How do I control my anger? Today I yelled at our guest because he got on my nerve (he gets on everyone's nerve. But I shouldn't have yelled at him).. I'm afraid that my anger is taking the best of me. I can't seem to control myself these days and I shake due to anger.. How do I control myself? I know about breathing exercise (but it doesn’t work always). Is there anything new I should try (don’t say meditation cause I tried that too)?
2006-07-28 21:39:00 · 11 answers · asked by chocolate_chip_cookie01 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Pay attention during times you are getting angry and you will find that you are grinding your teeth and breathing quick shalow breathes.
Practice dropping your jaw. This will prevent you from grinding your teeth. When you press your teeth together it prepares you to fight. Drop your jaw consciously until it is becomes something you do subconsciously.
Also avoid caffeinated beverages for the same reason....Caffeine makes one tighten their jaw.
You may know about breathing but it is still part of the solution.
Breathe from the bottom part of your lungs. Breathe until your stomach pouches out. Our body is in fight or flight mode if we only breathe in shallow breathes. It tells us to respond to save our lives. It is something you must consciously do until your subconscious does it automatically.
Combine the jaw dropping and the breathing and you will acheive better results.
2006-07-29 02:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by rudenski 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what your guest did, you might be entitled to your anger. Meditation nor breathing exercises works for me either, and I can't say that my way is the best way, so take this advice with a grain of salt.
Don't take things personally. People are out to get you down and there's nothing you can do about it. You, however, have the choice to let it bother you and be unhappy about it (and waste your energy on being angry), or laugh at their stupidity and enjoy more of your life.
Or, you can blow off steam by ranting to someone, but not AT someone. Usually a friend, loved one or colleague in the same boat is a good choice to rant with. You can also blow off steam by participating in sport, it usually gets your mind off things. Those are the few things that works for me.
Sometimes though, the people who hurt you/annoy you are the people you care about. In this case, you should tell them that they hurt you and work things out.
You might even be entitled to be angry, one thing is for sure, you should not surpress your anger and explode on the wrong person.
2006-07-29 04:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by loki_niflheim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you start your anger count 100 to 1 in a hurry , but correctly. If your anger shoots up to a person write it in a paper(don't give), read it in the next day. You can feel the ease and a good mental work also.
2006-07-29 04:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by s. v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue when my brother is around me. I control my anger by staying away from them or somtimes i dont talk to them and if you are over 18 i would just move out that something i am going to do. Just do the same i wrote
2006-07-29 04:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first item on the list is to figure out why you are getting angry. Maybe some counseling will help. Then exercise or look for ways to relax. You may need a vacation just by yourself.
2006-07-29 04:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for a run. You'll be in a great mood afterwards. Then after the endorphins wear off, you'll be too tired to get angry.
2006-07-29 15:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first rule of anger management is not to personalize tings
the less we see the acts of others as a personal atack the lrss likly we are to be angered by them
2006-07-29 04:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by giantdwarfbat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take some kava...you can get it at a health food store, it should help you calm down. Also if you dont like kava you can try Holy Basil which you can find at some health food stores http://www.naturalhealthshoppe.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=356
It really helps equal you out.
2006-07-29 04:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise !!! not breathing exercise. Get your blood flowing so you dont explode. Really.
2006-07-29 04:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Danimal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
walk away leave people alone u just want to hurt thier feellings
2006-07-29 04:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋