First of all, I'm trying to stay friends with my ex-girlfriend. She's has been my best friend for 3 years and we get along great. She still has feelings for me, but she claims that she wants to be friends anyway. I believe her (I have doubts).. My high school sweet heart calls me every few months or so basically to keep tabs on me and see if we mihgt have a chance (I'm pretty sure). My nieghbor is hot as hell and really cool. We both just got out of long relationships, so we were on the same page as far just having hot neighbor sex (our dirty little secret) then going back to being friends. Somewhere along the line we started to actually like each other (stupid complications). We both don't want a relationship still so she cut it off to prevent either of us from getting hurt. Plus, she's freaked out by the ex's. What the hell do I do? PLEASE HELP ME
2006-07-28 22:03:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow bud, your screwed...
2006-07-28 22:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...you need to take a breath and slow down. The neighbor is not committed to anymore than sex. The best friend cares but doesn't want a relationship beyond friendship..so that leaves the highschool sweetheart, and she only calls every few months. The way I see it...no one is getting hurt except YOU...you're worrying over things that are not there. Stress kills. Chill!
2006-07-28 22:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talkin to the first 2. but dont' lead em on or let them think other wise. maybe try talkin a bit on other women with them. its kind of a way to let them know you are not on the same place as they are. with out hurting them. but don't play games with them. treat them with respect and friendship. if they make advances to want more and you are not wanting the same. then be honest up front right away. the 3rd. well, let it cool off. let her deal with her ex unless she asks for help if its her safety she's worried about. if she's worried what he might think if you 2 start something up then she is not ready. so let it go. she needs to heal. and so do you. since you are just getting out of a long term relationship. you don't want to carry baggage into the new relationship. so back off for a bit. let what will happen happen. maybe not the neighbour is a good idea though. what if it turns sour? then your stuck with that uncomfortable feelign every time you see her. play all situations out in your head. what if you develop feelings for her and she gets back with her ex? i would say not to worry about it on normal terms, but, she is your next door nieghbour. and that needs to be looked at before you move ahead. cause if she didnt' live so close then if it didnt' work out then theres less to worry about. anyways, good luck
2006-07-28 22:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they all know how you feel and what you want and don't want. They all know that you are not in a relationship with them.
THAT'S COOL> your being up front with them.
NOW
once you decide with any of them that you want to see that girl only then, that's when you need to inform the others of your choice.
I think it's all cool if you are being up front with these girls.
They just want ot be friends and that's all your looking for right now so Your in the good seat.
JUST CONTINUE TO BE HONEST. sooner or later one of them may want more than what your willing to give (a relationship) but all you got to do is give her the option of just being friends if that's what you want to do.
LAY THEM CARDS OUT>AND YOU"LL HAVE A FULL HOUSE.
2006-07-28 22:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know your problem? You are a very confused man. I dont mean to hurt you by saying this. But you have to set your priorities. Think with a cool mind as to exactly what you really want.
Women are not to be run after like this. Think maturely & decide.
2006-07-28 22:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it yourself. You want her but she's cutting it off, theres not much you can do except be her friend w/ benefits. What a tragic situation you are in; so many women want you. Why not just go back to the juggling act?
2006-07-28 22:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm usually not rude to people but you need to solve your own problems especially these ones.Stop screwing around and come clean you friggin retard!
2006-07-28 22:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by sunrisewave360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jack off .. the alternative is to start dating boys -- you obviously cant handle women
2006-07-28 22:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by tonkatruk_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a haircut and clean up your act.
2006-07-28 22:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋