I Don't Know What's Wrong With me. Read This and Give Me an Opinion on What I should do?

Question

I don't know if I would necessarily call it depression or laziness. I get in these "spurts" where I just don't care about myself or my home or belongings. I'll go for days without showering or brushing my hair. I let my house and car get unbearable. Then I'll just snap out of it and say what the hell! Why am I living like this and go back to getting manicures every week and vacuming daily. But when I am in these spurts I'll lay in bed 20 hours out of the day and let food and pepsi cans get piled around my bed? What the hel l is wrong with me!? Why do I do this and how do I change?

Answer 1

It takes a great deal of determination to change. You have to focus on that little side of you, the side that wants to change and consequently posted this question in the first place. Imagine that it's the dominant side of you, and make it tell yourself "What the hell!" everytime you feel like you're slipping into these 'spurts'. If necessary, say it loudly and force yourself to get moving. Also try to make a daily schedule, set reminders on your PDA or mobile with annoying alarm sounds that you just can't ignore. Don't overload the schedule with too much tasks, keep it minimum so you'd know you wouldn't be too lazy to do them, but just enough to make sure that you don't have food piled around your bed!

Answer 2

It's hard to gauge symptoms on here, and I am not an expert. While it could be several physical or mental disorders, it's probably normal for someone with your stressful lifestyle (student, adult worker, living arangement -- I read and answered some of your other questions). First, go to the health service for your university and tell them how you feel. They'll do some bloodwork and may refer you to a pysch for an evaluation. Most of this is probably free or covered by student insurance.

You may want to cut back on the pepsi. Not only does the caffeine cause mood swings but the sugar can too. Hyperglycemia (elevated blood sugar) can result in temporary mental issues, but it could be a normal sugar rush followed by a sugar crash.

Serious ailments may be responsible, but if you see hoof prints, you usually expect a horse, not a zebra. IIRC, bipolar people have longer periods of mania and depression. I don't think depression is usually cyclical. However, Dysthemia is a relatively rapid cycle of mild highs and lows. Note, this is not the same as Dysthymia (2 y), which is several years of general mild depression that may be somewhat variable.

It's most likely that you are simply stressed out, but you should certainly check with a doctor to be sure. I'm guessing that you feel like a boat adrift without an anchor. If so, then maybe you should look for an anchor. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

OK first, yes this does sound like it could be clinical depression. No biggie your family doc can help you with that. But you don't give enough information for anyone, not even someone that has had bi-polar for 32 years, say that you are bi-polar.

Bi-Polar is generally known by the mood swings that range from a high(mania) where you don't make good judgment calls period. To a depression that can be so low that some have suicidal thoughts. Some cycle through so fast that they get tagged a "rapid cycler" I can cycle several times in a day at times.

Follow the link below and there is a box that can help you assess your risk, it also has a lot of info on anything you might want to look at.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

When did you start getting into these spurts? Was there any triggering event or series of events that lead to what you do now?

I believe there is always a cause that leads to one's change in behaviour. And to find out the cause, try going through some introspection. Keep a journal. Talk to your friends about this. Perhaps they can also shed some light on the question you are having right now.

Also, pay attention to how you feel when you get into these "spurts" and how you feel when you became aware of what you are doing. These feelings may give a clue as well.

When you have a better understanding of yourself and why you do this, you will know better how to change. Finding the root cause and solve it at the root will eventually kill these symptoms.

Otherwise, try to change your habits step-by-step (because you want to change for the better afterall!).

Hope this help... :)

Answer 5

From what you have written, it could be put down to simply being a bit lazy. However, you have not really stated how you feel when you can't be bothered to take care of things. Do you feel low or tearful, do you feel hopless, worthless, does life seem pointless? If the answer is yes, you may be suffering from minor depression. I'd recommend getting plenty of excercise on a regular basis as it is a natural antidepressant, as you release endorphins. Maybe take up a new hobby, which involves going out and meeting new people and making an effort. When you get into these phases, force yourself out of bed and go out for a walk or something. HTH.

Answer 6

Sounds like a form of bipolar. If these episodes or 'spurts' are disrupting your daily life (which it sounds like they might be) then my recommendation would be to see your doctor. He/she will ask you questions about how you feel during these times, your diet, how frequent, etc etc and will determine the best course of action.

Seeing a psychiatrist wont "cure" you, but it will help you better understand yourself and help guide you towards a healthy way to being comfortable with yourself.

Medication won't do anything if there's nothing chemically imbalanced with you, but if something is wrong, then it can be a big part of getting on with your daily life.

As to why you do that, it might not be 'you', it could be chemical defects in the brain. It could be that and also how you deal with it mentally and emotionally... all of which can change.

The most important thing to remember is that you don't need to live like that... change is possible, even if it will take time and lots of patience.

Answer 7

Well I'm in nursing , I'm no Dr but sounds to me like Bipolar!! I myself am Bipolar , and if you dont get help it could get worse.I think you should see a DR!! Because with bipolar in a manic stage you can do some crazy weird things!! I know i have been there and there is BP1 and Bp2 ! Also when you lay in the bed that's the other side which is depresson!! Which booth are very serious please see a DR !! I wish you well it's a long hard road that family , friends and meds can make so much easier!!

Answer 8

If this condition has a profound impact on the way that you live your life it could be and sounds like clinical depression.This is often caused by a chemical imbalance of seratonin,norepinephrine or sometimes dopamine.You should discuss this with a doctor who can better evaluate your situation.No need to feel embarassed.This condition affects millions of people in this country alone.Please speak to a professional.Try to find things about your self that are unique and special in the mean time

Answer 9

It does sound like you have some sort of depression, even if mildly. If these spurts come often or frequently I think I would see a doctor. It is possible you have a chemical imbalance and he could prescribe something to keep you on a more even keel all the time. Good luck to you, I hope you find a solution.

Answer 10

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