how would you feel if you were a young grandparent?

Question

my hubby and i just found out we are going to be grandparents as well as new parents..(baby boy due in aug)..we have twins sons who are turing 17 in june... one of our sons is expecting a child with his gf....i dont know if its because my hubby and i were also young when we had our sons that we dont seems as angry as some people get in situations like this..but really i mean why be mad....people have been saying how can you be happy your son and grandson are going to be the same age....oh well life goes on..the hardest things we go through in life make us stronger in the end...anyways i just wanted to hear what others have to say...and please if you havne't gone through this type of situation yourself...then dont be putting rude comments ......i dont come on here to bash anyone just to get adivce and give as well...

FYI: im 29 going on 30 and my hubby is 30 going on 31 thats why i say young grandparents

first off what does trailer parks have to do with this...to let you know my sons are great kids and you know what we are proud of them....my husband has been a great father to them he serves in the USMC and we live a great life...my sons will follow in his foot steps...like i said if have never been in this siutation why do you open you mouthand sound like a stupid ***

Answer 1

honey take that grandbaby and love it...everyone makes mistakes good lord! i had my first son when i was 14 and my second when i was 18. your son will be fine...just dont let him quit school or nothing stupid like that...support him and let him know that youre there for him through it all...my grandparents made me stay in school and ill forever be thankful. god bless

Answer 2

I think it is delightful! My dad was born when his siblings were 17 - 25 years older than he was, (menopause baby they called it) and he had 4 nephews and nieces older than or the same age as he was. They got along great, no problems, and they stayed best friends until they died awhile back (in the 90's). I know several people who became grandparents at 30 or so. No problem in that - something to be happy about actually! You will be young enough to do things that most older grandparents have a bit of trouble doing. You will also probably live long enough to enjoy great grandchildren and maybe even great greats! How awesome is that? I became a grandma at 48, but I could have easily become one at 35 - and it would have been a joy.
You can not be mad at them, as it is already done. No turning back the clock, so make the best of it and accept the situation with love. My son got his girlfriend pregnant as well. We took her in as her parents disowned her for the entire pregnancy (she is now back in their good graces after they stayed here for 2 years and then got married) and they married when our first grandchild was a bit over a year old, and they now have another son who was conceived a few months after the wedding. They are both great boys, and are loved the same by us - the fact of when they were conceived does not make a difference to us in the amount of love we feel for them. We are not poor or trash and we don't live in a trailer park either - nor are we wealthy. It happens to the poorest families and the richest ones as well. Oh well. And people who talk about it best watch themselves, as every one of the people who talked about us and our son ended up with the same thing in their family. What goes around comes around. Perfect justice. The ideal situation would have been marriage first (our daughter waited until marriage for sex, and their first child was born after 3 years of marriage), but like I said before, the time for that is passed, and now you have a precious baby on the way - actually two counting your own new arrival! A double celebration of new life. Congratulations, best wishes, and do not worry about being a grandparent, it really is a blessing.

Answer 3

Well 30 is young to be a grandparent but ... if it works for you go with it. Best of luck to you with the New Child and Grandchild!!! And FYI back in the day it wasn't that uncommon for people to be grandparents early my Great Grandmother was 30 when her first grandchild was born. So everyone should grow up and quit being so closed minded about other peoples life decisions

Answer 4

I'm not a grandparent. I made my parents young grandparents though. My mom was 36 and my dad was 39 when I had my first child. They loved the idea. I was 17 when I had my daughter. I think they supported me so much because of the man I was pregnant by. My parents knew we would take care of our baby together and by ourselves. I think it's awesome when grandparents accept a grandchild with open arms even when their child isn't considered an adult. My parents were 18 and 20 when I was born. It might be the fact that you and both my parents were young parents. Congrats on the grandson.

Answer 5

I'd feel kind of weird being a grandparent at a younger age that what is typical. However, you are still young enough to probably do more things with your grandchild (more active) and you get to spend more time with your grandchild because of the closeness in age. Good luck with everything. I'm sure it has honestly come as a shock, but what can you say...you're going to have a grandbaby! :)

You get the to be good guys! The grandparents!!! :) You don't have to do the disciplining anymore, just the fun stuff!

Don't pay attention to that idiot who made the comment about trailer parks...he's just jealous cause his little soldiers are probably broken! :)

Answer 6

You are worried about something you have no control over. What's done is done. We often create unnecessary problems for ourselves, especially ones we have no control over.

1. What you need to be thinking about is how will your son support this child, and will he support the child not just financially but emotionally as well?
2. What about your son finishing high school and going off the college?
I believe we are most have their priorities mixed up.
Not once you mentioned the above..Just me, me and me. I don't know if you realized this or not but there's another innocent life involved. If you don't want to hear the truth or others opinions don't post any questions if you aren't prepared to hear the truth!

And yes..if you are only 29 years old and going to be grandmother..It is a little hard to wrap around the brain cells.

Answer 7

Hey with a support system it will be ok, my cousin was 12 when she has her kid and he mom helped her raiser her my cousin got a masters degree and lives well but when her daughter was 14 she had a baby and she was like ok lets just handle this she said why get mad its not like you can change it and its not the babys fault and theres always room for more love and she was 26 when she became nana, felt weird cause I didn't even have a baby untill I was 29 and my cousin was a grandmom all ready but they all love and support each other so it can work with a great support system

Answer 8

Great question. I became a grandfather at the young age of 32. Then again, having 8 kids can do that to you. Not only was I the most proud grandfather on Earth, he was born on my birthday. I now have 11 grandkids with 2 more on the way and i'm still just as proud as I was with the first one. Hope you have bunches of them too. Larry.

Answer 9

All babies are a blessing. And many 17-year- olds are infinitely more mature than 40-year- olds, so what difference does age matter?

Think of it this way -- God made girls and boys mature around the age of 12. It's just a stupid American trend to attend school for a gazillion years before starting a family. If God says that humans can start reproducing by 12, then who are we to argue?

Answer 10

The age you become grandparents is just a number. I would try to help as much as I could but let them be the parent they have to learn the ropes and learn to make mistakes. I would not take it out on the child by not sitting the child or anything. And just think they will have playmates. Its no big deal it is what you make of it. If you make it out to be something bad that is what it will be if you make it out to be a good thing then it will be a good thing. just remember they are gonna need your love and attention. Dont lecture them just let them know you are there for them to talk to and that you are there for advice.

Answer 11

I think it is really neat to be young grandparents! I would give anything to be younger. I am a grandparent and babysit my 2 year old granddaughter and I would give anything to have the energy to keep up with her and a young back to carry her. What really surprised me is that you can love a grandchild as much as your own. Have fun! Those two babies will grow up together just like cousins.