After I gave her the money for the wedding (witch I went in dept) she doesnt want anything to do with me. My sister is the one that helped her plan the wedding she wouldn't let me. When someone asked me a ? I couldn't answer I'd ask her and she just jump on my case for interfering with her wedding.
For her bridel shower gift I gave her an expensive gift to carry down with her but she wont even use it.
2006-07-28 23:41:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
kids can be very finnicky, but try to view the situation in the most enlightened and comprehensive way. do all the right things in your life, and the rest will work itself out.
2006-07-29 00:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is a spoiled brat. What kind of kid doesn't respect there parents. You gave birth to her and gave her life and now she say she don't need you. Then do what she says. Don't go to her wedding. I think it would really teach her a lesson in respect because if she acts like a kid she should be treated as such or is there more to the story that meets the eye. Because there can be reason why she don't want you there. So tell the full story so people can help.
2006-07-29 00:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by catmenacestop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not certain what is going on with her... I can only tell you what my situation she and maybe you could think about it. My finance and I are getting married on an Island in April 2008, b/c we want to give everyone time to pay for the trip we are sending out "save the dates" in Feb 2007. He and I are planning everything ourselves from the wedding and reception in Jamaica to the reception that we are having for the people that are not being invited to Jamaica (we want a very small wedding). We have not really included my mother in our arrangement plans reason being "she's a control freak" I love her dearly, but she wants to control every aspect of the wedding and our lives. He and I wanted a small wedding; just very close family members (which equals about 15) b/c of her inviting people that I don't know we have 45 + going. When I confronted her about it she screamed and me b/c she said that her friends are using this as a vacation and I shouldn't be worried about it if I am not paying for them to go, well we are paying for the reception which costs $55 per person. When my finance and I picked the accommodations for our/her guest we chose the RUI in Jamaica which is an all inclusive resort and have them leaving on Friday morning (we are getting married on Sat.), when I shared the info she yelled at me again and asked me "Who did I think I was to stipulate when people should leave and where they should stay?" My mouth dropped, I couldn't believe that she was getting so upset. And as far as our home (my finance & I) she told my finance that he is not allowed to sleep with me in "our" bedroom b/c she feels as though it doesn't look right with my son being there. That's crazy!!!!!!!!! Especially when he pays half of the mortgage and utilities and my son loves him. So mom, I don't know but maybe look at this and take a look at yourself do you have a controlling issue?
2006-07-29 01:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart breaks for you. My only daughter got married the 28th of May, and not to be a part of it would have tore me up. I did not make any real decisions in her wedding,because it was their day not mine. Please please put your feelings aside, and go to the wedding with a smile on your face-hide the tears inside. Tell your daughter that you love her and want to share this special day with her and if there is anything you can do you will be glad to do it-then back off...Let her now you are there for her, do what she asks and go about being the business of being the Mother of the Bride. I am not sure what is going thru your daughter's mind right now, I know she is under alot of stress dealing with a wedding, but there maybe something going on. All you can do at this point is to let her know that you love her and be there for her.
It's hard to let go, to watch them walk out into a new life that doesn't included you 24/7, but that's what Mothers do.....we have to let them go. Have you gotten your dress for the wedding? Make it a special date with your daughter...go shopping and out to eat. Don't worry about what she isn't letting you do, make the most out what she is willing to do with you.....remember walk down the aisle with a smile and know in your heart of hearts you did everything you could do to make your daughter's wedding special even if it wasn't want you wanted to do..,,,God bless us all..........
2006-07-29 10:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is angry with you for picking the wrong guy. If this is an arranged wedding then apparently she is very unhappy about your decision. Other than that, who knows why we women act the way we do.
2006-07-29 00:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to get married the daughter who are liablity of parents. You are doing very good things as you are shouldering the liablity of marriages.
2006-07-29 00:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur a great not good mom but great mom , and ur kids are blessed to have u. with that said we tend to take for granted those we love. just give her space dont cut ties but dont give her advice untill she asks for it. its better to b wanted then needed. cuz they onlu want u cuz the need sum thing. gud luck love
2006-07-29 00:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her alone for a few days so you can cool off
then you guys can talk
2006-07-29 00:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by goodfriendsgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be a pain in the butt.
2006-07-29 02:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋