How do I gain the trust from my parents???

Question

I want to know how I can gain a better relationship with my mom,dad, brother, sister, and my stepsister. Can anyone help?

Answer 1

To gain trust you have to respect the boundaries that your family sets for you, no matter how unreasonable they seem. Once you show them that you are responsible enough and grown up enough to follow those rules (however lame!) they may stretch the limits a little and give you more freedom.

Be honest with them about where you are going, and who you are going with. Let them meet your friends and the people you socialize with so they see they are good people.

Answer 2

OK, for openers, resolve never to lie to them. Now, this is not as easy as it sounds. As I said to my surrogate daughter just yesterday, you have to learn how to tell the truth. That is, not only do you have to learn to tell the truth, but you have to learn HOW to tell the truth. I worked for lawyers for many years; I learned.

First, you don't go telling everything to everyone. You know that. Don't tell other people's private matters, even when they have not specifically said "this is a secret." I got into trouble with that one over and over as a kid, because I didn't remember who swore me to secrecy over what bit of information, and who did not. So if you know something about someone else which is of a private nature (and if you're not sure they consider it private, assume they do), don't tell it to anyone else, even if they ask. Say, "It's not up to me to tell someone else's story."

This will also cover anything where you and that other person did something you shouldn't together, unless it's so very serious that a safety threat is involved, like a fire that needs to be put out. But in that case, take the blame all yourself, even if someone else was with you. It's the noble thing. Then your "accomplice" can do the noble thing and own up. Or maybe not.

The lawyers always tell their clients never to tell more than someone asks. Don't give an explanation. They ask a simple question, give a simple answer. Don't say more than you have to. And answer the question the way it was asked. A guy says, "What did the police ask her?" You answer, "I don't know; I wasn't there." If he doesn't ask, "Did she tell you what they said?", then you don't have to tell him that you know what the police asked her. Because you don't, you know: you only know what she told you. It may be accurate, or it may not. But don't say any more than you personally know, and don't say more than you are asked.

So learn when to not answer a question. And not just protecting other people's privacy: you have a right to privacy, too. I mean, even when your parents ask a question, you generally have a right to privacy if you think it's worth asserting. Sometimes it can get you punished, but at least you'll feel noble. So if someone asks you a nosy question, you don't have to lie, just tell them you prefer not to answer. Don't say, "That's none of your business," even though that's the truth (see? Don't say everything that's true!), but just say, "I consider that too personal." They should back away if they have good manners. If they don't, you have the right to get a little cold and huffy about it, but don't fly off the handle. Just say, "I repeat; I consider that my private business."

So. Like I said, resolve not to lie to anyone (except where you are cornered by some threatening bully and there really is no other way; such a person does not deserve the truth).

Second, be generous and helpful whenever it doesn't cost you too much. If you do it even when it's a big deal for you, you may start feeling like a martyr, and not be very nice to live with. But a cheerful willingness to lend a hand to get chores done is a marvelous thing. And be interruptable when someone you love needs to talk to you. Generous with your time and attention is even more important than with your wallet.

Good luck!

Answer 3

A consistant positive attitude should work. What to do really depends on the situation. Perhaps taking a family member with you when you go places may help. Honesty sounds trust worthy enough to me.

Answer 4

Try to know their problems and give good suggestions to them. As far as parents are conserned seek their advice very often so that they feel that u give them great value in ur life.
Give personal advice to sisters and give love more and more love to step sister
Finally abt ur brother if he is small go out with him for cycling or football or etc and if he is elder to u them u can play chess or related games and set matches.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

simply jus lov them coz
according to Newton's third law
EVERY action has an equal and opposite reaction.
u can observe thins any where,...................
love them they automatically starts liking u

b cooooooooooooool!

Answer 7

By your systematic, orderly,polite,pleasing & many more attitudes!!

Answer 8

It takes time so be patient

Answer 9

be trustworthy first.

trust is earned, not demanded.

Answer 10

its a wrong question