I hate mysef and want to die, what to do??

Question

I am 14, I am getting chubby, all of my friends are smarter or prettier or more popular. I have nothing going for me. My mom hates me. I sometimes want to wither away and die.

Answer 1

Keep repeating to yourself "I forgive myself" and "I'm OK", and "Even though I'm ...., I'm still OK".

Answer 2

You are only 14...Of course teenage is one of the most conflictive times in our lives...You will survive the teens, and turn into a very interesting person by the time you reach your twenties...
Don't let others put you down...You are probably worth more than most of them!!!
And your Mom doesn't hate you...she is just being a mother, what mothers say doesn't always please, and mothers sometimes make mistakes too (I know I'm a mom myself)..
Talk to her and communicate your feelings, she should give you you some good advice, a little mommy cuddling and all the help she can!
If you are getting chubby, eat more fresh fruit and veggies... But for goodness sake don't stop eating!!
And do a bit of exercise if you can...If you don't like exercising take up dancing, (even at home while watching music programs on tv!) or just walk to and from school (if it isn't too far away of course...at most a 20 min. walk... Two 20 minute walks a day do wonders for the figure!)
Or go bike riding for the same amount of time...that is every bit as good. (If you do both even better!!!)
:-)

Answer 3

You don't want to die, or you wouldn't ask for help. I remember when I was 14. I was a walking hormone-storm and a mass of conflicting impulses. Welcome to puberty, a real hair-raising experience. This is one of those situations that only time will improve. You make the mistake of comparing yourself to others. This is self-defeating and you will always fall short. You should place yourself above that practice and work on being your OWN best friend. If you can achieve that, EVERYTHING else will fall into place. As for being chubby, if you don't like it, then lose the weight. Nobody else can do this for you. God does not make trash, and I'm positive that you're worth it. You just have to believe that and work on being what YOU want you to be. The only person that you have to impress is YOU. Others don't live inside of your head and therefore, know nothing. Best of luck to you, kiddo. It WILL get better.

Answer 4

Many movie stars and models felt unattractive and unpopular when they were your age. Now they can say "How you like me now?" because our bodies change as we get older.I doubt that you have nothing going for you, but as long as you compare yourself to someone else you'll always fall short because there will alway be someone else who is a little bit better. But in time you'll discover the unique talent God gave you. Buy the New International Bible and start finding out about how amazing you are. You have power over the animals, plant and everything in the universe so you are great. Also talk to a school counselor. Buy some videos and books on exercise and makeup and watch the TV program "Moni"que" and see how beautiful chubby women can be.YOUR MOTHER WOULD DIE FOR YOU. JUST LET SOMETHING HAPPEN TO YOU AND YOU'LL SEE. TALK TO HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL.

Answer 5

You are basing your happiness on other people, a sure fire way to be depressed no matter who you are. Try doing things you enjoy and not caring about who knows. Try picking up a new hobby, and some new friends. If you mom hates you write her a letter explaining everything you feel and tell her that you are worthy of her love and if she doesn't think so then she is the one who has a problem. Try going to an evangelical church, you will be immediately accepted and loved. God Loves You, so don't sweat the small stuff.

Answer 6

I know it's hard to believe, but things get better when you grow up.

It's hard, but don't focus on the now, focus on the kind of life you're going to build for yourself. Get ready for college, or for your career, and think of what it will be like when you are successful at what you want to do.

In the mean time, work on accomplishing smaller goals, such as learning another language, being the best at chess, or whatever other activity catches your interest. In accomplishing goals, you will like your life better, and you will like yourself better, and you won't feel the need to constantly compare yourself.

There is a line in the 'poem' Desiderata that states:
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be
greater and lesser persons than yourself

Try to concentrate on yourself- just being better than you were the day before, not in comparison to other people.

Answer 7

Sweetheart, your only 14, your body is going through so many different changes during your teen year's, your wieght and how 'down' you are is sometimes very normal at your age..really.
You have a whole life in front of you, so much will change for you.
This I know is true....
For me.. I was very skinny, I thought all the girl's were more attractive
than me, I always felt out of place at school...
Never thought I was pretty..
Never thought I was smart..
Never thought I would marry...
Never thought I would have children...etc etc etc
All the horrid things you think are wrong with you...just are'nt true
but you wont see that yet...
I married twice...Had 3 big strong boy's...and have 2 grandchildren...
I was very wrong...very wrong about myself.. you are wrong too.
Many years after I left school, in England then, it was 16yrs old...
I met by chance a man I was at school with, he told me that he fancied
me at school, but I always seemed shy or aloof, so he did'nt ask me...
So you see... What you see in the mirror is'nt what all the people in your life see... do you understand ??
Please dont do anything silly pet... Life is difficult, I know, and the pain you feel..is real..but wont last for ever, I promise..You can email me if you want,
Maybe I can help you..
As for your mom hating you..... I doubt she does.... teenage is hard for you
and hard for your mom too.. when my son's were teens.. they were a nightmare for me to live with, cheeky, moody etc but they grew out of that as you will too
Hang in there sweetheart, there are thousands of girls who feel the same way you do..you are'nt alone....

Answer 8

If you get a chance, read the news, or travel to a third world country, and once you see the poverty, hunger, illnesses, and abuse that other kids your age suffer, then you may realize how lucky you are. One more thing, most of everyone go through what you're going through right now once in our lifetime. Better times will come to your life. Live your life to the fullest.

Answer 9

Ever thought of there might be someone else out there who's having the worst life than you do? Some people, like a friend of mine couldn't afford to have a computer. His father left her and her brothers for another woman and her mother flew to another country, leaving her and her brothers alone. And yet, she's more determined than ever to succeed and found a way to support her brothers. If things aren't going your way, you make it happen.

Answer 10

Do think about dying at all. I once had no friends, abusive father,and a teacher that make my life a living hell. I was laghted at all the time in school. I lived through it though. Just work hard to one day prove yourself to all of them.

Answer 11

1-800 suicide. go see a therapist. no you are not ugly. you just think so. big women are now models. check out more-selfesteem.com. it's your soul that counts on this earth. i'm in my middle 20s and i love women regardless of shape. i prefer big women. you are attractive and realize it. just say to yourself i may be a little big but i'm one heck of a beauty. look at queen latifah. she's drop dead gorgeuous. stop and realize your putdowns. if i was your age i would look past that. the physical is not important. the soul is.