He took me on vacation ( have lived in the same place for all my life and never went on vacation), bought me a puppy, and motivated me to be better.Therefore I have given alot in this relationship too. I have helped him with rent, gave him money when he needed even when I hardly had any money, I was there for him when he had no money no food (though the hard times, but now we are better off), and I also cooked for him (basically gave him everything he wanted). I have even been pregnant with this man (but had a abortion due to the age and not financially stable). We had many fun times together. But I was generous during the rough times because he needed help, but now that he has a job and we are better of he still expects me to pay for rent and help him out eventhough I don't think he needs help (he saved enough money to help himself, but me on the other hand spent all the money on food neseccary. I have told him this before but he was to greedy to understand. One day he smoked weed ...
2006-07-28 21:51:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he realized what he did all this time was wrong (that day was the best day of my life because everything that I was trying to tell him he understood) But a few days later I cooked for us (because all we ate was fast food) he just complained how I didnt do it right. As a women I thought about the perfect relationship. I thought about a man that would put me first as I would put him first and I just do not see it in him. All he thinks about is himself. So after all this I have decided to break up once again. So the big question is did i do the right thing or should I work things out with him?
2006-07-28 21:55:37 · update #1
(it was the first time he smoked when we went out, but after he smoked he treated me with all the respect I deserved)
2006-07-28 21:59:19 · update #2
but for the first time he had gave me money to buy food and I saw the progress but I know he did not like to give money to anyone, but my problem is that should I leave him because if I marry him I dont know would he keep all the money to himself and it would be my responsiblilty to support us
2006-07-28 22:04:11 · update #3
I guess my real question is do guys change, is there such a guy that would put a women as number one and give her all the love you have? (Thats the kind of guy I'm looking for)
2006-07-28 22:06:45 · update #4
IT MEANS THAT HE IS TAKING AN ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND YOU ARE CHEATED..
I THINK YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT
2006-07-28 21:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Prakash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have done enough to keep the realationship alive. From what you are saying, he is simply too selfish to be in any kind of nurturing relationship. I think it was smart of you not to have a child with this man, he does not deserve to be a father, and probably would have left you to fend for yourself if you had decided to have the child.
I think that each one of us deserves to be in a relationship where there is a balance and a serious commitment. A relationship where everything is equal. I have never believed that money should be a definer for me to love someone. That being said, I don't care for the way that he has - and continues to - treat you in this area. He's not showing any commitment towards the relationship or any consideration for you in particular. He's not trying to build a future together with you. In short, he's used you to get into a better financial place and now that he can help you he's not doing so.
My recommendation: Put to him clearly and concisely what it is that you expect from him now that he is in a better financial position. He needs to carry his own weight, pay half of all the bills since he lives there. Also, he should clean and cook because both of you work outside the home and you need to cooperate with each other. If he doesn't want to invest in both of your futures, that shows to me that he is not in this relationship for the long haul financially or affectionately. DUMP HIM LIKE YESTERDAY'S TRASH!!! That is exactly what he is!
Do not sacrifice your future for a man that doesn't want to commit to you. It has been my experience that where the heart goes, so does the money. If he loved and trusted you he would see how hard things have become for you financialy and would want to make things easier for you. He hasn't done that.
You sound like a loving, generous and giving person, therefore you deserve someone who is just as loving, just as generous and just as giving as you are. We all deserve to be loved. Think of yourself on this one. It seems to me that he doesn't deserve you. And look at this experience as your good deed for the decade.
Good luck and God Speed!
Lourdes
2006-07-29 05:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by magical_whimsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, can u sense the ending of u two? Does ur heart tells u that? U've done everything that should be done and missed nothing yes? But the hurt u get deeprns everytime. Ur heart will mess up with ur logic. Leave him for the moment. He'll roll back to u if ur meant 2 be together. it's fated. If not, be happy u took the road towards happiness. While ur planning wat u're gonna do, pray hard and don't get messed up with ur feelings for him. Leav him. U're hurt. Tell urself it's enough. Deep down, u know the answer. I'm really sorry.
2006-07-29 05:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot potato. You deserve better. Stop letting your self bef ooled by him. Stop yourself from being used by him. Be strong & get out of this relationship as fast as you can dear!
2006-07-29 04:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a greed issue. The only way to resolve it is to have him start doing for himself. If nothing changes I guarantee that you can get better than that.
2006-07-29 05:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should leave him.may be he is just there with u b'coz of the money u have.i think he is enough mature to understand atleast his responsibilities if not yours.dont make yourself an idiot n let yourself used by him.Gud Luck.
2006-07-29 05:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jaswinder k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"One day he smoked weed..." is all I need to read.
Just leave him.
2006-07-29 04:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by What's Your Problem? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married him
2006-07-29 04:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by zigzag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart and mind tell you.
2006-07-29 04:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by the nice one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him
2006-07-29 04:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋