Question for Ladies? (and men if you have a sensible comment)?

Question

Do you think you need a man to complete your lives, or do you think you could survive with good friends, close family, children without a man in your life? I'm not sure what I think, hence the question to get your views.

Just to be clear, I don't mean a life time of celibacy... just not a permanent man fixture in your life...

Answer 1

The latter. I truly believe a woman can honestly have a fulfilling and happy life without a man. What sucks is that we have society telling us females that we should be unhappy about almost EVERYTHING...about our weight, looks, and whatnot. If a woman learns that singleness is not associated with loneliness, she'll definitely have a peaceful and happy life. I'm only 22 and I choose to be single. It's awesome, but it's not easy--only because half the world thinks I should fall in love and be with a man. However, I take great pleasure in knowing that I can honestly be happy without a man in my life because my time and energy is spent on things that matter to me. My life ACTUALLY matters to me, so I'm content and enjoying every moment of my time here. Call me a cornball, but I'm being honest; )

Answer 2

Well if you dont chicken you run the risk of becoming the old woman at the end of the street with 20 cats for company. You cant rely on fam friends and kids. How many lonely old people have you seen. Your kids and grandkids wont be stable enough or even non existant without a good man to complete your life, in my opinion.

Answer 3

Of course its always nice to have someone in your life to share the good things and the bad but that person doesnt have to be a man as long as you have some good friends and your family arouind you there is no reason why you should have to have a man as a permanant fixture.
It really does'nt take that long to learn to cope on your own nothing is impossible and although some situations seem very daunting you will be able to cope and your self confidence will grow.

Answer 4

I think a man would enhance my life, but only if he's the right man. On the flip side, I don't feel like there's something missing from my life when I don't have a man. So could I survive without one? Hands down, but I don't know if I'd be as happy as I possibly could be.

Answer 5

Well I always got upset by women who felt like their lives didn't mean anything if they didn't have a man but now I am 26 and don't have a boyfriend and I really want that. I can make it on my own without one, but it would be nice to have one. I do have a potential prospect and I would probably feel more whole with a good boyfriend, but just because someone has a man doesn't mean they are happy and it doesn't mean they have a good man...You feel me?

Answer 6

Well, here is the thing...I don't its necessary to have a man to be happy and feel complete. There are so many aspects to one's life that make a person complete...there are friends, family, pets, hobbies, job, volunteer work, religion and etc. to make a person feel complete.

Yet, keep in mind that when you are in your teens and your twenties you are easily able to enjoy a life without a companion...especially when you have friends, hobbies, and etc. to keep you busy and happy. But overtime many women settle down and have kids, now if you happen to be single and happy at that time great...but surely when all your friends and family are settled with families of their own ...you may feel a little out of place when all your friends meet up with their families and you are the only one without a family of your own (kids and a hubby).

Another thing is ...I mean ...I told my parents I don't intend to get married...I think it is easier and much more fun to be single...especially in America. I mean in America, regardless of how old you are, you can always go on a date, make new friends, have pets and enjoy your life any which way you want. Furthermore, it is easier nowadays to have children without having a father present... and as long as you have enough money, friends and family to support you and you can live your life any which way you want. Furthermore, in regards to getting laid...its so much easier to get laid nowadays as well, especially with the internet. So, to answer your question, yes you can be single and be happy.

Answer 7

I love my husband of 34 years, but would not NEED him to complete my life if something happened. I also would not go out of my way to find another man. I am at a point in my life in that I have confidence, strength and high self esteem. I can handle any fix-it job around the house or on the vehicles that he can - in fact I have done so for the entire marriage. If something breaks, either one of us or both of us together will fix it, and he has no problem with that. Likewise he helps with laundry and dishes - and also cleans the bathroom. We are both independently capable of living our lives without a person to "complete" us. Granted, it is fabulous to have a companion who knows you as well as you know yourself, and we do, but it is not a necessary item in order to make it through life. When we were first married, we thought that we would just die if the other one left, as if our arms and legs had suddenly fallen off. We now know that life does go on and a person is complete because of who they are within, not because of some other person. Your partner loves you because of that unique and whole person within, as you love him or her for the same reason. That is what is most attractive - the strength, personality, compassion, and love of life. That does not go away if your partner does. So I would have to say I would be fine without a man in my life, as I am like a kaleidoscope within - many facets, and only a part of those facets involve a partner. I am an individual, not a half of a person. If I wanted to go out with a friend or a group, I could (and do so now). If I wanted to be with my children and grandchildren, that would work as well (as it does now). I have many hobbies and interests, and could join a club or just be by myself and thoroughly enjoy the day or evening (occasionally I have a wonderful evening by myself). My aunt has been without her husband for 38 years after he died of a brain tumor and she is very well adjusted and happy - went out for a bit and decided it was not for her, she feels fulfilled without the hassles of a man in her life as it seemed to complicate things instead of make it better (she had had her true love already and did not need a replacement when he died). Several friends lost their husbands either through divorce or death, and they also don't seem to care about finding a replacement - in fact they say they would not do so as they love their independence and stress free life too much!

Answer 8

From a male perspective, you dont need a man to make you happy, or a woman if that is what you prefer. Be selfish focus on yourself. There is nothing sexier than a woman who is strong-willed, determined, career-oriented, and learns how to take care of her appearance. Dress like you are a woman of this century and not of the oldest profession. If you have all those qualities, no man would be able to resist you. Until then live your life, travel, adventure, mystery, intrigue.

Answer 9

Human beings are relational creatures and in order to be 'at our best' we need to be in relationship with other human beings. It is the depth and intamacy ( not only sexual intamacy ) of these relationships that provide the emotional holding and support that are essential to a healthy emotional life, this extends to negating or minimising many mental health issues and somatic illnesses.

In the western sociatal view, as curently held, the most intimate relationship is that between partners, husband and wife remaining the 'norm' but changing to accepting other partner combinations,it is in this relationship where a true intamacy can be nourished.

Without this primary intimate relationship many people may feel that they have a part of them 'missing', this is not to say that we 'need' the other to fulfill aspects of ourselves that are missing / underdeveloped, rather a compliment to who we are. It may be that you could achieve some depth of intamacy in relationships that are wide spread, in terms of more than one person, but it is less likely.

I deliberately do not include children into the above as you do not mention them and this answer would be expended by a considerable mount.

Drop me a line if you want more or references to other materials.

Go Well.

Answer 10

As Gloria Stein-thingy once commented - A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicicyle.. No I don't think a man is necessary to complete your life. I think you need to be happy in yourself and love life. Love even at it's best is transitory and few people meet someone who will be there for them completely for life. I would rather be single than settle for just anyone.