do kids listen?

Question

I have 3 small boys, is there anyone that has got the secrets to how to make them listen to you. Believe me I have used everything.

i am not trying to be rude but I have tried all of these things the only thing that i haven't tried is the child mind thing

Answer 1

Get down to their height n mantain eye-contact...avoid screaming,it dusn help.explain to dem wats gud n bad

Answer 2

They do listen, if they know why they should. Don't use the "because I said so" thing. Tell them the real reasons why.

Tell them things that could put them in danger, can hurt them. And that you don't want to see them hurt or gone from your life. Tell them how much they mean to you.

Tell them that being disrespectful hurts you.

Tell them why there are rules. So they can get enough sleep to start the next day. Why they have to eat right so they can grow.

I have learned the knowledge is power. And talking to your children so they understand, is much better than just telling them no. A person is more apt to understand something, when they know why. And if it makes sense to them, they're more apt to obey the rules.

I have also learned that keeping children occupied decreases the chance of them misbehaving. On our days off, my children and I do many things. And most of them don't cost anything. We go fishing, and learn how fish live and what they eat. We go swimming at one of the local lakes, and learn different swimming techniques. We will go to the park, and learn about people and how they are different. We go on nature hikes, and learn about nature (I live in a more rural area, there are trails by my house.) We go on bike rides and learn about cardiovascular health. We go to the museum, and learn about our past, present, and things that are just cool. We do a lot of things, and I always try to teach them something. Even reminding them manners when we go out to eat.

Routines are also a big key. Keep bedtime the same. Try to eat at the same time. Don't let yourself be the blame - let the clock be. You can't help what time it is, neither can they. Just firmly say, it's 8:00. this is what time we brush our teeth and get ready for bed. Look at the clock - see...it's 8:00.

As I have 3 boys, 2 girls, and now 2 more boys on the way - these are also the ways that I have stayed sane. My children know that I love them, and they respect me.

And when the older ones do misbehave - they help with chores. Hey, if they've got that much energy, then I put it to better use. I don't spank my children - some days they're just crabby and don't get along and lash out. I could never lay my hand on one of my children as they look to me for guidance, and love.

Answer 3

no, they don't listen! i have also tried EVERYTHING and my 2 toddlers don't listen. my son especially.....he's what i like to call a "true boy". LOL the last "advice" i took was reading a christian book called to train a child up and it's just crazy. i left out all the religious stuff but even still the book is pretty i dunno---for lack of better words, strict. they say that you can train an infant not to bite your nipple by pulling it's hair, you can potty train a 3 year old who is too stubborn to poo on the toilet by shooting them down with a cold water hose the next time they do it......it's just really really funny.

Answer 4

Kids do listen although it may seem as though they don't. If they don't do what you tell them, try putting them in "time out". This is a place where you sit them down, say on the edge of their beds for a certain time period. In this time period, then can do nothing but sit there. The time limit is determined by you, but usually 30 seconds for each year of age, but no more then 5 minutes total. It worked real well for me. Also, make sure that you separate all three of them when they are in time out. Don't put them in the same room as they will play. Try separate bedrooms.

Good luck!

Answer 5

With my son (age 4), I use the 1-2-3 method, and it works better for me than sending him to his room or spanking. I'll ask him to ..say..pick up his toys. If he doesn't do it, I'll ask him again. If he still ignores me, I'll say "1"..........then if he still doesn't do it...I'll say "2".....I RARELY have to get past 2. He knows that if I get to 3, something he really doesn't like is going to happen. What that bad thing is depends on our circumstances and where we are at the time. If we're out and he's misbehaving, 3 means we have to stop doing whatever fun thing we're doing and go home and not have the TV on. You've got to look for the thing that's really important to him. I've told him, good boys get to do fun things. Naughty boys don't get to have any fun. So which would he rather be? Good or bad?

As long as the child knows what to expect when you get to 3, and knows that you're going to do something that will not be fun for him at all, he'll very rarely push you past 2.

Answer 6

It would greatly benefit you to go on-line and research the brain development of children through the years. You'll be surprised and sometimes embarrassed. The child's brain does not register info the same as an adult brain.
Think about the child who stands in front of the tv. He can see, so assumes everyone can see. You speak to him as an adult, with reasoning, but his brain doesn't have all the resourses ours do yet.
same goes with a teenager. Truly, they don't always care as much about your reactions. The yare learning how to get what they want, when they want. As annoying and frustrating as that is, it is a life skill that has to be learned.

Answer 7

no matter what, DO NOT THINK THEY ARE ADHD..are they doing really bad things??? You left out details, like how old are these 3 small boys? are they 2,3,4? ot 9,10,11.. it does make a difference

Answer 8

Give them the silent treatment for sometime.They will shut up after sometime.

Answer 9

They listen. Carrot and stick theory works.

Answer 10

well mean what you say. tantrums or not you have to win. mommy is a winner! they will cry or scream for an hour let them and ignore. mommy has to be the winner!