved, go to the other man and have it out with him. Im not suggesting thats a good idea either, but it's not going to affect the relationship between your friend and her boyfriend.

If you are really really bothered by it, just stop being her friend, and if she has a problem with that, she will stop on her own accord. Good luck.

Answer 3

wow that is a sticky situation. Of course it is wrong to cheat on your partner, it is dishonest and hurtful. If you are with someone and want to be with someone else you should have enough balls to inform the person that you are with or else you have no business being in a relationship with anyone. I would not tell your friend's boyfriend about her other man. I would however clue your friend in that you know about it and urge her to do the right thing and come clean. Sounds like she needs some common sense instilled in her. Hopefully after you confront her about it, she will so the right thing. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I think having a BF or a GF is something like a commetment. so if you are cheating on him\her so why did you know him\her on the first time. It looks compelcated to alot of people but it's not that much. If i had a girl friend I would never cheat on her. not because i'm "mester good guy" but because I sow her i liked her then i made the first move. so why should i cheat on her.

I hope my isea is clear.

Answer 5

Well I would have to say that... if you an this girl are good friends an you wouldn't want to ruin your friendship with her then I wouldn't say a thing to her bf. But then again if this bf of hers really loved her then I would let him know even if it wasn't my place to tell because I know I would want someone to let me know if my bf was cheating on me so I can get out an not waste my time on him any longer.

Answer 6

She doesn't exactly sound like good "friend" material. If she will cheat on her boyfriend, what will she do behind your back? Talk to her and tell her what you know. Tell her that she needs to tell her boyfriend or you will. Give her only a short time to handle things. Then put some distance between the two of you and start making some trustworthy friends.

Answer 7

Never B tempted 2 let the cat outta the bag URself.
The 2 of them may turn on U instead of pointing the finger at 1 another.
Make UR feelings clear 2 UR friend that U don't agree with her behaviour.
Cross UR fingers & hope that in time it will all work it's self out.
UR friend will get burnt & hopefully learn her lesson that Cheating's a nasty pastime.

Answer 8

First off, YES it is wrong. Be careful here. If you drop a dime on her you could lose a friend. SO if you are not friends with her b/f too then tread lightly. BUT you could also like leave an anon type note telling him the details or times and places she is with the other guy and let him catch her himself. But if you get caught be ready for the consequences.

Answer 9

Thats a tricky one. Firstly yes it is wrong to cheat on a bf/gf, their are no excuses. If you don't want to be with someone then they should cut ties first and then move on.

Personally I would stay out of it, but make sure your friend is aware of how you feel, that what she is doing is wrong.

Answer 10

Of course it's wrong! She may be your best friend, but what she is doing is wrong. Tell her to confront the truth with her boyfriend, and if she still won't tell him, then im afraid it's up to you.
Good luck Xx

Answer 11

It is wrong of her 2 cheat. U should tell her 2 leave one of the blokes of both as she obvoulsly has no respect for either