Is spanking alloud?

Answer 1

Spanking lowers a child's IQ.

Spanking teaches a child that someone who loves them can hurt them.

Spanking causes resentment and hurts the parent-child relationship.

Spanking does not change behavior, but causes kids to HIDE their behavior.

Spanking often gets out of control.

Spanking is scary.

Spanking DOESN"T WORK!!!!! For all these reasons, spanking is not allowed in any home where the parents are actually thinking.

To discipline a child means to teach a child. Our two sons have never been hit. Not once. And they are wonderful boys who are admired by adults for their politeness and industry, and gentleness.

Start with a good foundation - no formula, no day care, no sleeping alone at night. With a good foundation, the child learns to trust you and wants to please you. Stick a child in day care, and forget it, all bets are off. You've betrayed your child and the desire to please you is gone. Of course, then you owe your kid and must bend over backwards to create those conditions anyway.

So, get a good foundation, spend lots of time playing with your child (15 minutes every hour should be focused on them), express your happiness at their nice behaviors, and explain what you expect from them.

Do these things, and you will be discipling and you will not have a need to 'punish.''

Remember, punishment only works to change behavior in humans if it is guaranteed to happen every time, and is very very severe.

How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is a very practical, helpful guide to parenting without abuse (all violence is abuse - don't let others lie to you that you can kindly or gently hit a child. It's the talk of people abused as kids who who want their turn to hurt others.)

remember the stupid bible verses quoted to justify the abuse of children are from solomon, a father who is hated by his children. these are not the words of god. jesus himself said that anyone who distresses a child should be cast into the sea with a millstone around their neck. plus, shepards don't beat their sheep - they guide them.

People who endorse hitting kids are just sick.

Answer 2

A lot of people believe spanking is more harmful than good and sometimes this is true. However, used only when necessary (such as affirming a reason not to do something potentially fatal - like blindly running into the street) and done properly, it does very little damage besides a few moments of a sore bottom. The "proper" way is to ONLY use the hand and use just enough force to get attention. Using items, such as a spoon or stick makes it easy to hit harder than necessary and you could get arrested for child abuse if you were found to be causing bruises (which you never should be doing).

Answer 3

yes I think spanking is aloud. But that also depends what your definition is of spanking. Are referring to an adult or a child. As a child my mother abused me and I was spanked with anything she could get her hands on. I only spanked my grandchildren with my hands and you would have thought otherwise.They screamed their head off because I had hurt their feeling. Or just a little spank on the fanny with my hand, or threatened to spank them with a paint stirrer,.. Sometimes it just takes a look or clapping my hands. We have a consequence box for each, and do they hate to draw from it. Each box is different because what works for 1 doesn't work for the other. In God's word it say don't spare the rod or they will get spoiled. Here He is taking about something like a switch.
Now if you are talking about adults I think that during that intimate moment a spank on the fanny enhances it but not to the point it of it being sadistic..

Answer 4

Only if you do it in the right way. It's a free country, and spanking is not abuse- like I said, if it's in the right way-

Here is how my husband and I spank our children:

answer: out of pure love-
never out of anger,
never with a raised voice.
Firmly, but not to hard.
with consistancy
I spank my children for 3 things, and 3 things only:
1. Lying
2. Disobedience (I mean obeying your voice the 1st time)
3. bad attitudes

If they got these 3 down pat, they will be very well-behaved children. Very pleasant to be around. When one of these 3 things are broken, I get the paddle (wooden spoon usually), and they must touch the bed, and stand still to get their spankings. Usually about 2 or 3 firm ones. Enough to sting. Depends on the crime. I hate lying more than anything, so they might get about 7 of those for lying. Then, after the spanking session is over, I ask them why they got spanked. They must tell me why, or some kind of communiction went wrong. Then they must say they are sorry, and name the thing they got spanked for. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough. They must say "I'm sorry for _______". Then I give them a hug, love them up, and tickle them or something to keep the communication lines open. never tell them to go to their room after you spanked because they will just think of reasons why that was so unfair, or why they were right, and you were wrong. Yes, spanking must be administered in love. Never spank for accidents, or things like they are just being kids- such as running around, or being loud or things like that (unless you tell them to stop- then that would be disobeying.) I am a mother of three, and have peaple begging me to babysit my kids because they are happy, sweet, enjoyable children. Perfect??? Haaa!!! NOPE!!! But they are enjoyable to be around for the most part. I love them, and spend time with them, read them books on free time.

Hope this helps- and a key word is CONSISTANT- don't spank them for something one day, and let them get away with it tomarrow, or this method won't work. It's not easy, but rewarding.

Answer 5

Yes, in the US and in all 50 states. Every states law is different but if you are talking about spanking on the bottom without leaving marks you are ok

Answer 6

Well hell ya as long as you don't abuse your kid. I am a strong believer in spanking. Spanking never hurt a child if done with control. I don't understand the people who say it's child abuse. It's not. It's called D-I-S-C-I-P-L-I-N-E!!!!!!!! My son is not an abused child but a child that knows when i mean business i mean business. My son is a very happy boy and understands rules and understanding.

Answer 7

If used sparingly and in appropriate situations yes. If used as the main form of discipline, it loses it's shock value, unless you abuse the spanked person, then you damage them emotionally. But a good potch now and then is good for the child if used correctly.

Answer 8

yes spanking is allowed. not abuse, but chastening your child. they need to know that you are directing them in the right way. you wonder why these kids nowadays are acting out as they are. because people are allowing the kids to run the parents. some parents take it to the extreme, and take their problems out on the child or children. when you spank your child don't do it when you are angry. you calm down first. you can do like my mom did us, tell them, this is gonna hurt me more than it hurts you

Answer 9

Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

Proverbs 22:15
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.

Answer 10

you don't want to break your child spirit and so i would say that yes it is to a point ... no one should beat there children but if you are trying to break them of a bad habit or trying to get through to them that something is unsafe then yes i don't see where a swat on the butt is going to hurt them ... it gets there attention and lets them know that you were not kidding when you told them no....