my son is 8 do you know if hes gay?

Question

my husband now says he thinks my 8 year old is gay?he thinks people are born like that do you?and do you think you would know when the boy was only 8?i dont think people are born that way honestly!i think we alll have it in us from the beggining, its up to us to be or not.i think maybe my husband is going to put it in his head?what do you think?please be serious!

Answer 1

He is 8 years and and he is your son, just love him and let him be. Thank God every morning that you have him and he is well. And then every day tell your son that you love him and that you have thanked God for entrusting him in your care.

I recently lost my 11 year old grandson and even though my last words to him were, I love you, I will spend the rest of my life knowing I was never had the chance to tell him enough, hold him enough, laugh enough or share enough secrets with him.

All Adam ever needed was someone to love him, hold him and let them love them and hold them right back. The same as your son.

Answer 2

Don't pay attention to any of those other answers about being a bad mom. You're asking the question so you care.

No. Dad is whacked if he believes this. Just because one child might act more effeminate than others does not denote a sexual preference.

I'll never believe they are born that way. Society, environment, and personality have far more to do with the choices you make than genetics. Choices are choices and some say it's not a choice. I say cowflop!

If dad is insecure about it he's going to cause problems for the boy. Since Dad is wondering about it he IS INSECURE!!!

He should keep his mouth shut and raise his son. He's going the be the reason the boy turns gay if at all.

I have a 21 yo that has been wondering about his preference. I talked with him about it on a few occasions. I waited to find out so can Dad. No use looking for trouble. He's gonna make it happen if he's not careful.

I didn't bring it up until he was old enough to worry about it. He has since realized he's more attracted to girls than anything and I'm glad he is. Now he needs a girlfriend. lol

I hope this helps somewhat.

Answer 3

1) the child is only 8. He doesn't really know what gay is and for you and your husband to say that makes me wonder.

2) People are not born gay at all. To be gay is a chose and people should not listen to crappy scientist. Plus the kid doesn't understand what being gay is.

3) If you believe in god then you would know that he doesn't make gay people. I think you need to go to church more.

4) I have friends that act a little girlish because they are raised by there mom or hang with a lot of girls but are straight.

Answer 4

You are not a bad mom, and you are not going to drive him to be gay. Ignore the previous answers. They are ridiculous.

I agree with you that people are NOT born that way. It is a choice, and how or why they make that choice is beyond me. I won't profess to know those answers.

If someone chooses to be gay (homosexual - male or female) is evidence enough for me to say there is something "wrong" with that person. Based on my opinion, which is the result of years of education, I think within the brain itself there is a mix up of connections. The brain is the most complicated and misunderstood part of the human body/experience. There are billions of cells with even billions more of connections to each other.

I can only conclude something within the person's brain is not right. Exactly what is not right I do not know. but being gay is not natural. It is not the way our Creator intended for things to be.

I heard an evangelist on the radio say that if homosexuality is an abomination unto the Lord, why would God make what he despises? It is illogical.

God does not make things he despises. Just like if you really hated liver, why would you make it for dinner?

I would suggest you see to it that you do what Jesus instructed and that is to raise the child in the church. See that he gets the Christian education/instruction that is your responsibility to see that he gets.

As a parent, the proper raising of a child, the proper teaching is your responsibility. If you don't want the responsibility then you should not have children.

I hope your son does not decide to be a homosexual, but if he does decide to do that, show him/read to him the story of Sodom and Gamorrah in the Bible.

Hopefully, he will understand, as well as all the other homosexuals in the world, that God does not condone their behaviour. God does not change. We change. God is constant.

I wish the best of luck to you and hope God blesses your family.

Answer 5

First of all you should know the proper meaning of GAY:

Gay: licentious; dissipated; wanton: The baron is a gay old rogue with an eye for the ladies. 5. homosexual. 6. of, indicating, or supporting homosexual interests or issues: a gay organization. — n.7. a homosexual person, esp. a male.

So, everybody cannot or will not become gay.

Neither your self or your husband cannot say anything like that to your son of 8 years.

These are done by adult boys, and this very rarely happens.

It is better if you could make your husband to keep his mouth shut, instead of talking non-sense.

I think your husband may be a gay. Ask him to confirm.

Without knowing anything properly, never ask questions.

Answer 6

Don't peg an 8 year old to be one thing or another. Let them develop on their own. He may just be slow to mature . . .

About the "I am born that way" argument. I do think it is true for some--I just don't think it is true for all. Like many alcoholics, I have known gay guy friends to have overly dominant mothers who almost force them to be young ladies with their rules and the way they focus the child's attention. They seem desperate for the correct maternal or paternal attention they didn't get growing up. I know only 1 or 2 people in my life that truly were gay from childhood.

When my son was 4, I found him taking Haynes Pantyhose catalogs because he like to look at the girl's breasts in the bra displays. He always attracted women and was attracted to women from an early age. He showed a sexual preference earlier than I though possible. Having studied childhood development, that was an eye opener to me. On the other hand, my daughter who was slow to mature was also slow to exhibit any interest in sexuality. I did find myself wondering at times, but I would put it out of my mind. She is also straight.

Answer 7

You say that you don't believe that people are born that way - and then follow that with "we all have it in us from the beggining." What do you mean by that?
I think that 8 is kinda young to be worried about stuff like that and it shouldn't matter anyways. He is your son and you need to love him without regard to his sexual indentity.
Also - if it is "up to us" then your husband could not put it in his head if he tried!!! Could you be convinced to go Lesbian today?
Maybe you could and that is what has you worried? Studies have repeatedly shown that people who are homophobic are themselves arroused by those same thoughts and images.
Love your son, no matter what and just try to make sure that he becomes a high quality - productive member of society.

Answer 8

An 8 year old should not be categorized as being gay! They are still young and have vivid imaginations!!!! instead of you husband ridiculing him ,He need to step up to the plate and be a father, play football basketball and things of that nature with his son ,unless the real reason he thinks your son is gay is because hes been hiding the fact that hes the one that's been gay all along ,you may just have a down low brotha on your hands!~

Answer 9

Being camp doesn't mean you are gay. Some people just turn out that way because of psychological issues, so I would have to agree with you that everyone has the potential. I think most little kids act camp in a way and dress up like women and pretend to be woman but it's just normal and curiosity. I think don't let your husband put it in his head, treat him normally and when he reaches puberty, encourage him to talk to girls.
Besides, you can't know someones sexuality until they reach puberty. No "straight" kids like girls or women until they reach puberty and your son certainly hasn't. You really wouldn't be able to tell if he's gay unless he was at puberty and he told you so please don't try to encourage him into being something he wouldn't be just because you think he might be.

edit: also, watch the simpsons episode where homer thinks Bart is gay and tries to discourage him. It's sorta opposite to the way your husband is acting, but shows this situation to you in an objective and humerous sorta way.

Answer 10

You have to face facts - if your son chooses to be gay, there is nothing he nor you or your husband can do about it.
For the meantime, you child is 8. I think that is a little young for him to be thinking about his sexuality. 8 year olds think about anything other than that, so I would not worry.
Give him time, a few years or so, then look again. Chances are you'll find out you were wrong from the beginning.
Good luck

Answer 11

People are born gay, and an 8 year old may start exhibiting sexual preferences. I say leave the kid alone he is 8 and may just be curious about sex, a lot of 8 year old boys play with each other experimentally doesn't mean they are gay just means they are curious.