Well, I recently asked a question asking how important is sex in a relationship and many people said it's pretty crucial... so now my question is...If you weren't able to have sex with your significant other for whatever reason, would you be open minded and unselfish enough to permit your significant other to have sex with someone else? How do you think it may effect you or the relationship if you allowed your significant other to have sex with someone else?
2006-07-28 23:01:14 · 12 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, when I asked my question about the importance of sex before, many men stated that they wished for their partners to be open minded enough to allow them to have sex with another person...if men want their partner to allow them to have sex with someone else then why can't women want the same thing of their partners?
2006-07-28 23:15:16 · update #1
Although sex is pretty crucial in any love relationship, trust and commitment are even more important. I believe that when two people truly love each other, they are able to speak on all things openly. There is a danger to "allowing" your love mate become sexually intimate with another, and bringing in a third person in the relationship.
To be honest, your question is harder to answer than I expected. I don't know what I would do if I could not be intimate with my life partner. I would like to think that I would be in a relationship that is nurturing and strong enough to withstand a third party. And most of all I would like to think that I could be unselfish enough, secure enough and fearless enough to allow it. I'm not sure that I could be. But one never knows what life has in store for one.
I hope that I never have to face that situation in my life.
2006-07-28 23:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by magical_whimsie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can't have sex with the one you want, then why rub it in their face.
Either break up and move on, or agree that the love you feel is better than the sex.
Maybe you will get to a point where you don't have ownership over each other anymore and you both decide to have sex with other people and still be in love?
Commitment and discipline is important in a relationship to make it work, so is fun. Watching your partner or thinking about them with someone else takes a huge amount of confidence on the other person's part. They would have to be very enlightened or secure. Considering they have just lost something that is important to them wouldn't it be better to help them through this time rather than to run off fulfilling your animal desires? Or is the challenge of growing up a little to scary?
Enjoy
2006-07-28 23:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... if he really needed it that badly. I guess for stress relief. But I would probably look down on him after that especially if he only had to wait a little while to have sex again.
For instance after givng birth many women can't and are too physically tired/traumatized to have sex for about 4-6 weeks. Sometimes doctors even suggest longer. If he can't wait a month or two well that's just sad.
2006-07-28 23:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by ATerribleIdea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that important. If they were not understanding enough to not allow the lask of sex to petrude our relationship, I'd just allow them all the other sex partners they liked; However, that would mean terminating our relationship!
2006-07-28 23:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden*Halo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if I was unable to have sex, I don't think I'll be magnanimous enough to let my wife have sex with another person.
2006-07-28 23:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by What's Your Problem? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not allow that! i think its even better i get "another" significant other!
2006-07-28 23:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wanted to marry a guy whom i knew had hep c i would still sleep with him if we got married. i dont like my guy being with other girls so i wouldnt be with other guys. play fair!!! sex is fun but theres more to a relationship than that.
2006-07-29 00:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by cowboyskid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the "man-in-a-wheelchair" conundrum?
It's a tough question...she has needs that must be fulfilled. It would be painful if you couldn't fulfill them.
2006-07-28 23:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Av 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i am unfit i'll allow but if my boy is unfit then no second thought about it we have to be strong enough to say that sex is nothing.
2006-07-28 23:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Shantha S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally, at first stage nothing but in future it will ruin yr friendship as u think about him as a cheater, eventhough u let him to do it.
2006-07-28 23:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋