What do I do? I met a guy. We been on a few dates. He previously had one nite stand with my married sister...?

Question

I met a guy at a banquet. Journalist and Law Student. I'm a paralegal and also a Law student. We are kind of in the same circle. Ya know. Went on several dates over the past 2 or 3 months. Talk on the phone few times a week. Watched movies and had dinner at his place one nite. Kissed. Got heated. Nothing more. Its a real connection. We like each other and plan to be a couple. Decided it was appropriate time to introduce to fam and friends. Bring him to mom's house for an informal gathering where older sister is with husband. I introduce the two and she almost faints. He is frozen solid. He later tells me that he met her in bar one nite very early on in our friendship. He took her to a cheep hotel and had sex with her. SHE'S MARRIED. He didn't even know her name. WHAT DO I DO? She hasn't said a word. Do I confront her? About him? About her husband? Do I leave my friend alone? If it weren't my sister I would not have known. Right? Why did he tell me? Just fishing for advice wherever.

I am getting very good responses so far...keep 'em comin. Friend told me once that my friend is probably not the 1st affair my sis has had. Husband may already know if its an ongoing thing for her. OR he may soon find out if this continues. As far as the guy, I do like him alot. I don't like the idea of knowing he slept with my sister but where we live sex is so "popular" you'll mess around and sleep with your own sister or brother without trying. (you know the "web" that connects u with your partners partners.) Yeah, but keep 'em coming.

Answer 1

I think the fact that he told you says alot. he could have said nothing. as for your sister let her deal with her house. you don't want ppl saying it was your fault her family broke up. I believe that it will come to light in it's own good time.Give him another chance. You like him

Answer 2

girl! what planet do u live on? what soap opera do u exist in. Im not mocking you but that is one twisted situation. I don't know what your sister's problem is but i'd say that brotha is just being a man. You can't knock him. Now, if you decide to be together and not tell your sister that you know then that will make things less awkward. But knowing that she obviously doesn't care about her marriage do you think that they won't try to spark up again? The question is this, if all parties involved knew everything, (except for the poor husband), could you trust the two of them? If sis knows that's YOUR man, will she chill? And, he's had her...why won't he go back for more. Brotha will eventually be able to say he's had both of you. Bad Idea now that I think of it. Leave him alone. Now.

Answer 3

Ahhh dump this guy! Getting into a relationship with him will be nothing but trouble! Do you really want a boyfriend who fu*cked your sister? Will you ever trust this guy at family functions? As soon as he is out of your sight at the family function what will you think he is doing? As far as your sister goes I would confront her but DO NOT tell her husband anything. It is not your place to do that but DROP that guy. A relationship with him will be nothing but TROUBLE!

Answer 4

LOL, Karma is a bicch I tell you!!! It's not your fault that your sister had the affair. This is something she has to deal with. Why would you want to forfeit your new love for her cheating ways. I'd say continue to date him until you've found reason not to. I know you love your sister but too bad..........she should have realized that this could come back to haunt her.

Answer 5

The guy is honest. It happens with lots of people... Take time to know him more and then decide

Answer 6

confront your sister about him then confront him again about the inncident with your sister.let him know how you feel about him and that you want o be the only one in his life

Answer 7

Lose him yesterday... Any other dumb questions? He is a predator.